I'm a recovered porn addict. Jerking off two times a day was my baseline for a long time. That was the number of times I had to jerk off to just scratch the itch, not to feel exceptionally good. However porn wasn't really enough for me. I spent close to 6000 dollars total on camgirls and e-whores over the course of my life. Most of it was while I was in a long-term-relationship with a very lovely girl.

I couldn't really get off to normal shit anymore, so my preferred content was being humiliated, getting money taken from me by girls, censored porn, gooning etc. Note that all of these fetishes are submissive in nature since I didn't really feel like I wanted to be dominant after paying women to see their feet.

If there was a competition on this subreddit about who is the biggest beta, I would be the alpha-beta.

Nofap

There's a lot of myths about not fapping. No, it doesn't increase testosterone in any significant way like many would claim (source 1, source 2). No it won't give you xray vision. Any positive effects you might experience is pretty much placebo, or you just being proud of the achievement of not jerking off.

"So then why even do it?" is a question that you might be asking yourself. "I thought that if I stopped jerking off, it'll help me achieve my goals."

You got it all upside down, my dear friend. You achieve your goals in order to stop jerking off.

I tried nofap streaks many times to get out of the porn addiction hell I was in, but I just couldn't bring myself to last longer than 2 or 3 days. Usually it'd all boil up and explode in an 8 hour jerking session where I paid 100s of dollars to online whores who were more than taking my hard earned cash. For the vast majority of people, simply telling yourself to stop doesn't work. There's a good chance you've already failed NNN if you attempted it this year.

Your environment

Much like all things that stem from the subconscious, they can't be controlled by conscious thought. Nobody ever cured his own depression by telling himself to stop being depressed.

For those of you who haven't heard this before - Vietnam war veterans were getting hooked on heroin over in Vietnam and there was a major concern in the US that as soon as the troops came back, millions of new druggies would hit the street. However to everyone's surprise, after they got back home and to their families and friends, their need for heroin disappeared. The drug wasn't the problem. It was the environment they were in. (source) It was the brain reaching for something stimulating in an environment of hostility, pain and fear. When they got back, there were suddenly more stimulating and better things around, the need for heroin was no longer there.

Masturbation addiction is a result of something else being wrong with your life. In this case it's usually boredom and/or loneliness. The addiction is just occupying free space in your mind. The way to kick it out it is by filling that space up with something more fulfilling. If you're suffering from porn/fapping addiction, take a look at the environment you're in. Do you spend your days at home, alone? Being bored or doing unfulfilling work? With nothing in your future to look towards to?

I've found that on days where I was out doing stuff, or I had my teeth deep in a project I was heavily invested in, jerking off didn't even cross my mind. I'd go days without really even feeling an urge to jerk off. When the more fulfilling thing disappeared however, I was back to my old vices.

The keys

First key to beating porn addiction :

You need to have a mission (or multiple missions) in life that you're heavily committed to all day / every day. You need a daily schedule where you work on your goals from the minute you wake up, until you go to sleep.

The gym is a good mission to have, however I'd recommend supplementing it with something else as well. When you've gone to the gym and boxed your food, don't let boredom take over. Your mission can be a business idea, a music career, anything productive.

Second key to beating porn addiction:

(This one might relate more to me than the general population since my addiction also included camgirls and basically paying for female attention)

You need to go out (yes physically) and talk to people in person *every day***. Talk to strangers, talk to your colleagues, flirt with chicks at bars.. it's very important you have a healthy relationship with socializing.**

Healthy relationship with jerking off

This will not completely eliminate your need to jerk off. That's a natural human bodily function, no matter what religion will try to convince you of. Porn is not very natural though and if you wanna stay away from it completely, more power to you.

This is what state I'm currently in: I jerk off every 3 days roughly, cause that's how often I usually have urges. It doesn't take 8 hours of edging to satisfy me, I'm done with the deed in 5 minutes. Sometimes I watch porn, sometimes I don't. When I do, it doesn't pull me into a rabbit hole any more, I'm still done in 5 minutes. I have to get back to building my dream life. Back to my projects I'm passionate projects, my friends and real life women. A huge upgrade to where I was just a few months ago.

TL;DR - Read the "The Keys" section