Crosspost "I’m a good father. A good husband. A good person." from /r/TrueOffMyChest:

And I will no longer allow you to make me feel like I’m not.

I’m the one the gets up with the kids at night. For medicine if they are sick. For bedding changes if there is an accident. For cuddles if they have a nightmare. I make their breakfast every day. I make their lunches for school. I take them and pick them up. I ensure their homework is done and understood. I’m the one that cooks their dinner. Makes sure they shower. Make sure they have gifts for birthdays and holidays. The one they go to when they need help? That’s me too. I’m the one that does all of that and so much more.

I’m also the one that would drive you to and from work if you were tired. Bought you gifts just because. Took the blame when you would blow up the bathroom. I was the one that supported you when you were at your lowest. Encouraged you to strengthen your relationship with your dad. Took care of the house so you could advance your career. Cancelled coffee dates with my dad so you could rest. I sacrificed for you willingly and lovingly because my only goal was to make you happy.

I even told you that if I couldn’t make you happy tell me. And we could go our separate ways with no animosity.

I’m the one that bought all the gifts for years in a row. Including mine. I’m the one that said I must be on the naughty list because you didn’t tell me you weren’t buying me gifts the first year. I covered for you. I enabled you.

I communicated my needs. And made sure to adjust to address yours. When you cheated in 2021 you told me it’s because you didn’t feel needed or wanted. So the entire family made it a point to tell you how important you are to us. How we need you. I offered to open up the relationship for you because you said you liked the attention. When I caught you being inappropriate again over messages I told you again we could open the relationship as long as you communicated and asked if you were feeling wanted. You said you were good, just liked the attention.

So what did you say when l caught you fucking some flight instructor in the car yesterday? You felt smothered. Too needed. You couldn’t have time for yourself. Conveniently ignoring you have been pursuing your hobbies for months now while I took care of the kids.

Bull fucking shit. You are the one responsible for this. You are the one that didn’t communicate. You are the one that repeatedly chose to lie. You are the one that went to your affair partners house yesterday and stay all night when your kids needed you.

You abandoned them. That’s how they feel. They needed you and you choice yourself over them. You showed them first hand how selfish you are.

It wasn’t you making plans to cheat when my grandma died. It wasn’t telling you I needed you this thanksgiving, the first without my dad and you ignoring me to text your affair partner. It wasnt any of the other transgression you committed. No it was the kids. And seeing the kids, our kids, MY kids hurt that badly over your selfishness changed something. All I feel towards you is apathy.

I deserve better. I am worth more. It’s better to be single than be in this toxic relationship any longer. I’m done.

By this time next year I will be in a much better place. Emotionally. Spiritually. Mentally. And the kids will be too.

Posted by DosTruth | 26 November 2022 | Link