If Women are the prize, then what do I get?

dogsmoking · 2022-12-19T03:43:28+00:00

Happiness is the prize, not either sex extracting whatever they can from each other and measuring it against some arbitrary list.

whitehunter22 · 2022-12-19T14:22:46+00:00

of course men and women are a prize to each other. they are complementary.

PathfireNeon · 2022-12-19T09:44:53+00:00

your “prize” is not a person. the bond, or relationship, or connection to your partner is the prize.

_angeoudemon_ · 2022-12-19T15:35:04+00:00

I've met a few beautiful couples in my life. They are so in love and giddy with each other that I never once got the impression one of them was the "prize" and the other wasn't.

When you're in a healthy marriage, I think the concept of "prize" is in the eye of the beholder. When you both feel like you are blessed every day, you've both received a prize. :)

Therandomderpdude · 2022-12-19T17:46:26+00:00

I never liked that phrase. I believe a relationship is a companionship. Both women and men need to have a clear idea of what qualities they seek out in a preferred partner. Both people are the price.

But I do believe it is important; especially for a woman; ESPECIALLY if you want to have children in the future.

You do not want to be put in a situation where you have a man that is not a good partner for you and your family, and vice versa.

Same goes for men; ^

But it’s important regardless to choose a partner that is at the same level of values/self improvement goals as yourself to have a good relationship. Or else you’ll end up feeling miserable and stuck.

JunkDrawerExistence · 2022-12-19T06:37:28+00:00

I'm going to get philosophical and rambly.

Women are the prize, and we get polished and spoiled and taken care of. We have to be a worthy prize. However, men are the ones that earn the prize and are the true champions. Think of it...a trophy is actually worth nothing. (Not saying women are worth nothing). But it's value is earned by the person who accomplished the thing. Men have the true value, in a sense, and a woman gets to be the physical reminder, the trophy, of all the things he earns and does and accomplishes. When she is radiant- he has done well. When she is taken care of - he has succeeded. He works to become great enough to show off his trophy. When she is happy - he has won. He's the champion, the real prize - we get to show his talents off.

A_cureforshyness · 2022-12-19T03:34:34+00:00

Men are definitely the prize. They work harder to become attractive to the opposite sex. They make the world go round…literally and figuratively.

When we understand that men are the prize and find him, look how naturally we become in our feminine.

RedPillDad · 2022-12-20T22:32:16+00:00

The relationship is the prize. When either starts thinking of themselves as the prize, things tend to go sideways. Neither is it sustainable when lopsided, with one side treating the other as a prize but that admiration rarely being reciprocated.

I'm married 40+ with 5 kids and figured out years ago that the marriage was #1, not the kids. By taking care of each other, we could handle anything that might come our way.

I ran a business where I made team and culture #1, not the customer, not profit and certainly not myself. I never used the words 'boss' or 'employee', always the word 'team'. My team was geared towards performance and making customers happy. That's how we won as a team, which by the end of the day made us happy. Profit was a natural byproduct of working with our hearts, minds and hands engaged.

I treated culture at work as a living, breathing thing. Same applies to a relationship and marriage. Protect it, nurture it, and you will thrive together.

pearlspirit27 · 2022-12-19T18:01:43+00:00

Wholesome

LateralThinker13 · 2022-12-19T17:42:39+00:00

I have a long history of dating bummy guys because I thought the most important thing was just to be claimed by a guy; to be his "prize." I focused so much on what my "value" was as a "prize" and equated it to how many guys wanted me regardless of the quality of the guy. I was constantly cheated on and found it hard to actually lock down a relationship because I did not understand that for men, sex does not equal love. I literally used to think that if a guy wanted to have sex with me then he must want me to be his girlfriend....how naive.

If you make a relationship all about a goal - whether it's the wedding, the ring, or being 'the prize' - you're going to be disappointed immediately after that goal is achieved.

Relationships are about an ongoing process, a journey.

Are women the prize, or are men? Or are we a prize to each other?

Neither. I wouldn't objectify either person in a relationship like that. You're a cherished companion, not a prize.

CellularOhio9 · 2022-12-22T23:11:01+00:00

It’s almost like no one read the last sentence 😂. “Or are we a prize to each other?” That’s essentially the same as saying that the relationship itself if the prize….

AutoModerator · 2022-12-19T03:13:41+00:00

Title: If Women are the prize, then what do I get?

Full text: Hi, this is my first post in the subreddit! Just wanted to share some general thoughts that led me here and to pick your brains about it. For example, I never liked the idea that women were the prize. If I'm the prize, then what do I get?

I have a long history of dating bummy guys because I thought the most important thing was just to be claimed by a guy; to be his "prize." I focused so much on what my "value" was as a "prize" and equated it to how many guys wanted me regardless of the quality of the guy. I was constantly cheated on and found it hard to actually lock down a relationship because I did not understand that for men, sex does not equal love. I literally used to think that if a guy wanted to have sex with me then he must want me to be his girlfriend....how naive.

I have recently found myself in the best relationship of my life. We started the vetting process two years ago (dating; not in a relationship) and have been officially in a relationship for about 8 months. I have never had a guy take over a year to vet me to be his girlfriend. This man knows his value and values his ability to mold his life according to what brings him peace. He had to be sure that I was compatible before committing to me. We have such shared interests and goals. There is also a 15-year age gap, I'm 28 and he is 42 which I think works in our favor.

I have found my prize once and for all. I've never felt this way about a man in my life. I want to do everything for him. When he makes a mess at the kitchen table I'm happy to clean it for him. When he's hungry I'm excited to cook for him. I want him to need me and I'm motivated to cater to him. He refuses to let me work more than part-time and refuses to let me pay more than 30% of our expenses. For him, he says that I bring him peace and he knows that he can depend on me to follow through on what needs to be done. Considering the current state of dating he also feels lucky to have found someone to cooperate and join in on his plan. We stay focused on our shared interests so we reach our goal of living abroad in Spain one day. I don't want for anything in our relationship, he is everything to me and more.

So what do you all think? Are women the prize, or are men? Or are we a prize to each other?

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dressedindignity · 2022-12-19T14:08:30+00:00

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HollyAcers · 2022-12-27T21:26:36+00:00

Both men and women are the prize to be honest as long as it is a synergist relationship. congrats on the relationship with your man, age gap relationships are sometimes so much better!

Title	If Women are the prize, then what do I get?
Author	CellularOhio9
Upvotes	25
Comments	29
Date	December 19, 2022 3:13 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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