Why is having a preference for a virgin or low n-count partner looked down upon ?

Mrs_Drgree · 2022-12-30T15:29:11+00:00

Temporary Moratorium on N count threads.

Barneysparky · 2022-12-30T15:17:16+00:00

Have whatever standard you want, but when you decide to broadcast it you don't get to tell people how to respond.

Easy as that.

warramite · 2022-12-30T15:31:19+00:00

Women feel entitled to attention from men they find attractive due to all the offers they get from men, so when a guy refuses her because of a permanent unchangeable trait (body count) she gets offended and resorts to Ad Hominem attacks

You don't need to have the qualities you're looking for in a partner at all... Women want tall men, men want shorter women, sexual dimorphism

TheGenuineOne21121 · 2022-12-30T15:28:40+00:00

The issue isn’t who you’re talking to.. it’s ALL the people you are excluding

I don’t see anything wrong with wanting a partner low in “soul ties”

BiodegradableOffense · 2022-12-30T15:29:11+00:00

Women look down on it because of some imagined victimization/"predatory practices".

The society as a whole follows the whims of women.

Muscletov · 2022-12-30T15:29:28+00:00

Men are always criticized for any and all standards they have.

Caetraaa · 2022-12-30T15:13:27+00:00

I'm a virgin and I think fetishizing virginity is incredibly creepy.

If you're a virgin and only want to marry a virgin your own age as some sort of religious thing, that hits different, but if you're 40 looking for a 17 yo virgin that's creepy in my view

Redpillisposion · 2022-12-30T15:15:27+00:00

I have no problem if you're a man seeking a low n-count/virgin partner if you're low n-count/virgin yourself. As a low n-count woman, I think it's disgusting when a man whore seek low n-count women. I don't believe a man who has a lot of sexual partners is going to be faithful.

A man whore should stick with a woman whore.

No-Rough-7390 · 2022-12-30T15:26:27+00:00

Because the women who don’t fall under that umbrella do not want to admit they fucked up. If body count didn’t matter, then no one would in innately care. Men wouldn’t ask when a woman cheats if it was any good like women ask a guy if he loves the woman.

As much as we wanna say the body count thing is overblown, I don’t think the main narrative (which typically serves women) would be so focused on a woman’s past not mattering if a big chunk didn’t already know they have some damage they have to account for.

hypotenoos · 2022-12-30T15:27:59+00:00

It’s not usually the preference itself, it’s the various reasons or justifications for the preference that get criticized.

Lift_and_Lurk · 2022-12-30T15:20:42+00:00

Because it’s a strange ass old idea from an old ass time. It’s like going “why do people look down on my leaches and bleeding treatments?” Or “how come my exorcism classes are considered strange?”

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darksoul1622 · 2022-12-30T16:13:25+00:00

Okay as someone from a culture where virginity and chastity is expected I will give you my opinion.

Look the reason it is looked down upon is that the culture in the west has destigmatize casual sex also the custom in west ( here I mean western Europe and north America) is for men to try to date and court women flirting and asking women out on a date publicly and spending time alone with her is something that is acceptable in the west going back to the 19th century and also the general liberal views of women and women joining the work force, all these circumstances makes it damm near impossible for women to avoid men on her day to day life and the encouragement and social status men get for trying to sleep with women generally means that a woman unless she is completely shut in, socially awkward or has something seriously wrong with her it is a matter of time before she sleeps with someone, it is simply not realistic to expect women ignore their sexual desires which they have just as men have, especially when men tempting and pressuring them into sex is something that is completely acceptable and even encouraged.

The response I hear most often is "Do you hold yourselves to the same standards ?" Although I get the intent of this response, it still doesn't change the fact that if a man has a preference for a low n-count woman to settle with, he has every right to reject the high n-count woman despite his own n-count.At worse, he is reducing his own dating options if women see through his hypocrisy. As long as he's being honest and respectful about it, he has every right to reject her and find the partner he wants to.

But you see it is a problem because not holding yourself to that standard and most men in your society to also not hold themselves to that standard will mean that woman will also not be able to hold themselves to that standards people can have any preference they want so long as it's reasonable when it becomes unreasonable them people naturally look down at it, also virgins expect virginity from their partners as well yes unicorns who are both virgins and love fuckboys exist but are not the rule.

If women can have the standards for height, finances, fitness level and what not. Does a man who has standards for a virginity or promiscuity become evil ?

Because women standards here are reasonable height and fitness level are related to attractiveness and is something reasonable to want to be attracted to your partner and finance is is arguably one of the most important things in a relationship nothing kills a relationship faster then bad finance and poverty also these standards ( attractiveness and wealth) are standards men have as well, but virginity is considered unrealistic because they don't hold themselves to these standards, now of course no one will fault you for not dating a prostitute or someone who slept with a 100 person but to expect virgins in a culture that encourages men to sleep around yeah that's an unrealistic standard.

Title	Why is having a preference for a virgin or low n-count partner looked down upon ?
Author	CoachNeat5724
Upvotes	5
Comments	55
Date	December 30, 2022 3:09 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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