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smh women out here swiping on fuckboys but still expect good dude treatment. Women, don't complain about jerks disrespecting you when you reject dudes who DO respect you for not being a smooth-talking Chris Hemsworth.

kevin32

December 23, 2022

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Title	smh women out here swiping on fuckboys but still expect good dude treatment. Women, don't complain about jerks disrespecting you when you reject dudes who DO respect you for not being a smooth-talking Chris Hemsworth.
Author	kevin32
Upvotes	179
Comments	55
Date	December 23, 2022 3:57 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen/comments/ztkbnw/smh_women_out_here_swiping_on_fuckboys_but_still/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen/smh-women-out-here-swiping-on-fuckboys-but-still.1145972 https://theredarchive.com/post/1145972

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The Story of Heidi

In an apartment complex that I lived in Houston, there was a loose knit collection of about 10-15 singles. We would meet at the pool on the weekends, and have informal parities. If one person knew of a singles event, they would inform the rest, and whoever wanted could attend. I even dated one of the girls in the group for a short time.

In the group, was an attractive girl named Heidi. She was a degreed professional in the oil business. And you couldn’t miss her. She was 5’11”, blonde hair, with blue eyes. Typical for a tall girl, she didn’t have much up top, but she have broad curvy hips and an hour glass waist. She, needless to say, she got the attention of single men.

One Saturday, I was catching rays and drinking beer with some of the other guys at the apartment complex pool, when one man I knew walked up to the group of us. He stated he had proposed to Heidi, and she had turned him down. He approached us in the off chance that someone might know Heidi and put the good word in for him with her. Months later, I was at my section’s pool of the apartment complex. There was a water polo game in progress, one man about 10 feet away me on my left, was playing boom box, and about 10 feet in the other direction were two girls from the group talking about how Heidi had rejected two other men's marriage proposals. I wasn’t getting all the details of the conversation due to noise at the pool and that fact I didn’t really care, so I don’t know if the two girls were jealous of Heidi getting the attention of these two men, or if these women were mocking these men as losers, due to Heidi rejecting them. But the point here is not only was Heidi getting the attention of single men, but marriage proposals.

Fast forward 12 years, one child and one divorce later on my part. A friend wanted me to join a dating agency. He would get a bonus if I joined, and I could join at a discount. I said before I join, I wanted to see what the single girls in the agency look like. I was given a binder of women 30-34 years of age. In the binder were pages of women. At the top of the page, in about 1 inch high letters was the girl's name, then below that a 2"x3" photo of her and below that 3 or 4 paragraphs that she wrote of herself. I started looking, when I got to page 7 or 8, I noticed the name Heidi. I took a good look, and it was her. I quickly scanned her paragraphs. I remembered a phrase of one sentence, it read, “34 years old, never married, no children.” I thought how could this be? I knew of three men who wanted to marry her, and in the 12 years that had passed there must have been more. How was it possible she never married given all the advantages she had? What dating parameters did she employ that failed her so miserably that resulted in her being never married given all the physical advantages she had?

In a social setting, if she were not the most desirable girl, she certainly was one of the more desirable girls. And I am here to tell you Heidi could have had absolutely any man she wanted, and I mean absolutely any man. If a poll had been taken by the single men in the complex of who would be most likely single at the age of 34, I am here to tell you Heidi’s name would not have been at the top of the list. What had she done with her life? How was it possible she never married? Did she think at the age of 34, she would have a bigger and better selection of single males than when she was 24?

I suspect in her 20's, she had a male qualification list as long as her inseam, and if a male were lacking any one of these parameters, he was immediately rejected. She kept saying no to men, until there were no men to say no, to.

I also suspect that all during her early years, she was used to getting plenty of male attention, and assumed her future would be like her past. Why would it change? In her years 17-26, she most likely was the crème de la crème of women. But as she entered her late 20’s, much to her dismay, there were lots of younger girls, many prettier and more approachable, meaning shorter. At 5’11”, she was taller than 99% of the women, 80% of the men and at 28 years of age, older than 90% of both men and women in a single’s bar. She stood out like a sore thumb due to her height and age.

How her story ends? I don’t know. I didn’t join the dating agency. But it was Heidi’s actions and Heidi’s actions alone that made her single. I bet never in her worse nightmare, did she ever think she would be childless and single at the age of 34. She wasted her youth and fertility using extremely flawed dating parameters that she created and imposed on herself and refused to change in spite of years of obvious failure. I can’t say for sure, but I will bet a dollar to a dime, she was a heightist, which made her prospects to find a man even harder.

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[–]InevitableOwl1Swipes with a dictionary in hand 9 points10 points11 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Some recent app browsing has shown me that apart from the obvious (single mothers) they are full of women near over 30 who are 5’8” and above.

You can bet that they will only consider men 6’0” and over. And just don’t realise that there aren’t enough of them (especially not willing to settle). And that they aren’t proportionally matched off with taller than average girls anyway

It is on an app with very limited matches per day so I don’t even waste my messages on them. And I expect many guys are the same. There is even a prompt (hinge) for “You should message me if” - and I was tempted to say “you are taller than me because let’s face it 90% of the time it would be a waste of one of my messages”. But that is obviously so negative and a really bad plan. And wouldn’t work!

I can only assume that these taller women really do think there is an equal proportion of single, relationship minded taller men for them out there

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The long reply by the short woman is almost more interesting to me that the OP. She has quite the persecution complex. I have to wonder, though, what kind of neighborhood does she inhabit where getting openly sexual comments is an everyday occurrence?

I'm not buying it: guys at her gym are not cat-calling her. I'm a hard core gym rat and I've never seen a guy do that even once. The grocery store? The bank? Yeah.. I'm not buying that, either.

But if she wants to talk about who gets treated like an object, she should replicate the "living like a man" experiment from, "Self-Made Man." A non-Chad man is basically a wrench: ignored until you're needed, then tossed back in the toolbox once you've served your purpose... and easily replaced if you break. Like Jessica Valenti whining about the fact that the cat-calls stopped when she got older, she would miss the validation she claims to hate like an addict misses heroin.

But maybe her real problem is that when you hang out with scummy people in scummy places, scummy things happen. I can guarantee that nobody would be grabbing her ass if she was in church rather than in bars.

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You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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