Virgin shaming can be just as harmful, if not more, than slut shaming.

Slut shaming has received so much attention in the past ten years. Feminists keep arguing that promiscuous women should not be judged and they act like there's a double standard favoring promiscuous men over promiscous women (there's not. it's actually more nuanced than that).

Feminists argued that slut shaming is more common or it causes more problems. They argue it leads to women being killed. No it doesn't. Hardly ever does a woman in the Western world get killed for having sex with tons of people. And while there are honor killings in Muslim countries, most murder victims there are men and honor killings don't happen nearly as much as the media says. In fact, a third of honor killing victims are men, sometimes because he impregnated a woman out of wedlock and was killed by her family. The vast majority of people there don't kill a woman for promiscuity. It's not as common as the media says.

And nor is slut shaming more common than virgin shaming. Virgin shaming is very common, and is widely ignored. People often say virgin as an insult (and no, it's not an insult only high schoolers use you stupid dolts) and if a man disagrees with a feminist, people assume he's a virgin nowadays. And now, virgin men are used as a new folk devil by the media for terrorism, and a heavily flawed study recently concluded that inexperienced men who cannot find a partner are often misogynous or pro-rape, but the methodology was heavily flawed.

Virgin shaming is more unfair than slut shaming.

The worst part is: virgin shaming is more unfair than slut shaming. Promiscous people are judged for a behavior they willingly chose to engage in and could've easily refrained from. And while there are virgins who wait until marriage or for the right person, there's many virgins who wanted to have sex but it never could happen. Those virgins are ridiculed for an unwanted struggle they have no control for (or struggle to figure out how to maintain control over). They have no idea how to get themselves out of their situation and it's a struggle they never wanted. Many of them might even be autistic, a disability that, unless you can mask really well, impairs your social skills and it's a disability you have no control over. Some could even have extreme social anxiety disorder or were social outcasts growing up. In fact, many adult virgins reported being bullied and ostracized growing up and reported poorer social lives as adults. As a result, virgin shaming can be us ridiculing people over problems that come from being bullied/ostracized and failing to integrate socially with their peers (which deters opportunities for dating) or from a neurodevelopmental/social disability, through no fault of their own. These people are just were unable to ever find a partner, even if they tried. Many did try but failed, and the ones who didn't only didn't try simply because they struggled with severe love-shyness or social phobia (which isn't a choice, otherwise nobody would be shy, and overcoming it is often hard), which could often result from being bullied or even abused. They didn't have the ability easily to try and deliberately decided not to.

The harm of virgin shaming

Virgin shaming doesn't directly cause rape, because multiple studies consistently show that rapists do have consensual sex and have far more sex partners than most men do, but indirectly it does. The reason rapists had so many consensual sex partners wasn't due to high libido but their belief they need to be as sexually experienced as possible to be "real" men. Contrary to popular belief, rape is not about power and control over women. It's a myth made up by second wave feminists. In fact, rapists are typically about sexual gratification, and usually don't even consider themselves rapists. They usually think what they did was mere seduction. They often perceived themselves as unsuccessful with women despite lots of mating success due to their exceptionally high aspirations about how experienced they must be. They can be really successful and view themselves as no more successful than a struggling male virgin. They often were hypersensitive to rejection, and that's the problem. This recently flawed study I debunked said that unwanted celibacy was linked to misogyny or pro-rape attitudes, but they just asked men to measure how successful they are with dating instead of measuring their objective levels of experience, and recruited many self-identified incels from incel forums (and most male virgins don't identify as incel due to the controversy over the word). Experienced men who think they're unsuccessful because they believe they need to go through zero dry spells or have no rejections might score high on unwanted celibacy as a result. In fact, a lot of evidence has shown that peer pressure to have sex motivated many rapists.

If a man sees himself as unattractive to women and he's misogynistic, he's probably some successful guy who is just hypersensitive to rejection and exaggerates his lack of success because he had a very brief dry spell or a 1% rejection rate. Men who are actually unsuccessful aren't misogynistic, with multiple studies showing virgin men were not more misogynistic and were less prone to rape.

Putting pressure on men to have sex, be chick magnets, have a girlfriend and attract any woman does a lot of harm to men and inflicts a lot of stress on them, to the point where people just wonder why there are men who hate women who reject them or think women are obliged to date them. This is why. This is what motivates sexually aggressive men. Virgin men usually aren't sexually violent, so virgin shaming doesn't directly cause this, but indirectly it does because it contributes to people's pressure they put on men to have sex or be good at attracting women. People don't put pressure on women to be dude magnets because women are expected to be automatically attract men since men pursue women, giving women options and men no options, so it's considered up to men to attract the opposite sex and figure it out.

Yeah people might use slut shaming as a justification for rapists, but without slut shaming, they can use plenty of other justifications, but pressure on men to have sex causes them to engage in this behavior of sexual crime to begin with.