I just read this over at r/Parenting about a 9 year old who was punched in the testicles and the girl has not been punished yet. The comments seem pretty balanced, but some made my blood boil.

Pecanpig · 2013-09-12T17:25:35+00:00

As was mentioned in the comments, I think this is largely the by-product of young boys and girls being taught that a guy getting hit in the testicles is funny by the media. This issue, for me, is one of the bigger issues that the MRM has to tackle, because we're raising a generation of girls that thinks hitting boys is ok, or even funny. I went through the same shit when I was in school, and I'm disgusted that boys are still subjected to it.

chocoboat · 2013-09-12T17:08:44+00:00

The comments look pretty supportive to me.

This sounds like it's just a case of a poorly trained teacher who is making a mistake and doesn't understand that an assault like this is more than the typical pushing and shoving you see everyday. Hopefully the parent will elevate the situation and get it taken care of in an appropriate way.

throwawayroy · 2013-09-12T16:56:34+00:00

The reason I thought of posting it here, is because apparently when the boy reported it to his teacher, he/she said that he (the boy) had no proof and nothing was done. Even after several witnesses confirmed the boy's story it still seems as if the girl hasn't been punished. The mother is rightfully upset because she feels if the roles were reversed, her son would have been suspended or worse with out any proof "needed."

Everything_Is_Rape · 2013-09-12T22:54:34+00:00

why isn't this being treated as a sexual assault? It was not voluntary, it was assault, it involved sex organs...what's the difficult question here?

If boys are freely allows to rub their testicles on women with such enthusiasm that the boy needed to put ice on them afterward (probably because it 'hurt so good') then rape culture wins again.

Where is this boy going to rub his testicles next? A girls foot? A knee? A baseball bat? It's clear who the victim is here. Feminism.

2013-09-12T21:35:09+00:00

Can we please stop calling this a sexual assault? Sure, it might fit it by the letter of the law, but it's clearly its own thing separate from normal sexual assault cases. Calling it out as a sexual assault is disingenuous unless you're suggesting that charges should be brought under that term.

Translation: "It's not sexual assault if it's kids doing it."

2013-09-13T00:14:29+00:00

Oh god, this always brings me back to when I was hurt and bullied by both girls and boys, men and women. Even now, as a thirty-five year old, I've yet to see society offer any sort of support for what the girls and women did to me versus what the boys and men did to me. Worse, the former is elevated as "Girl Power" with movies, TV shows, and even books showing strong female characters abusing and insulting the men and boys in those shows. Then I wonder why I just don't kill myself instead every time.

Sigh

I just want girls to be punished when they hurt boys on an equal level when boys hurt girls. That's all. Am I crazy and sexist thinking so?

aswilliams92 · 2013-09-13T01:16:09+00:00

In middle school I got into a fight with a girl, she didn't believe I would fight back. She hit first and I Kicked. Her. Ass. Didn't even get in trouble for it, she started it. If I ever have children, I'll teach them that if someone hits you, you hit them back, and harder!

Nutz76 · 2013-09-13T03:48:18+00:00

In case OP gets deleted:

Sorry for the long post... I got a phone call from his school, 5 missed calls in 7 minutes and one message. I freaked. I checked my answering machine and all I hear is my son saying "mommy please call me back as soon as you can", click. I call the school and the receptionist has no idea, I don't know she says, he's not in the office. I said, maybe the clinic? He did not sound well...So she puts me on hold and someone else picks up.

"Oh, he was hit in his privates earlier in the day and we thought he was fine, but as the day went on he was having trouble walking..." So I asked to speak to him and she said since they could not reach me that she sent him back to class, the missed calls were 7 minutes prior. Since it was literally 10 minutes until dismissal I told her just have him get on the bus to his after school program and I would get him from there.

When I picked him up from his after school program, he told me what happened. They were sitting in the hall before school waiting for the teachers to open their doors, having a regular conversation with a girl who is in the class next door when all of the sudden she reaches out and grabs and yanks his testicles, lets go and then punches him right in the same spot. I asked him what he did and he said he ran to the bathroom, he cried, and then when the bell rang he went and informed his teacher as to what happened.

The little girl denied it, and the teacher told him since it was his word against hers, she would not believe him unless he had proof. Luckily for him, there were witnesses and they vouched for him. I checked out his testicles and they did not look swollen, but he is walking funny and they are a bit bruised. I called his doctor and was told if the pain was severe to go to the ER, otherwise just keep him iced and give him Advil.

I emailed his teacher and the dean asking for a meeting to discuss all the issues. If the roles were reversed, I'm pretty sure that my son would be suspended at least and I don't think that the girl would have to "prove" anything to the teacher. I'm beyond frustrated and angry with the school, I should have gotten a call that morning when it happened, not later in the day when he was in so much pain he couldn't walk normally and then not even an official phone call...

He is out today, missing class because he is still walking funny and in pain. I will be meeting with the school officials, although I'm not sure when.

I guess I'm just wondering if I'm overreacting here? I feel that it's a complete double standard that if a boy did this to a girl, it would be a huge deal and when it happens the other way around it's just brushed off...

TL;DR My son was grabbed and punched in the testicles in the school, and I didn't even get a phone call until he could barely walk later in the day.

gizmo1411 · 2013-09-13T01:34:06+00:00

the ones calling for filing charges i think are pushing it, these are 9 year olds, but i do agree that she should go in and rip the school a new asshole for the way it handled the situation in the first place, especially that teacher

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kragshot · 2013-09-12T23:34:43+00:00

The folks who keep calling it "sexual assault" are going overboard.

While the girl needs to be disciplined for what she did; it was because she was a kid and kids do fucked up shit. She probably saw some guy get kicked down there on TV and went from there, not really realizing how dangerous it really is.

The real bad guys in this scenario were the school staff who brushed the whole thing off as if it was not a big deal. I'm betting that there wasn't a single male teacher or administrator involved in the situation. If there was a male involved, he most likely would have at least taken the little guy's pain seriously.

2013-09-12T17:10:15+00:00

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