I am a shitlord.

matt_512 · 2013-08-14T03:28:35+00:00

white male privilege

There are two common ways this term is used.

"Why don't black people just stop breaking the law, then they would be equal to whites." "No, blacks are gone after by being sentenced more harshly, as well as by being profiled when looking for criminals. The amount of crime isn't the whole story. That's white privilege." This is the correct way to use the term privilege, to point out that your experience differs from that of others, and that such differences may not be obvious to you.
"Shut up, you're a white male and therefore have no say." This is a common way it is used, and is a way to shame and/or silence people. They might be more polite about it, depending.

Theophagist · 2013-08-14T08:57:03+00:00

No one hates women. I am personally convinced that the entire concept is bullshit.

notsurehowtofeels · 2013-08-14T01:55:52+00:00

Addendum: I've been discussing this with older and successful women, and they're echoing the same sentiment with a gender swap.

CMOS222 · 2013-08-14T05:29:03+00:00

A great way to respond to the 'white male privilege' canard:

"Gee, you know what? Now that I think about it, as a white male, I do feel pretty privileged. In fact, the more I think about it, this feels pretty good. After all, it's not everyone who can be white and male, right? And you must think being white and male makes me pretty special as well, otherwise why would you put so much importance on it. Thanks for making me feel better about myself. Sorry your not white and male, too, but...have a nice day anyway!" :-)

Drives them up the wall.

Dronelisk · 2013-08-14T02:55:17+00:00

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notsurehowtofeels · 2013-08-14T19:07:36+00:00

There are few male social workers partly because men are shamed by other men out of doing it, telling them it is for pussies or women. I personally know male social work majors who have experienced this and I actively see non stem major shaming on reddit. We desperately need male social workers, there are so few that you would be at a great advantage for hiring if you were to become one. Anyone interested or with questions feel free to pm me. Social work offers great avenues to help men. I have worked with men who are veterans, homeless, and young men without parents. You can really make a difference. Sorry I don't usually post here but I really think the message needs to be out there about social works need for men.

factorygrrrl · 2013-08-14T18:18:56+00:00

My lawyer - a man My counselor - a woman My counselor - a man The majority of my best friends - men and women My landlord -a man

I don't think it's great help to make lists like that. I understand you are venting but you come across as a person who will blame everyone but yourself before taking responsibility for your own life and the clallenges therein.

afishwithoutabicycle · 2013-08-14T16:41:58+00:00

White male privilege doesn't actually mean that your life will be perfect if you are a white male. It means you don't actively or unconsciously suffer from racism or sexism. It means that you have benefits, whether you notice them or not, because you are part of a certain group.

White privilege means that you do inherently benefit from being white. Unfortunately racism is still widespread.

Some ways that you can see white privilege: the majority of tv/movie characters being white; not having people feel frightened or threatened when you and a group of white friends are walking down the street; not being racially profiled; bandaids or other products labelled "flesh colour" (meaning "white") are the standard; you can make a mistake and not have it explained as being because of your skin colour; in symbolic imagery white means good/pure, and black means bad/damaged; you don't have to fight or protest for equal rights; you can't be called a racial slur that has a widespread and systemic history of violence and hate behind it.

Male privilege means that you inherently benefit from being male. Unfortunately, sexism is also still widespread today.

Some ways you can see male privilege: the majority of tv/movie characters are male; your odds are higher to be hired for a job; when you are hired people will presume it is because of your qualifications, and won't assume it's because a certain amount of "minorities" were required; you are far less likely to face sexual harassment or assault; if you make a mistake it is not assumed to be because of your sex; when you choose to have sex you won't suffer from slut shaming; your value as a person is not reduced to your appearance; in co-ed spaces you are likely to have your voice heard more than people of a different sex; if you are upset it won't be dismissed as "that time of the month".

Having privilege doesn't mean all your problems are automatically solved or that you don't have to work for the things you want.

Some links that may help:

http://www.amptoons.com/blog/files/mcintosh.html

http://amptoons.com/blog/the-male-privilege-checklist/

http://michaelurbina.com/101-everyday-ways-for-men-to-be-allies-to-women/

Title	I am a shitlord.
Author	notsurehowtofeels
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Date	August 14, 2013 1:21 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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