My SO is pregnant and wants to abort the pregnancy. I am against it but don't know what to do. How can I stop her killing my child? [X-Post from AskReddit]

ChokinMrElmo · 2013-07-04T18:43:52+00:00

I'm assuming you've, y'know, talked to her? If you express your desire for fatherhood to her, and she still doesn't want a child, that's pretty much it, man.

giegerwasright · 2013-07-04T17:23:28+00:00

While I believe that the father's desire should not be dismissed altogether, I can't in good conscience really justify forcing a person to gestate a fetus and give birth if that is against their intentions.

Here's what you should do. Split the cost with her. Break up with her. Have this conversation before you knock someone up next time.

Lawtonfogle · 2013-07-04T16:55:29+00:00

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brojangles · 2013-07-05T00:51:43+00:00

It's not your fucking business. You don't have a "child." If you don't like it, too fucking bad. You don't get to control somebody else's body. You have no legal rights here. You are losing nothing. You have no claim. Deal with it.

Mr_Rivers · 2013-07-04T16:37:38+00:00

I think it matters hugely WHY she doesn't want to have the child. If it is a matter of the pregnancy, then I feel there is litle you can do. It is her body after all.

If it is responsibility of the child afterwards, it depends what your situation is with her, if you are willing to stay with her even after she has aborted your child. If you are not, tell her you are willing to take full custody of the kid and walk away from her.

robak69 · 2013-07-04T18:35:29+00:00

You can't. Frankly this is an acceptable policy in my view. Here the purely biological difference between the sexes dictates, in my view, that women deserve this option.

brojangles · 2013-07-04T16:26:30+00:00

Why would you want to have a kid with someone who doesn't want to have one with you right now? I see by your post history, you're a racist. So that probably explains why she doesn't want to have a kid with you.

Revoran · 2013-07-04T16:59:25+00:00

Offer to raise the child alone if she gives birth to it. Tell her you won't ask for child support or any help. She doesn't have to be involved.

If she's not willing to do this and wants to kill your child anyway, there really isn't anything you can do, legally speaking. I'm so sorry.

PS: Don't drink drive, and don't be a racist shithead. Yes I read your post history.

rightsbot · 2013-07-04T16:20:17+00:00

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2013-07-05T00:55:53+00:00

The situation like that sucks, but seriously, it is her decision. If she's adamant about getting rid of it then the best he can do is leave her now, move on and never look back.

I'm personally far more concerned about the other way around, where she wants to keep her little accident and he doesn't but he's still legally on the hook to pay a fortune for her unilateral decision.

2013-07-04T19:59:55+00:00

I'm sorry, OP, but there's nothing you can do. Get yourself some therapy to help deal with the hurt that's going to follow.

2013-07-04T16:31:02+00:00

Ask her to have it and then take over custody from her legally in the courts. If she's willing it should be easy.

sillymod · 2013-07-04T17:10:56+00:00

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Billieliebe · 2013-07-04T22:20:04+00:00

She is probably thinking, "It's my body and I can do what I want with it." Yes it might be her body, but the fetus belongs 50/50 to each one of you. I really don't care what anybody say, but you have every right to keep the child as well. These stupid pro-choice beliefs are quite selfish and only think about the mother, but never the Father.

You two should sit down, talk this matter through. You could bring up that the 'Fetus' is your's as much as it is her's. It takes two to conceive. You could tell her you would support her financially through out the pregnancy. After she gives birth she could hand over complete custody to you and she would have nothing to do with the baby. This is if you plan on breaking up with her.

I'm really sorry you have to go through this. Best wishes.

brojangles · 2013-07-04T23:21:03+00:00

This is so awful. As a woman I could not do this with no regard for consequences to a man I loved and was in a relationship with. I am pro-choice for pre-5 month abortions (before it becomes a viable, survivable baby capable of surviving outside the womb) and I realize that legally, this poor man has 0 rights over his own procreation.
But what we are doing to our men by not treating them as equal parents with an equal right and equal say, (even if our baby is inside me) is very, very sad.

TheJollySatan · 2013-07-04T23:44:28+00:00

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Title	My SO is pregnant and wants to abort the pregnancy. I am against it but don't know what to do. How can I stop her killing my child? [X-Post from AskReddit]
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Date	July 4, 2013 4:20 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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