Afraid of becoming misogynistic due to increasing misandry by self proclaimed "feminists."

zinogrehunter22 · 2017-12-11T23:38:22+00:00

Remember that being mad or annoyed with a single female, does not make you a sexist. No matter how much those idiots scream it at you. There are TONS of great women out there who respect men. Stay strong brother.

HeForeverBleeds · 2017-12-12T01:54:44+00:00

I was in the same boat when I was younger. After enduring physical and sexual abuse by my mother and her female friends, then living in a society that says rape and domestic violence is a women's issue, and seeing my abusers as well as predatory women in general get away with it completely specifically because they're women, I did hate women quite a lot

Ironically, what helped me get over it was less the few women I met who were supportive of male victims, but more so the number of men I encountered who were also misandrists. After all, it's often men who white knight for women, men who downplay female abusers, male judges who give them slaps on the wrists

Seeing all this made me realize it's not just women who are the problem; it's the lack of empathy for men, which is, unfortunately, a trait that can be found in both males and females. So why hate women specifically? Many women abuse men / boys and manipulate the system to get away with it; many other men enable female predators to get away with it; so both are partly to blame

DavidByron2 · 2017-12-11T23:51:59+00:00

You could remember that 76% of women are not feminists.

Or that about 40% of feminists are men.

Feminists have always allied themselves with the men at the top of the hierarchy who love to take a big dump on men of the lower classes. Think about how Obama used to boost feminism and dump on men.

Hating all women means you're either hating too many people, or not enough.

BlockNotDo · 2017-12-12T01:57:31+00:00

Don't make the incorrect assumption that women and feminists are the same. Having disdain for feminists is reasonable. Having disdain for women is not. They are two different groups of people, with some overlap.

2017-12-12T00:25:02+00:00

Remember that feminists do not represent all women. Most women are not misandrist. Most feminists are to some extent or another, but even among them, feminists who proudly tweet #killallmen and #maletears are in the minority.

Strong negative emotions like anger tend to cause us to see things in black-and-white, while we are much more capable of perceiving the spectrum of greys things actually exist on when we are calm.

-manatease · 2017-12-12T02:47:06+00:00

I don't hate feminists, actually. I even kind of understand them. If you're staring back into history and there's generations of women with reduced opportunities as second class citizens, as far as the eye can see, you'd get pretty discouraged, too, and you might even get mad on their behalf.

It's ridiculously easy to forget that you were born into a different world, with access to everything men have, and pretend that you're heir apparent to all of that suffering and servitude. It's even appealing, kind of like a weird sisterhood of victimization. Do I hate feminists for falling for the sing song, identifying with women of the past, and thinking they are victims, too? Not really. It's sad, even kind of pathetic that they'd latch onto that generational victim culture rather than live in the now, but that's their choice to make.

So, don't let the few raging hags get you down. Some people hate for a living and make it their life's work. You'll find them in every pile. Just mark them so you can remember them, and then move on. Life's too damn short to deal with that kind of vitriol.

I'm saying this often: use Dr. King's rule. Judge them by their character, not by their characteristics. Let the individual feminists worth something into your life. Chuck the individual feminists that are not, out.

OnTheSlope · 2017-12-12T08:33:41+00:00

Read less of this stuff, talk to real women in real life

2017-12-12T05:02:56+00:00

There is no debate from any point of reason or logic with a feminist. Don't even bother, just agree and amplify whatever nonsense they're spewing. Once you take away their power of trying to shame you by embracing it no matter how nonsensical their statements are, they'll just go away.

Fortspucking · 2017-12-12T06:03:06+00:00

It's an inside job. You focus on women you admire and would defend because of who they are, not because of their genital assignment. May I offer as a starter, Ms. Tai Wilkenfeld, an amazing bass player who I would take a knife for.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cXv54DfJ3bI

Leinadro · 2017-12-12T14:18:07+00:00

Just remember not to blanketly declare all groups as bad. Not even feminists. Yes I know its difficult but its in important distinction. Even if you disagree with every part of feminism make sure you are making the distinction that you hate what they stand for not them personally.

There are feminists out there that would actually want you to become a woman hater because it feeds their own victim complexes. They want, no they need, to maintain the cycle of hate in order to justify their own existence.

Just keep that in mind and make them have to look elsewhere to get their fix.

eightgaydiamonds · 2017-12-12T16:10:11+00:00

There is no slippery slope to misogyny. Its ok to be critical. Its ok to be angry.

2017-12-14T14:52:21+00:00

Hating feminism and the people behind it doesn't make you a misogynist. Hating women because they're women does.

2017-12-12T01:57:30+00:00

Don’t watch or read opinion pieces, remember that the people you see are usually there for ratings and views.

If I’m calmly discussing how some feminists use false statistics, and there’s a guy behind me screaming about how women hate men and we should start our own colony without them or some crazy stuff like that, im not the one who gets quoted right.

Maybe try to remember that for a lot of women it is new to feel like they can express their feelings and not feel like they’re being ignored(real or imagined). I got a ticket a week after I got my first car, I think them being so aggressive and controversial is almost a feverish “new toy syndrome”. I find with imbalances change always starts with overcorrection.

Also, some people are just dicks.

Mackowatosc · 2017-12-12T11:37:53+00:00

Natural and good reaction.

Title	Afraid of becoming misogynistic due to increasing misandry by self proclaimed "feminists."
Author	zinogrehunter22
Upvotes	17
Comments	28
Date	December 11, 2017 11:35 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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