Why do women push for more and more commitment only to be disatisfied when it actually happens?

RPTA3498 · 2017-11-02T23:53:55+00:00

Because getting it would make her FEEL good RIGHT NOW. But then its like fuck I have to live with this decision and she has to be responsible for it, which she hates.

Triadis3 · 2017-11-03T05:47:38+00:00

Women are really interested in tigers. They're strong, pretty, nice to pet, protectors, have an "I'm the king of all I see" vibe, dangerous, and great status symbols.

To keep a tiger, though, it's convenient to train them to walk on a leash, not eat the occasional lamb, piss in the designated area, sleep in a cage, etc.

Problem is, tigers don't like being caged or on a leash. This is against their nature. Some do get domesticated, though, even learn tricks. It's helpful to chop off their balls to accomplish this domestication.

Problem is doing this makes them lose the edge that made them attractive in the first place. They become compliant little kitties.

Women then realize all the excitement around owning a tiger has evaporated, because now they're walking down the street with wrinkled tiger balls in their purse, holding the leash of an overgrown neutered housecat.

Guess what? They begin the search for another tiger. Don't be a pussy. Stay tiger.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2017-11-03T01:24:39+00:00

It's their character.

I prefer this alternate ending:

How it shoulda gone.

brinkleybuzz · 2017-11-03T03:33:56+00:00

This is because the nature of a woman is to want what she can't have. If what she wants is attainable, a woman will take it for granted. This applies to shoes, clothes and men.

[deleted] · 2017-11-03T03:39:24+00:00

She becomes dissatisfied when the man changes from the one she wanted to commit to. She wants to know that you aren't going to fuck around on her. That's it. She doesn't want you to change, or get comfortable, or start slacking. She wants the man she first met. Flip the script: don't you prefer the girl you first met to the one she evolved into after sometime of failed communication and built up resentment?

Pluglord · 2017-11-02T22:49:46+00:00

Stop trying to understand women. Like you said, they're like children and they dont know what they want or whats good for them.

All you need to do is focus on what you want and make sure you get it. If they arent down with the program, they can see the door.

omega_dawg93 · 2017-11-03T02:08:29+00:00

whatever you do, don't get mad at her.

she's just a woman being a woman. she will test you relentlessly... it never ends.

Darth_Antonius · 2017-11-03T02:34:15+00:00

Because once they get the commitment, it becomes boring.

The__Tren__Train · 2017-11-03T02:24:48+00:00

if u want ur relationship to last, do NOT get married.

she should be having to chase your commitment for the duration of the relationship... as you will have to work to ensure her commitment to you as well.

Auvergnat · 2017-11-03T09:37:14+00:00

That women push for more stuff should be a no-brainer to you. Now why would they be unhappy when they get it?

On the moment? It showed that she could push you around to get what she wants. Aka, you may be less strong thah she imagined. Or worse, it could indicate that you need her so you comply, which would imply you're lower value than her.
On the long-term? Similar as the second point above: the more committed you are, the more needy it is, the less value you seem to have. Ontop of that, women have dual strategy "get providing from a provider, get sex from a lover". As alpha as you were when you got with her, your marrying and steady committing put you in the beta category. So she needs both to get a lover, and to trade up to a better beta model.

In any case, you got the right lesson. Just don't commit. Just say no. Let them get mad for a while, then respect you and want you more for it.

markdumte · 2017-11-03T06:33:48+00:00

Because they want commitment but don't want it easy because it is a test at the same time.

They want commitment to feel safe. Their instincts scream to them to get a man to provide and look for her. But at the same time if they get what they want too easy, it makes them feel like the man has no value, that the man is so desperate that will give commitment to the first woman that pays them attention (aka sex).

Some people are saying it makes no sense and don't try to understand women because they don't make sense at all, but this makes sense. In fact we men are the same and act the same, just with sex.

A women could ask: why do men want sex but become distant if they get it too easy?. In other words, why won't men commit to a slut if sex is what they want? Same question but men/sex instead of women/commitment.

And the reasons are exactly the same. If a woman gives sex too easily it make us feel it has no value and that the women is not fit for a ltr since she will give it to anyone that gives her attention. As trp theory says, commitment is for men as sex is for women. A man that gives commitment easily is the equivalent of a slut for women. Would you like ltr-ing a slut? No, well, same for women, they don't like ltr-ing a man-slut that gives commitment to the first woman that gives him attention (sex).

It makes sense. Don't be a man-slut. Treasure your commitment and don't give it easy.

tinykittenblep · 2017-11-03T07:09:21+00:00

Because women are sold on the idea of something, without the actual work involved. When they get the relationship they asked for, they have no idea what to do with it.

Men are taught what their expectations and obligations are. They are told what their role is, there is no mistaking it. Every romanticized portrayal of a man still demonstrates this expectation of what he is supposed to be doing in a relationship, etc. The prince is always putting in the work to saving the princess, getting her to accept him, etc.

Compare that to women: they are never really shown what the expectations are for them in a relationship except for what they should be feeling or what men should be doing for them. There are very few fairytales that exist showing a woman working hard for a man, and the ones that do exist are not particularly common in the west. Take for example this story

If women were presented with more stories, more examples, more expectations of what their obligations are in a committed monogamous relationship, and taught what sort of work was involved, there would probably be much less problems.

mrHappyPotatoe · 2017-11-03T08:24:05+00:00

You know the story about pandoras box? Its describes the nature of women. Your job is to hide the box and not even let her know of it even exists.

IVIaskerade · 2017-11-03T14:23:17+00:00

Because she wants you to put her in her place. It reassures her.

imdar3ald3al · 2017-11-03T17:11:55+00:00

Because men who give commitment tend to catch the feels and some point and they become blue pilled beta bitchboys

etf42 · 2017-11-07T16:58:48+00:00

"It's like having to say no to a kid who wants to eat candy for breakfast."

You hit the nail on the head. Women are basically overgrown children.

Title	Why do women push for more and more commitment only to be disatisfied when it actually happens?
Author	argcisman
Upvotes	22
Comments	22
Date	November 2, 2017 10:32 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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