I see too much of this shit on askTRP and it's killin' me.

First off let's address the elephant in the room.

You're dating a bitch that thinks this is okay?

Wow. Crazy.

I've never dated a bitch that thought it was okay, on principle, to hang out with another man, no matter how long she's known him, one on one without me present OR without at least attempting to run it by me first to gain my approval.

All my niggas have never been in that situation either so....

But okay you're finding yourself in this little predicament and you're like "damn I don't wanna come off as Ike Turner but I ain't tryna come off as a lil' bitch like Timmy Turner."

Here’s my go to phrase.

This is all you have to say, with a raised eyebrow, and then you nod your head and keep it movin.

Then your bitch will lose her mind, see the error of her ways, and back off.

And all I say is "Oh, is this what we're doin' now?"

Then just nod your head knowingly (as if you've been WAITING for her to give you permission to jump) and say

"Aight then."

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A few years back I was dating one of my exes. It's been about a lil over a year and a half and we've established some boundaries.

So she didn't like it when I talked to other females that weren't family members on my phone. Like me textin' them all day and night made her uncomfortable and back then I was a lot "nicer" (relatively) so I was like "Okay whatever" cause I knew that she wouldn't set a boundary that she herself wouldn't follow.

Or so I thought.

She had always been hasslin me about texting female coworkers and shit but her anxiety rubbed me the wrong way. It was never proactive, it was always REACTIVE. As if she didn't want me to do what she had BEEN doing.

So I snooped through her phone and sure enough she's got like five male friends she's been chatting up on FB messenger.

Now, I ain't give a shit - but the PRINCIPLE of the matter was that she was being a hypocrite.

So I just started texting all of my female friends, all of my female coworkers, hell even a past fling right in front of her.

Of course she got mad af and I was like "Well, this is what we doin' now."

She pretended like she ain't know what I was talkin' about. But I ignored her and kept doin' my thang, then she finally broke down and cried and admitted that she did it because she knew that SHE'D never cheat or meet up with them but that she was TERRIFIED that I would get "tempted" and cheat behind her back.

I was like damn gurl I ain't cheat on you yet.

Obviously she saw the error of her ways but remember there's no going backwards.

She was tryna have her cake and eat it too, which is what we all want at the end of the day. Unfortunately she couldn't pull one over on me so I just kept textin other bitches and she either had to accept it or leave.

She accepted it.

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Another example. This was back when I dated my baby mama (and she wasn't my baby's mother).

She posted a FB status with a collage of different movie stars on it and in the comments her sister mentioned how much she was attracted to one of them. My baby mama said that she was "honestly attracted to all of them but one."

So nothing is inherently alarming about that. I ain't an idiot I know that she can be attracted to other niggas, especially celebrities.

But I knew for a FACT that if I posted some shit like that she would be blowing me up like the Unabomber.

So I turned to her and said "Oh, is this what we're doin' now?"

She was like "what do you mean?"

I didn't dignify her ignorance. I just nodded my head and said "Nah it's aight."

Then she started panicking and said "It's about my Facebook status?"

So....she guessed right on the first try.

Damn I wonder why?

I just said "I didn't know it was okay for me to post on Facebook that I'm attracted to female celebrities my bad."

Obviously I'm fuckin' with her mind heavy by just laying it out there like that, that's why you have to calibrate.

Unfortunately my baby mama is one of those bitches that does shit without thinking, so she puts herself in these hypocritical situations and you have to spell it out for her.

You know the types of bitches that thinks that the rules don't apply to her because SHE'S above degeneracy but YOU aren't?

Well that's all females actually.

Anyways she knows that I love me some Lucy Liu (circa Kill Bill), she knows that I have a deep collection of porn (including asian flicks - shout out to Asa Akira) and she knows that I had a previous fling with an asian bitch.

So I was like "But that's okay since you're setting the precedent let me let Facebook know how fine Lucy Liu is."

So at this point she's panicking, getting on her phone and she deleted the post. She's apologizing profusely.

But like I said before.....

There is no moving backwards.

So I posted the status. And she's being hysterical, crying and shit. I shrug cause I don't give a fuck. Told her that this is our new normal cause you know, I'm petty.

Eventually she calms down and just accepts it.

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Now I am not the jealous type. I never feel threatened by another man, and I've never been cheated on. It just doesn't register within me to feel that way because like Gucci Mane said, "Girls are like buses - miss one next fifteen one comin'."

That's why it's so easy for me to "go along" with shit.

Yea sure I won't text no bitches.....oh wow my LTR has been texting other dudes the whole time? Cool just means that I can do whatever the fuck I want.

It's like I always say around these parts

She will show you what you can or can't do.

That's because the woman is operating out of a position of weakness. She SHOULD have more to lose, meaning if she's loose with the boundaries, that means she legit doesn't give a fuck, so why should you?

If she is TIGHT with it, then she is either insecure af or she's terrified of losing you.

Then you have some that actually have a little common sense and know how to set proper boundaries.

Now this doesn't mean that I don't have any boundaries, it just means that when a bitch walks over the line that tells me that it must be okay for me to do that shit cause she obviously doesn't give a fuck.

Just know that there's no turning back.