Is being an omega male unattractive to females? Is being financially unstable a turn off for a lot of females?

FellasImSorry · 2023-03-21T04:00:52+00:00

“omega male” isn’t a real category of person. It’s a dumb thing internet weirdos made up.

But yeah, living with your mom and being broke with no friends is probably gonna cut down on the women interested in you pretty significantly.

But it’s not the money or the mom, really. It’s the “I’m not going anywhere” that’s the problem. It’s being a project. Most people aren’t looking for that.

You can be broke and be an awesome free spirit and some women will like you. You can live with your mom because you’re saving money or taking care of her or something, and many women will be cool with it.

But this is not what you’re doing. It sounds like you’re not in charge of your own shit. Your life is happening to you, you’re not leading your life.

The no friends thing says, “I can’t relate well to others” and it’s an understandable red flag to a lot of people.

Really you have way bigger problems than “I can’t find a woman.” Point blank, no sugar-coating: You don’t actually seem to offer a lot.

So, ya really gotta figure out how to fix your shit. Rebuild.

mikey_weasel · 2023-03-21T05:27:24+00:00

Looking at this post and your other post here.

I would suggest that right now you really need to work on basic socialization. From:

I do not have friends. Nobody invites me to events.
I get fired from jobs. Typically I get fired from 2 to 4 days. This is perhapbs BPD.

that sounds like you really struggle there. Like it sounds like your social circle and ability to maintain basic relationships is going to need work. Does that sounds right?

The below assumes that is correct:

If you can't really hold up friendships and basic working relationships, its not really surprising that you can't form romantic relationships (assuming that's what you want from what you've said as opposed to a hookup) which are significantly more complex relationships. Like trying to solve quadratic equations when you don't understand basic addition and multiplication.

So I'd go back to some of the basic advice that seems to come up a lot in this sub:

Work on your social circle. This usually means regularly attending events where you'll interact with people. This can be volunteering (my favorite), sports, hobby groups, workshops, church things, whatever. Preferably something not dominated by men. Don't just hit on every woman there, the goal is to build something approaching a social network. This will take time and may require you trying more than one thing before you find people who you "click" with.
Therapy, or something approaching it. You say you have "Borderline Personality Disorder" and it also sounds like you really aren't that happy in your own head right now. If you can access help take it. Look for whatever resources are available within your community.
Stop consuming redpill content. Its not going to help you. And its all over this post.

You might also find the subreddit r/IncelExit helpful for discussion like this, as it sounds like even if you don't identify as an incel you have a degree of overlap with those who are trying to exit that position.

imullyn · 2023-03-21T11:58:33+00:00

Omega/Beta/Alpha don’t exist, they’re made up words that 13 year old girls usually write in their wattpad books, and red pill men are total losers for using these terms outside of kinky fanfiction.

Stop referring to others by their sex, drop the female and call people by man and woman or their names. you’re only bottom of the barrel if you participate in the “hierarchy”. Get out of it, then you won’t be at the bottom.

Stop thinking “are my bad experiences unattractive to females?” you are clearly going through a lot, start using those bad experiences to uplift yourself, why aren’t you being invited to events? Is it because you’re a loner? Then get out of your comfort zone and talk to people. Is it because you have a bad personality? Find a way to change it, the first step is to be self conscious of your thoughts and actions, critique yourself, don’t degrade, critique. So what if you do childish or weird stuff? Does it bring you happiness? As long as it’s not hurting others, then embrace it! Find people that like the things you do and share it with them! You control your own life!

Melificarum · 2023-03-21T05:04:33+00:00

Okay, "omega male" is a new one for me, and it's definitely not your problem. Your problem also isn't getting women, that would be the bottom of the list of things you need to figure out.

I would first try and discover why people don't like you. This is probably why you can't keep a job. You have a Master's degree in a STEM field, and you can't figure out any sort of career you would succeed at? And no, it's not because college is a "scam," that is a lie someone fed to you that is causing you to blame outside conspiracies for your own lack of ambition.

Stop reading redpill nonsense and go to therapy. Your therapist can help you with your social skills, and even refer you if you have a psychological issue that is hindering your ability to connect with other people. If you can't even maintain regular friendships, how do you expect to keep or get a girlfriend?

Fivefootfiveangel · 2023-03-21T14:49:16+00:00

Is being what

I_like_the_word_MUFF · 2023-03-21T11:42:21+00:00

If you're thirty and can't hold a job down for more than a week, you need intense therapy and both occupational and psychological because that's definitely a cognitive/emotional issue that you'll never resolve on your own.

You need to go to your Primary care doctor and literally request a referral to a mental health person who can evaluate you and set you on course. Not for nothing, but you're going to have to do work to get over that, but unless you want to maintain your status quo through the next 50 years, I think you have a pretty good motivator.

Or not....you have to self determine your way out of the situation. No woman, not even your momma, can do this for you

SimplexPressureGrade · 2023-03-21T03:25:09+00:00

Possibly or possibly not. Any aspect, good or bad to most people, can be interpreted differently by individuals.

Xx_SwordWords_xX · 2023-03-21T11:29:17+00:00

Using terms like "omega male" and refering to women as "females", are turn offs, yes.

Being unstable is a turn off for most people (job, living situation, etc). It sounds like you prioritize "childish and weird stuff" before growing up and responsibilities; most people would not want to take that on, if they have their shit together in life (or even just appearance-wise).

You'd have to go for a FeMaLe who is perhaps weird, unmotivated and unstable in her situation, for it to work... Because, you seem to forget that you have to be able to offer an enhancement to someone else's life (not a burden), to make it worth their while.

gombasan · 2023-03-23T12:25:07+00:00

My friend, I've had a similar experience to you ad I've managed to have some great experiences with women and other people. These others comments are correct but o don't think they're stressing how great you'll feel by adding new horizons to your life. This isn't about being attractive or being a man, it's about independence.

I spent a lot of time living at home when I came down with pancreatitis. I didn't leave the house for months, only saw my parents, never saw any friends, etc. I had to take baby steps to get out of that mentality. I started be reaching out to people about work, new projects, moving to other cities; i started moving and doing thing every day that provided 1) access to new people and 2) potential for new future things (a new job in a new city, a course on project management or etc). A masters in math sounds useless, but with a year of courses you could become an awesome programer, and i know hedge funds are always looking for math people to train. Late twenties isn't young, not at all. You still have time to reinvent yourself at least 4 times haha.

Once you're doing news things, and meeting new people, you'll start feeling more like engaging people. There are some truths to Game, and one of them is women do want to be with someone who can make them feel secure. That means being independent, and able to make yourself happy. And similar to those original Game experiences, for all their flaws, you might find that you've found what you needed even before getting the girl; you'll be more attractive to yourself, and having a women around or not will mean less because you'll be more satisfied with your own life...

...and that's typically when stuff starts falling in your lap.

Gmed66 · 2023-03-24T01:19:29+00:00

Stop using terms like "omega" or "alpha' or "beta"
Lots of guys who are broke sleep with/date very attractive girls , so no it won't hold you bad if you're attractive
Consider optimizing your career for yourself

Title	Is being an omega male unattractive to females? Is being financially unstable a turn off for a lot of females?
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Date	March 21, 2023 12:48 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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