I don't know. I don't know how many men I've gone out with or how many men I've kissed or been intimate with or how many men I've lost to what was simply not meant to be. I don't count the men because, in the end, they are all one closer to one that will be the One 😇

just_a_CPA · 2021-04-10T00:17:20+00:00

just to save anyone the bother of searching socmeds: yes she is still single and childless ~~six~~ seven years on after these articles were written

ChrysippusOfSoli · 2021-04-09T23:59:14+00:00

>Remember: there is NO CONNECTION AT ALL between a woman's former promiscuity, egged on by the belief that some guy who is a Frankenstein of all the most desirable men she'd had sex with, will bail her out in the end, right in the nick of time, because she's so great, and her eventual fate as a childless unhappy career woman. No connection whatsoever /sarc.

"Women are better multitaskers than men are in general, so I don't buy into the 'too focused on career' script modern women have been given instead of the truth: Despite having a great career and taking care of ourselves financially, while also taking care of our health and well-being, we haven't met the man we're meant to be with."

Women are better than men, so if a woman is single at 45, it's the male population's fault for not rising to her level.

"Maybe you're too independent," Brian suggests, more to himself as he looks down his mental list of possible reasons for my singlehood.

"I'm independent," I reply. "But that doesn't mean I can't be dependent on someone else for a change. We keep hearing about how women should 'lean in.' I am leaning in so far that I'm falling over. I don't have a net, emotionally or financially, to fall back on. What I would do to be able to lean back for once. What I would do to have a man in my life whom I could count on when times are tough..."

Haha, I'll let other commenters deal with this quote 😆

Brian is running out of arguments. I'm running out of patience.

"Brian, if you spend the rest of our date searching for what's wrong with me, you'll never discover what's right with me,"

MAN UP, BRIAN!

InevitableOwl1 · 2021-04-10T00:53:09+00:00

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just_a_CPA · 2021-04-10T00:40:16+00:00

I guess Brian figured out what was wrong with her on the 2nd date.

sleepyweaselisawake · 2021-04-10T00:59:02+00:00

"I'm independent," I reply. "But that doesn't mean I can't be dependent on someone else for a change. We keep hearing about how women should 'lean in.' I am leaning in so far that I'm falling over. I don't have a net, emotionally or financially, to fall back on. What I would do to be able to lean back for once. What I would do to have a man in my life whom I could count on when times are tough..."

Once again, straight from the hyenas mouth. She doesn't want love, she wants an ATM. Leftover women are leftovers for a reason.

Siddyf · 2021-04-10T00:07:58+00:00

Would have enjoyed Brian asking casually for her number count. I have.

InevitableOwl1 · 2021-04-10T01:32:32+00:00

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imdaad_khan · 2021-04-10T03:29:27+00:00

Melanie Notkin

Notkin

A woman named Not-kin is single and childless. You can’t make this shit up.

2021-04-10T06:57:25+00:00

When a woman says “I deserve” is the proof of hypergamy.

DoctorMars81 · 2021-04-10T00:57:30+00:00

Calls self "savvy auntie." well get used to that Melanie, because you'll never have kids of your own!

GrannyLesbian · 2021-04-10T04:57:29+00:00

This article was written in 2014. Melanie was single. Melanie was a sassy 45

This is now 2021. Melanie is still single as per her website. Melanie is now 52.

imdaad_khan · 2021-04-10T02:30:54+00:00

And I'm being honest. I don't know. I don't know how many men I've gone out with or how many men I've kissed or been intimate with or how many men I've lost to what was simply not meant to be. I don't count the men because, in the end, they are all one closer to one that will be the One.

She rode the carousel for decades hoping to move forward in life.

Unfortunately for her, she failed to realize that the carousel goes round and round and round while keeping the rider in the same place.

She’s gonna die alone 🎵🎵🎵

InevitableOwl1 · 2021-04-09T23:42:17+00:00

This is life. This is my life. And notwithstanding it not turning out the way I had expected, my life is beyond my expectations. I have chosen to live my life to its potential, and I've never felt better about myself or more comfortable in my own skin.

Her other article: MY SECRET GRIEF: OVER 35, SINGLE AND CHILDLESS

The grief hit me in my mid-thirties without warning.

I was mourning the loss of one more chance at the family life I always dreamed of.

And I grieved alone.

Grief over not being able to have children is acceptable for couples going through biological infertility. Grief over childlessness for a single woman in her thirties and forties is less accepted. Instead, it's assumed we just don't understand that our fertility has a limited lifespan and we are being reckless with chance. We're labeled "career women" as if we graduated college, burned our bras, and got jobs to exhibit some sort of feminist muscle. Or, it's assumed we're not trying hard enough, or we're being too picky. The latest trend is to assume we don't really want children because we haven't frozen our eggs, adopted, or had a biological baby as a single woman.

This type of grief — grief that is not accepted or that is silent — is referred to as disenfranchised grief.

I have to defend why I'm not a mother when it's all I ever wanted to be.

Martellus732 · 2021-04-10T02:03:00+00:00

Someone's hamster apparently found an unlimited source of meth.

Overkillengine · 2021-04-10T05:27:14+00:00

Yeah turns out you aren't supposed to play musical dicks for decades if you want the husband, house, white picket fence and 2.5 kids outcome.

Being the breadwinner for the town bicycle and/or kids that aren't his isn't an attractive deal for men with any sort of sense of self worth.

SolidStateDynamite · 2021-04-10T08:33:40+00:00

And I'm being honest. I don't know. I don't know how many men I've gone out with or how many men I've kissed or been intimate with or how many men I've lost to what was simply not meant to be. I don't count the men because, in the end, they are all one closer to one that will be the One.

No, you don't count them because to do so would force you to realize how promiscuous you've been. It would force you to tally up the years of your life you wasted chasing present feelings instead of future security. It would force you to acknowledge how stupid you were to pass up a guy that checked 90% of your boxes in the hopes that you can find someone more perfect, because unless you're referring to the Matrix, the Jet Li movie, or the not-the-most-popular Backstreet Boys song, "The One" doesn't exist.

In reality, you're ashamed to own up to all of those experiences, because the only possible outcomes are to either acknowledge that you're to blame for your current situation (whether wholly or in part), or deny reality and show everyone that you're too dumb and/or too proud to connect all of the dots. The first outcome would result in self-reflection and (hopefully) self-improvement. But in your mind, you already "deserve" your ideal life; therefore, self-improvement is pointless. The second outcome makes you look bad, and only the most oblivious of women willingly shoot themselves in the foot.

Brian was right to be suspicious, because pretty girls don't get left behind for no reason.

Sufficient_Winter_45 · 2021-04-10T09:48:59+00:00

At 45 she's hoping to have children? Well, good luck, lady.

Ok-Adeptness4906 · 2021-04-10T10:44:53+00:00

Before penicillin, the risk of contracting syphilis constrained womens' slutty behavior.

minhphanhvu · 2021-04-10T07:27:27+00:00

Dud, science sites in the U.S. nowadays are like propaganda. It's a new religion; all bs.

2021-04-10T02:09:31+00:00

One paragraph in and i don’t even want to bother reading

michael1962-01 · 2021-04-10T06:57:55+00:00

TheApricotCavalier · 2021-04-10T16:45:48+00:00

> Single, Childless and 45: So What's Wrong With You?

> Perhaps the better question is: What's right with you?

Hahaha, dont need to read past the title, comedy gold

RealMcGonzo · 2021-04-10T18:16:34+00:00

"Have you ever been married?" Brian asks. "No," I say. "Have you come close? Like engaged or lived with someone?" "Nope," I add.

45 years old and regardless of RP or BP - that's a heck of a red flag right there.

"I'm independent," I reply. "But that doesn't mean I can't be dependent on someone else for a change. We keep hearing about how women should 'lean in.' I am leaning in so far that I'm falling over.

Ding ding ding. Feminism completely wrecked this broad. She thinks she deserves it all, ride the CC, get the corner office, marry a guy with all the best attributes of every dick she's ever had and is even more successful than her - and does not mind that half the town has slept with her.

2021-04-10T01:39:30+00:00

She’s got them crazy eyes

Aaron_Hungwell · 2021-04-10T05:19:31+00:00

I read the article. It seems more apropos for the r/fiction sub, because that’s fake AF

2021-04-11T20:13:28+00:00

If a woman makes it to 30 without any man offering marriage, something went very wrong somewhere.

She's a nut. She's a slut. She preferred her ~~career~~ "job". She is unavailable.

Wildhouse83 · 2021-04-10T04:01:39+00:00

Sha has got a black belt in coping.

misteryolh · 2021-04-11T23:27:19+00:00

Lol, this article reads like a fiction novel.

My date seems satisfied, at least for now, and we begin to chat about other things. As we leave the bar later that night, Brian gives me a hug. "You're shivering," he says, sweetly. "Let me get you into a cab." He hails a cab and asks me for a second date.

Hahaha, yeah, that sure happened.

FatherUnbannable · 2021-04-13T06:56:38+00:00

I absolutely agree with Melany, ask her what is RIGHT with her! It's just efficient to check the shorter list.

willbebannedlater · 2021-04-13T08:04:02+00:00

The whole time she was writing this LARP she was crying into her boxed wine

I don't know. I don't know how many men I've gone out with or how many men I've kissed or been intimate with or how many men I've lost to what was simply not meant to be. I don't count the men because, in the end, they are all one closer to one that will be the One 😇

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I’m 43 and Alone – Can I Find a Good Man?

> Perhaps the better question is: What's right with you?