Not all kinfolk are skinfolk

Edit: the saying is not all skinfolk are kinfolk

There have been ops in every movement. Whether it’s insiders snitching on the black panthers and aiding the government in their destabilization or minorities coopting the status quo to help the state tear down specific movements. I say this to say not all women can be saved.

I have seen a lot of comments saying we should be kinder, more compassionate and understanding in the way we talk about pickmes and that’s absolutely reasonable. But when these women are actively participating in continuing the cycle of harm and misogyny we deal with on a daily basis, there is no reason to come to these people with any ounce of positive energy because that allows them to bleed you dry.

I personally see a very distinct line between abused women who are trying to navigate their abuse and thus become pickmes and patriarchal princess pickmes. Abused women tend to have been conditioned to doubt themselves and feel no sense of power. With pickmes, they harbor narcissistic traits that ruin the lives of other women around them for the opportunity to get the power men possess. I’m talking about the vindictive, manipulative, and straight up abusive pickmes that live and breathe off tearing other women down.

These are the women who hate FDS and get banned on here consistently. The ones who make it their mission to be the PR team for LVMs because they need a source of validation whether that’s through male attention or feeling superior to us for following the shit rules that have been shoved down our throats for decades. I don’t believe in being the bigger person in general but especially not to these types of women.

I don’t care for the love and light messages I see when discussing how to handle patriarchal princesses. They will not change by us muling for them and helping them destabilize their internalized misogyny. To them, male validation is more rewarding than women’s liberation. No amount of kindness will change these women.

So, all kinfolk ain’t skinfolk and I’m tired of seeing women push the idea that we need to become martyrs for women that prefer the benefits of the patriarchy over female liberation. I refuse to engage with women who don’t want women to benefit from heterosexual relations. To me, they are ops and either they can see the light on their own or stay on the dark side. The women who are truly working on themselves and wish to better themselves don’t feel the need to be so defensive all the time because they understand FDS is about maximum female benefit.

If that means having insanely high standards, it means just that. If that means limiting male contact to a standstill, it means just that. I have my standards and I I’ll never explain them to anyone because that’s what I feel deserve. I will not argue with someone if they have a problem with my income, height, and dick-size requirements because they are my standards and my standards alone.

So for all the women that feel the need to help patriarchal princesses see the light, realize some of them see it and still don’t want to be apart of it. In every movement, people will be left behind because they are dangerous to that movement. It’s similar with FDS. Let them fight to pay 50/50 until they die. I don’t care because it’s their right, and I’m not gonna force someone to get standards. They also don’t deserve my sympathy or compassion if they are actively trying to force me to go down to their level.