How do you get rid off low value woman mindset?

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Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-03-23T14:36:49+00:00

You clearly still have emotional healing to go through from that relationship. I think that in another year or two this will be a distant memory. Keep going on your current path.

Maybe consider doing some work with your therapist on what are your deep rooted issues? Or on healing hurt. Maybe some positive affirmations will help you undo the damage he did you yourself esteem.

K0rla · 2021-03-23T14:53:30+00:00

"I have hobbies" - you are an interesting, educated and cultivated woman.
"friends circle" - you are loved.
"amazing career" - you are hard working.
"more money to buy outfits/take care of my looks" - you are taking care of yourself, you look good.
"year of therapy under my belt" - you are taking care of your mental health and working through your issues.
"my own freaking flat that is fully paid off" - again, financially successful, and you're also independent.

It's great to want to better yourself, but that often starts by acknowledging everything you have achieved thus far, instead of focusing on what you want to accomplish. Sometimes, we need to look back for a second before looking at our future. I hope this message served as a small reminder of some of your successes. You already are HV, keep rocking :)

DutyKooky · 2021-03-23T14:54:19+00:00

positive affirmations - every morning and every evening visualize yourself being filled from the insides with love and care and affection. being filled with sunlight and warmth. Maybe even get a pet. confidence comes from feeling " full" on the inside and letting it radiate. When do you excercise? I have had bouts of insecurity/ aniety and emptiness- they were correlated with the time of day ( morning and evenings) so I excercised during those times. I felt like getting the blood pumping and listening to great music during my " times of weakness" helped me blast/ burn those feelings. Sometimes i would cry when on the cardio machine ( at home) but afterward i would feel better.

BooksandEarlGreyTea · 2021-03-23T15:31:24+00:00

You mentioned you buy nice things for your looks, do you also buy nice things which aren't linked to looks? Like a bouquet of flowers or home decorations.

Some times it can be easy to buy nice things for how you look, because we live in a society which expects women to look good, but your flat which most people don't see is a different kettle of fish.

Lost_Kale90 · 2021-03-23T15:28:33+00:00

Happy Birthday 💖

I hear you. I would say keep going to therapy and doing internal work. Also don't be afraid to try a different therapist or type of therapy if you're not noticing that internal shift that you want. What I found that helped for me was going on a transformational retreat where my unloveable beliefs were confronted in the eyes of others, and I felt a sense of my own deeply rooted value that has carried with me. That has been the most efficient and profound mindset shift for me personally.

SaturnGirl1989 · 2021-03-23T18:30:33+00:00

The best thing I ever did for myself was change the way I allowed myself to speak/think about myself.

Would you ever tell your friends they're ugly? No?.. so stop saying it to yourself

Would you keep harping on a loved one for some dumb mistake they made? No?.. so stop doing it to yourself

Would you cheer your bff up and make her feel amazing when she gets that big promotion? Yes? Do that for you too

You are your best friend, or your own worst enemy, and the choice is entirely up to you. If you don't like yourself, its because you aren't being kind to yourself. It takes time to change these patterns, but soon it will be second nature, and then you will honestly feel sooo in love with yourself on a level you never could have imagined

Good luck girlie, and happy birthday! 💗

_queeeen_ · 2021-03-23T20:31:31+00:00

Confidence is an attitude. Self-esteem is our inner view of our own worth. These are two distinct elements of our spirit and our experience. That’s why you can “act confident” and still feel low about yourself.

In terms of healing self-esteem: blocking out negative energy, focusing on your relationship with yourself, developing your intuition, and being kind to yourself (whatever that means to you).

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