The difference between ‘just dating’ and ‘in a relationship’. Do you act different?

NotSoSmartChick · 2021-03-20T17:01:19+00:00

If a man and I are “just dating”, I’m also dating several other men. I’m not sleeping with them, but I’m going out on dates and e joying their company.

If a man hasn’t asked me for exclusivity, I assume they are also dating others.

Aocwannabe · 2021-03-20T16:50:29+00:00

Lean all the way back.
You are offering girlfriend privileges- (easy access to you & emotional comfort) without the perks and security of actually being his girlfriend. He could like you but he has little incentive to move things forward.
Do NOT tell him this explicitly. Just be slower to respond to him and limit your time. He will step into that space or he will let you go.
Until a man explicitly asks you to be exclusive, NEVER assume.

sewingmachinesavior · 2021-03-20T16:00:02+00:00

Yep, if by 4-6 weeks in they haven’t made it official and I am ready for it to be official, I’m gonna bounce.

purasangria · 2021-03-20T16:14:30+00:00

Agree. If a guy sees long term with you, he doesn't want you dating other men, do he's going to ask you to be exclusive right away. This man's already told you by his behavior that he doesn't see long term with you, and here you are acting like a gf.

Start being less available, and accept dates with other men. Keep him in the rotation if you like, but know that he's not that into you.

idiosyncraticg1 · 2021-03-20T14:21:37+00:00

You said it yourself, you haven’t gone on trips yet or stayed overnight, leave that to the relationship.

Do you have a general idea of when he’s going to ask to be official? I personally stop talking to someone every day and seeing them multiple times a week after the 2 month mark. It’s a waste of time if we’re not looking for the same thing

bearded_dragonlady · 2021-03-20T19:02:26+00:00

It's best to be strategic about how you open up about your feelings. This is something that men need to earn over time. Not to mention, you usually end up doing emotional labor for men when you have those discussions. When a man hasn't asked for commitment, emotional labor should be kept at a minimum.

Superb-Translator-54 · 2021-03-21T11:39:03+00:00

Girrrl, you're single until you're married.

This girlfriend phase was created by men so that they wouldnt have to commit to marriage at all or anytime soon. It gives men the power to decide when they want to marry you, not the other way around even if they know you want to...because it is after all the man that must propose and not the woman.

Also, men dont dump their girlfriend unless they have a backup they have been stringing along for a while. Girlfriend title means that they get your sex, loyalty, and youth from you FOR NOW AND FOR FREE until they find earn more money and get an upgrade...and yes that means they will be flirting with other women when youre not there.

Keep dating, have fun on dates, use up their resources, order the most expensive thing at dinner. and most importantly enjoy your life.

7Cuervos · 2021-03-21T10:03:06+00:00

I dont do "just dating". Either we are official or you move out of my way.

Dont waste your time ladies.

Title	The difference between ‘just dating’ and ‘in a relationship’. Do you act different?
Author	stormi-webster
Upvotes	64
Comments	13
Date	March 20, 2021 4:33 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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