If you're intimidated by me when I'm not trying to be intimidating is that my fault or do you need to work on your self-esteem?

EgalitarianFacts · 2021-03-18T21:04:10+00:00

I think it's getting to the point where women are only saying men are intimidating now because they can and it gives them a feeling of power and has nothing to do with felling intimidated.

DreamTheaterGuy · 2021-03-18T23:59:31+00:00

I get tired of all of the "MEN SHOULD MOVE TO THE OTHER SIDE OF THE ROAD IF THEY SEE A WOMAN!!!" I refuse to alter my day to cater to your insecurity. If I'm not doing anything to you, and you are scared of me, that is YOUR PROBLEM. YOU move across the street.

Starmind0 · 2021-03-19T12:56:54+00:00

"I don't feel safe when I see black people".

skrubbsvamp · 2021-03-19T00:59:14+00:00

Spot on! I'm 6 foot 3, muscular and I walk with purpose, pride and confidence. Whenever I approach a girl, even if it's just to get directions or sometimes even walk past them, they do one of the two things; reach down into their purse to be prepared with pepper spray or they shy away and immediately go defensive if I open my mouth and start talking to them. I always have a smile and try to be as polite as possible while not seeming too polite and they always respond with simple word answers or say silently "I don't know" whilst avoiding any type of eye contact. The same things happen at bars when I try to talk to a girl. They always seem nervous and jumpy and when I try to calm them down they just tell me that I'm "intimidating." Fucking makes me angry...

YesAmAThrowaway · 2021-03-19T13:17:49+00:00

If you feel intimidated by my existence then the problem is 100% with you!

2021-03-19T04:32:39+00:00

This has nothing to do with self esteem and everything to do with unresolved trauma, because most self adjusted women aren't walking around cowering in fear at every man they encounter. Women being intimidated by you is not your fault, and you should not feel at fault for that.

pazz · 2021-03-18T23:43:38+00:00

Black people have been dealing with this on a whole other level for decades. Your perception of danger is almost never accurate. If it were accurate you would probably never get into another automobile.

HaelenHaagen · 2021-03-19T18:08:28+00:00

That's a good observation. Feminists are using excuses to distract them from themselves. Because we all know it's easier to point one finger out, but we forget to look at the three back at us.

Like you already mentioned, people talk about themselves. So in the majority of cases when people are raging about something is most likely a projection of their own internal world.

makosh22 · 2021-03-19T06:20:14+00:00

If a person says that he\she is uncomfortable with me i would ask why and if there is no adequate answer i better leave. I hate being enforced to communicate with smb i don't like and don't want others to feel the same.

Often women say so not bc they are really intimidated but just because they want men to jump higher and further to feel special - like you know, prince is to not to fight a dragon but to prove that he is soooo good in it. Some women need to see that they are so superior that men can actually break his back to get her.

I will teach my sons to avoid such women. It's one thing when a boy really fucked up at smth and need to get an apology but if it's girls lifestyle to make men feel like that all the time - no way.

michaelscott1776 · 2021-03-19T20:35:26+00:00

MeN sHoUlD MoVe tO tHe OtHeR SiDe Of ThE StReEt

MancunianMuffin · 2021-03-19T20:37:20+00:00

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Stoicism1981 · 2021-03-19T14:19:31+00:00

I’d be working on myself.

I’d be shitting myself to start with - tall, big, weigh probably three times of me, with full beard.

But I will eventually get over my fear realising this person means no harm.

Like a chihuahua first sees a Labrador, she barks a bit then she realises it’s only a Labrador - big softie - who she can play with and make friends with.

Embarrassed_Paint738 · 2021-03-19T11:53:53+00:00

im soooo intimidated right now please check your mens privilege s/

Title	If you're intimidated by me when I'm not trying to be intimidating is that my fault or do you need to work on your self-esteem?
Author	MancunianMuffin
Upvotes	237
Comments	82
Date	March 18, 2021 8:30 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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