The Key To Never Failing

mordanus · 2014-02-27T02:45:01+00:00

The only way to never fail is to never try. Failing is part of what makes a person great, so long as the failure is learned from. If you can keep picking yourself up and not giving in to the temptation to quit you can become mighty. This is true for work or women or self improvement.

Cashews4U · 2014-02-27T04:54:07+00:00

Call it cheesy but Wayne Gretzky's "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take" fits here nicely

insickness · 2014-02-27T03:33:05+00:00

For the most part you're right. You need to consistently be learning, and that requires failure. But one thing to keep in mind, for guys with social anxiety is that sometimes there's nothing to learn and you just need to keep pushing forward.

Sometimes you get rejected by a girl and you can learn something from the situation. But other times, you get rejected and there's nothing to learn. You did the best you could and the situation was out of your control. You can still progress and grow from the experience, but you don't learn anything new, per se. It's like running up a hill. You don't 'learn' anything, but that challenge helps you to grow.

The reason this is important is because guys with social anxiety often over-process a rejection too much. You'll think about it over and over again. Your brain is trying to learn something from that situation. But it's easy to over-process when you have social anxiety. You can easily fall into the trap of over-processing and get stuck there. Sometimes you can't learn something and you just need to move on.

blazin_ · 2014-02-27T07:48:16+00:00

The key is to pursue your goals with the 3 R's brothers.

Ruthless
Relentless
Remorseless

Create the life that you desire. Doggedly pursue your goals and the rest will fall into place.

dr_bloodmoney · 2014-02-27T06:11:31+00:00

I know this as a fact, but teaching this to my son has been difficult. He's 8 and if he meets any resistance he wants to quit. Me and the ex have him in his second year of baseball. He knows it's something he has to do, but he's not sure why. He doesn't really like it. But we think it's good for him. He asked me last year when he could quit playing and I told him "when you get really good at it then you can quit".

6TLaRm4g · 2014-02-27T15:18:58+00:00

Although failing is still experience, failing without any success for extended period of time drains motivation. After certain amount of failures it becomes a permanent repulsion from activity.

calvinTower · 2014-02-27T05:35:07+00:00

I think it's a good strategy to look at failure as a positive indicator that you're pushing yourself. It's easier said then done, but if I think if you adopt this mindset you will be less afraid to fail which ultimately leads to success. Michael Jordan on the subject:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=45mMioJ5szc

Namerali · 2014-02-27T05:51:31+00:00

Good words for anyone attempting ... well ... anything. This doesn't just apply to game; this applies to life in general.

trplurker · 2014-02-27T11:33:26+00:00

One of my own personal beliefs is "everything in life is a learning experience". I believe that's a great mentality to have. Always be learning and growing, it pays huge dividends as you get older.

NikolaTeslaMGTOW · 2014-02-27T23:48:15+00:00

The first step to failure is trying -Homer Simpson

CainCain · 2014-02-28T01:39:44+00:00

You only fail when you stop learning.

The self is always curious, and always wanting to learn. You can only fail yourself.

mdadm · 2014-02-27T08:56:34+00:00

"It is only a failure if you learn nothing from it, otherwise it is experience"

Wasn't there a post about too much feelgood bullshit being posted in this sub just recently?

trophyboyfriend · 2014-02-27T13:17:46+00:00

You're damned if you do, but you're double-damned if you don't. So you might as well do.

Title	The Key To Never Failing
Author	Dysentary_Gary
Upvotes	65
Comments	24
Date	February 27, 2014 2:00 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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