I am being hateful towards incidents of Men's Rights violations

UnHope20 · 2022-11-01T10:35:57+00:00

I want to ask everyone to refrain from brigading r/MensRights. The OP is asking for our support, not for us to feud with other subreddits.

Criticism of other communities is acceptable within the context of venting and providing support to others. We are all doing a great job of that here.

Keep up the good work.

GM_Timephone · 2022-10-25T20:32:40+00:00

Social media is designed so that the content that gets the most engagement will appear at the top of your feed. Human nature is such that we are much more likely to engage with things that make us angry over things that are wholesome or make us feel happy. Therefore you are more likely to see things on r/mensrights (or any sub for that matter) that pisses you off. This may give you the impression that there is a society-wide problem of respecting the rights of men when in reality there is a selection bias happening.

This isn't to say that men's rights are never violated. They are, but it's likely the reason you're feeling so hateful is because that's what reddit does best: shows you the content that inspires hate.

My advice is to be aware of how the algorithm is manipulating your emotions and outlook on society, and to keep in mind that Reddit or any social media is not a reflection of the real world.

Additionally, one can advocate for mens rights without hate. At its core men's rights advocacy should be about love and respect for your fellow man, and not anger for non-men, or those who disregard men's rights.

BonsaiSoul · 2022-10-25T22:49:54+00:00

“He who is not angry when there is just cause for anger is immoral. Why? Because anger looks to the good of justice. And if you can live amid injustice without anger, you are immoral as well as unjust.”

— Thomas Aquinas

Instead of trying to "fix" being angry, indignant, sad or other painful, inconvenient or disruptive emotions, learn to manage your feelings better so you can live with them. Because the parts of you that you neglect will stab you in the back later.

DreadnoughtOverdrive · 2022-10-25T20:45:11+00:00

Look up the stages of grieving a loss.

Denial. Anger. Bargaining. Depression. Acceptance.

Anger is perfectly normal when suffering a loss. Totally human. It isn't healthy to get stuck in any one stage (except acceptance eventually), and some stages might be visited multiple times.

https://health.clevelandclinic.org/5-stages-of-grief/

a-man-from-earth · 2022-10-25T22:44:11+00:00

It is right to hate injustice. But we should try to channel that into action. Wallowing in rage is not healthy. So watch the kind of content you consume, and limit the rage inducing content.

This is also why on /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates we don't allow rage-bait posts and try to raise the level of conversation about problems that men face in modern society.

And alternate your consumption of political content with something more light-hearted such as gaming.

SebTheMenace · 2022-10-26T19:22:43+00:00

It was the same for me when i took the redpill but then i kinda got past it, sometimes on bad day i also get angry or even hateful and sometimes i'am fine.

What i personally do is that i write on a notebook about what pisses me off like if i was speaking to someone and it help me to let go of it

psychosythe · 2022-10-25T23:55:20+00:00

R/mensrights will turn you into the thing they claim to hate most, besides feminism. A hateful radical. For every post with even the slightest bit of helpful insight there's about 50 that are either pure ragebait or just someone wallowing in self-pity.

Granted, I don't know exactly where to find any particularly inspiring or upbeat conversations about men's issues, but r/leftwingmaleadvocates tries to keep things constructive at least.

EL_overthetransom · 2022-10-25T21:22:57+00:00

I felt the same, it was making me so angry I had to unsubscribe from there. Same with /r/Bad_Cop_No_Donut/

Title	I am being hateful towards incidents of Men's Rights violations
Author	Dark_Ruler
Upvotes	23
Comments	24
Date	October 25, 2022 7:46 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MenSupportMen
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