I think want to be with somebody and i haven’t felt like this since i found about red pill

sachs1 · 2022-09-03T07:20:48+00:00

A couple of things. The word "females" is a dead giveaway to anyone in the know that you are/have been involved heavily in the manosphere. They're people, same as everyone else, and othering them is a bad look, and almost certainly promoting some toxic thinking.

Second, I don't know you, but if I had to make a judgment call, like say, in a first date scenario, I would ghost. Talking about how all your ex's are terrible is not helpful. You are the only commonality in your previous relationships and thinking that all your ex's suck says a lot of potential things, none of them good.

I'm going to be honest, but hopefully helpful. I don't think you're ready to date at the moment. I think you need to relearn how to interact with women from a less toxic source. That said, you're aware of the issue, so you've already accomplished the hardest part, all that's left is the follow up.

GoodSilhouette · 2022-09-03T17:35:28+00:00

You use a lot of derogatory language for something you apparently do - casually date or sleep around. There are women who slept around and realized its not for them. There are women who did it and grew out of it especially at your age.

Why are you affording grace to yourself but not others?

theautumnalequinox · 2022-09-03T15:21:44+00:00

It makes me sad that you're so young and you've been marked so heavily by this ideology. Gentle correction: "I don't have a lot of bodies" makes RP men sound like serial killers. It doesn't matter how many people you've slept with--and it doesn't matter how many people they've slept with. Sexual partners does not equate to a person's value on or off the dating market.

You'll have better luck by not calling women "hoes" ever--and working on the part of yourself that feels threatened by the fact that women have other sexual experiences. Bodies are just bodies. People have lots of experiences. Sex is a way to connect to someone, not own them. Learn to enjoy the connection and drop the narrative that someone "having them before" even matters.

Inareskai · 2022-09-03T08:17:27+00:00

I second the point that "females" is a big give away. A human adult female is a woman, use the word woman instead. It will reflect much better on you and also might help you stop seeing women as something 'other'.

Additionally, there are plenty of women who are mentally and emotionally stable (as much as any person can be) and not 'run through' (this is a gross phrase, stop using it). It felt bad for you to sleep around and you're looking for someone to settle down with - arguably anyone who has the same goals and mindset would be compatible with you, even if they had had a lot of previous partners.

But also, I know loads of women who have had 1-3 partners in total, all committed relationships not one night stands etc. It's not as rare as you seem to think.

If you want to find a partner I'd recommend working out what are deal breakers for you and what your standards/expectations are in a relationship (make sure they aren't extremely high or low) and also work on raising your opinion of women in general. We're as varied and complex as men.

Xx_SwordWords_xX · 2022-09-03T10:06:12+00:00

You really haven't dropped much of the redpiller "logic"....

Normal_Cut_5386 · 2022-09-05T21:17:10+00:00

At 24 years old, you are at a good age to start looking for women who are serious about long term relationships. You should only look for women who are also 24 or older too. In my experience with college girls and seeing my relationships fail and my college buddies failures, the new age is 24 to 25 for serious maturity.

zapadz · 2022-09-03T06:47:35+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3KYYFJ-g3JE

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lOae2s8JOUE

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fIsy_HSHkKo

Title	I think want to be with somebody and i haven’t felt like this since i found about red pill
Author	CheetahMinimum7290
Upvotes	0
Comments	21
Date	September 3, 2022 5:27 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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