sex is overrated and honestly not the reason incels whine

Antisocial_Nihilist · 2023-01-08T18:18:00+00:00

If sex really isn't a big deal to you, why don't you go around sleeping with incels?

Why don't you have sex with that 5'2 engineering student with a weak chin and cystic acne? Why don't you have sex with that 4'10 broke Indian guy who works at your local gas station? Why don't you have sex with men way below your league?

Oh yeah, because sex IS a big deal. Or else women would be sleeping with incels left and right and this issue would not exist. We don't live in some dystopian reality where there is a 10:1 ratio of men to women. Currently in the world there is a relatively 50/50 split of men and women, everyone could be in a monogamous relationship if they wanted. Yet women gravitate only to a top percentage of these men, while the bottom 27%(+) are having no sex at all, and the middle class is having it only sparsely.

The sexual marketplace has been globalized and "the game" is getting harder for men literally by the day at this point. Women have more dating opportunities than at any point in human history.

hutavan · 2023-01-08T14:41:55+00:00

I can only speak for myself, but I would love it if I got sex offers from randos even if they hate and objectify me. No, it doesn't replace love and friendships, but the acknowledgement that someone finds you physically attractive is still validating.

Whisperinthelair · 2023-01-08T13:24:17+00:00

That's a foid perspective, men have higher sex drives and less focus on emotions. Also the fact you know you can get it. You're right about it not just being sex tho, incels want to be desired, and they want to fit in. It hurts them knowing they're freaks unable to experience something others are. Add to that how people treat them for being ugly and it's a hard life.

Pilling_it · 2023-01-09T16:07:19+00:00

Is getting sex offers from strangers who probably hate you, don't care about you or would fuck anything really good?

Well, men and women work differently. Try being at your peak libido all the time with a voice in your head constantly going "do it do it do it". But more than that, people desire what they can't have. Of course that's natural you wouldn't care about what you easily get - and it's natural btw.

does iit replace actual love and friendships(whether platonic or romantic) and success?

Well, platonic friendship isn't hard to get. It's just not the same thing. The reality for a man is that if you can get a woman to fuck you you won't have an issue bagging a relationship.

as a foid, i honestly don't think so, it's all empty.

Again, we all value what we can't get. And that's okay.

Green-Quantity1032 · 2023-01-08T20:32:42+00:00

Why do you think they hate you, or don't care about you?

Why can't love and friendship come WITH sex and not instead?

Of course, it can.

More often than not, people sleep with someone they like and fancy, not "oh he's hot then ok".

It's just that it's much easier to like good-looking people.

And yeah, sex itself is overrated - but everything around it (the interactions, the good reactions of the other sex to you, your feeling of self-efficacy around the other sex) is underrated.

All the same - guys who have a hard time to get sex struggle. I don't think it's anyone's responsibility to alleviate their suffering (but their own), but I recognize it does exist.

HinduProphet · 2023-01-08T19:32:49+00:00

It's about sexual ad reproductive inequality wrt womankind.

Constant_Ad6906 · 2023-01-08T22:27:53+00:00

I view relationships as a waste of time. I just want to fuck until my dick falls off.

HinduProphet · 2023-01-09T12:37:16+00:00

Why don't you look at it this way....

Men need women more for reproduction and child raising than vice versa.

This gives women a much higher bargaining power and leverage, when it comes to sex and relationships.

This power difference also translates into one sex being forced to take all their chances and the other sex being able to afford to have standards without affecting them in equal proportion.

Digital_Dankie · 2023-01-15T15:33:15+00:00

Yeah. Tbh it’s best in marriage, the implications that come with sex way out weights the pleasure you get. Sex with someone you truly love turns those implications into something worth the lifetime. Sex is to make babies out of that it’s just a bunch of issues, after the pleasure.

Kavanoz11 · 2023-01-27T07:57:36+00:00

I personally agree. As a man the #1 thing i care about is bonding with someone and buliding a family. And i am not an emotional person in the slightest.Sex without love is degeneracy,and i would not want to be a with a degenerate girl.

Title	sex is overrated and honestly not the reason incels whine
Author	puririnpa
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Comments	36
Date	January 8, 2023 12:36 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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