"What I'm doing isn't working... should I take a pause before doing more of it?"

gentle_lemon · 2023-05-08T02:40:37+00:00

OLD is tilted disproportionately in favor of women, so I’m not sure what she’s complaining about. She’s probably a tired old ‘easy’ hag and gives off the desperate vibe. Hit it and quit it.

BookkeeperJazzlike44 · 2023-05-08T02:23:59+00:00

If it's the same problem over and over it must be everyone else. There is no time for introspection

Common_Sense_Dudd · 2023-05-08T05:59:25+00:00

To be fair, plenty of mature ladies end up divorced for all sorts of reasons that are not always their own fault.

But that said, divorced ladies in their 30s, 40s, 50s and beyond can and do find love again... usually by being realistic.

You gotta have realistic standards in life. Is this lady considering men who are also divorcees? Is she open to trying a few dates with men who are visibly balding, have a couple of kids from a previous marriage (and pay child support payments) and maybe take a couple of thyroid medications? What if they need to pop a viagra once in a while? What if they cannot drink more than an occasional glass of wine, due to managing a mild heart condition? How's about if they have mostly plateaued careers in mid-level management, mediocre but okay future pensions, a modest apartment and not much ambition to shoot for the moon now?

And also... what does she bring to the table? How are her looks, health, responsibilities, commitments etc. as a mature divorcee?

If she's struggling to find, then one of these two areas is likely imbalanced.

zansiball · 2023-05-08T04:25:48+00:00

”Its a numbersgame” the biggest cope ever

Overkillengine · 2023-05-08T04:30:12+00:00

Given what one can infer from her post about her, she needs to realize that there isn't much of a marriage market for 30+ year old divorced career women.

Especially not on what women will try to pass off as using OLD apps, but are really just meat market hookup apps like Tinder. Gonna get a bunch of guys not interested in committing on those venues, and definitely not to to women like her.

SceneAccomplished549 · 2023-05-08T02:38:37+00:00

Can someone explain what "OLD" stands for

anotherdumbcaucasian · 2023-05-08T15:06:02+00:00

I was married so I guess that became my family

I guess that became my family

I GUESS

MY FAMILY

I think we figured out why she got divorced. Probably thinks the second time will work better lmao.

AbrocomaCapital3921 · 2023-05-08T22:53:46+00:00

No self awareness at all

mustangfrank · 2023-05-08T21:54:52+00:00

Boo Hoo Prince Charming has not arrived. WTF is a matter with men?

Title	"What I'm doing isn't working... should I take a pause before doing more of it?"
Author	polishknightusa
Upvotes	101
Comments	26
Date	May 8, 2023 1:49 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen
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