39m so 35f. 11 year relationship married for 6. I discovered that she was having an affair for the entire month of March, I was willing to work things out, suggested counseling but she still didn't want to do that. I have always stood by her, did everything I could to give us a decent life. I had made some bad financial decisions with great intentions, I guess it wasn't enough. She filed for the divorce, but now my thoughts are constantly consumed with agony, she is happy and I'm suffering something I don't want. We have a 3 year old daughter together. Every time we interact with each other, she acts like nothing is wrong and that is what is destroying me. I know the agony will go away but when. I am seriously struggling with all this. She says she just wasn't happy anymore and I understand that people fall out of love but doesn't change the fact that this hurts and that I was always willing to do whatever it took to make things better. I f@#@# tried damn it. Sorry for the rant, I don't really have any one to talk to so here I am just trying to get this agony out of me.