My wife took our daughter to a feminist rally with a friend. How to respond (if at all)?

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January 21, 2018

Backstory: My wife met a friend at work who is a feminist. I have no issues with her up to this point as she is a nice person and pleasant to be around. My wife (as far as I know) doesn’t subscribe to the feminist movement but enjoys her company outside of work as well.

She invites my wife and daughter to the rally/march. My wife insists on going despite my resistance. I trusted her on using her best judgment on what was appropriate for our daughter and what was not at the march. She knows my distaste for feminism.

She ends up going and the friend makes a sign for our (two year old) daughter to hold. Not sure what the sign said, something feminist of course.

I’m furious. I’m trying to remain calm but I am finding it difficult. I don’t care what my wife does, but subjecting my daughter to that is a different story.

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Title My wife took our daughter to a feminist rally with a friend. How to respond (if at all)?
Author heliken79
Upvotes 70
Comments 76
Date 21 January 2018 04:47 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev134 points135 points  (37 children) | Copy

Your wife's friend is a cancer, growing on your marriage.

She invites my wife and daughter to the rally/march. My wife insists on going despite my resistance. I trusted her on using her best judgment on what was appropriate for our daughter and what was not at the march. She knows my distaste for feminism.

Who is the head of your family, you or your wife's friend?

I’m furious. I’m trying to remain calm but I am finding it difficult. I don’t care what my wife does, but subjecting my daughter to that is a different story.

You should care very much what your wife does, because she introduced cancer into your family.

And politicizing children is a shitty thing to do.

[–][deleted] 50 points51 points  (2 children) | Copy

I completely agree with this, you should deal with this friend as if she was a cult member trying to recruit your wife.

[–]TRP VanguardHumanSockPuppet40 points41 points  (1 child) | Copy

Or worse, his offspring.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

It would be worse if his wife started to indoctrinate her in the future, that's why he should care.

[–]heliken79 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

I don’t care what she does. If she wants to put the vagina hat on and parade around, I’ll leave.

I just told her our daughter is not to be around this woman again, it’s a hard line for me. My wife is free to do what she wants. I have no problems with divorce.

[–]2comment36 points37 points  (14 children) | Copy

u/VasiliyZaitzev is correct though, women are especially prone to follow peer groups, and become like their friends.

It's like telling your daughter not to eat junk food but letting your wife bring bags of it constantly home because you "don't care what she does".

[–]heliken79 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

If I tell her to stop bringing the junk food home yet she does it anyways, that is a failure on me as a leader. It’s a metric on how I’m doing. I’m not going to impose on her free will is what I mean.

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev28 points29 points  (0 children) | Copy

She knows how much I hate feminism

So tell me again how your 2 year old daughter wound up at a feminist rally holding a sign.

[–]twonomore20 points21 points  (1 child) | Copy

This kind of thinking is how we lost the future. You are not the leader if they only follow when they agree with you.

[–]all4gibs2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy


good point here dude

[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (12 children) | Copy

Now just wait until she consults her "friend" about this, what happens.

I don't know what country/state you live in but at least talk to a divorce lawyer to simulate your options.

You should care what your wife does because she's actively sabotaging your marriage.

[–]heliken79 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

Divorce lawyer was consulted and retained months ago. If she wants to sabotage, I’m prepared.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (4 children) | Copy

Wow, that's strange since you are prepared so well and think so many steps ahead why did you need to ask us about such an obvious thing?

Did she give you a reason in the past to prepare yourself?

[–]heliken79 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

I didn’t ask if I should divorce my wife or not or if I should prepare for divorce. I asked how to respond to her taking my daughter to the rally and having her hold a sign.

Maybe the response is to prepare for divorce. If so, then I’m good. Or maybe I need to work on myself more and become someone she respects. Then I will do that.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

[–]heliken79 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

Thank you.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

No problem m8.

[–]Steve_O--1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

In Denzel's voice from the movie training day..... "My nigga"

Way to be prepared!

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev21 points22 points  (4 children) | Copy

Now just wait until she consults her "friend" about this, what happens.

This is EXACTLY the problem. A buddy of mine had a happy, by all appearances, 17 year marriage with four kids and a non-cunty wife who stayed at home. He left his well-paying gig to start his own business and hit it out of the park - in his first year he grossed DOUBLE what his previous (six-figure) salary had been.

Wifey, though, was nervous that they didn't "have benefits" even though they could have simply bought a "catastrophic" policy and paid for everything else out of pocket - remember, he's making 2x his former salary - so she gets a job as a teacher making $45k.

Within a year she walks in the door and announces they are getting divorced. He's blindsided. Why? Well, the real reason was she had been sitting around the teacher's lounge with a bunch of bitter bitches who hate their husbands. They were unhappy, and unhappy women do not want ANYONE to be happy, so they started in on her marriage and wifey didn't figure out what was going on.

All told, he'll be out a few million, all told, in the divorce. Let that sink in. Bitter cunts in the teachers lounge, he loses 7 figures. But hey, at least all 3 of his kids are his. I know other guys where the last kid isn't the husband's kid.

Anyway, happily for our friend he has an Uncle Vasya. So after he recovered, emotionally, I taught him how to kill it, and his new gf is 18 years his junior. Wifey is figuring out that, even though she didn't blimp out like other wives, she's a mid-40s single mom, and is no longer a sought-after 22 y.o. hottie. Although not popular as an opera plot, "living well" really is the best revenge.

[–]frequentlywrong6 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy

Your friend had a ton of signals beforehand. Shit like that does not happen completely out of the blue. When changing careers he also did a bad job of putting her at ease.

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

That’s usually the case, but less so in this one. Also he was sitting on a couple of mill which should have chilled her out on the career change. He should have said ”Yeah, we’ll get a catastrophic policy, and u can stay home with the kids, like always”.

Marriage is like the Jesuits; you only really know if you’re on the inside, but there are definitely things he could have done to avoid the divorce rape.

[–]frequentlywrong0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

He either broke the illusion of security, which is a big part of what being a leader is and failed the subsequent shit tests and things spiraled. Or they were not as happy as they appeared originally.

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Or...she started hanging out with cunty, meddling bitches. Not everything is automatically the guy’s fault. Get that blue pill Oprah shit outta here.

[–]iLLprincipLeS 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

Is your wife's friend married? Has children?

[–]heliken79 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

No and no.

[–]damaged_goods4205 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

What a surprise

[–]iLLprincipLeS 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

Then ask your wife why is she following an unmarried childless woman?

She wants to end up like that?

Use arguments like:

You want our daughter to grow up to be a freak?


Come on honey, these women are crazy..

Try not to attack directly your wife, but do a character assassination of her friend.

You can also send your wife "funny" feminist videos.

Don't be offended by feminism, don't lash out, your wife will think you just want to control her and your daughter. Instead make your wife realize feminism is not what she thinks it is and offer an alternative to her desire of her daughter growing up to be a "strong independent woman" and discuss already things like what school/college you will send her or what she will be allowed to do with boys when she grows up... be the one that SPINS your wife's hamster, not her feminist friend!

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Try not to attack directly your wife or her choices, but do a character assassination of her friend.

This is really good advice. Use machiavellianism, character assassination. Ridicule her and portray as an bad influence and possible threat, but don't attack directly.

[–]Endorsed Contributor: "The Court Jester"GayLubeOil50 points51 points  (10 children) | Copy

Your wife is subjecting your children to degeneracy and your anger is rightfully justifiable. As a father your job is not only to defend your family from physical threats but also ideological threats. Men who don't understand this are fathers to tranny boys.

Anyway sometimes you got to put a woman in her stupid fucking place. Iv done it on numerous occasions and iv yet to regret it.

[–]heliken79 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

Thank you. Collected myself and did this yesterday.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (8 children) | Copy

How’d it go?

[–]heliken79 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

Me: “Our daughter is not to be around this woman ever again”

Her: “She was just just trying to be nice, hamster, hamster, hamster”

Me: “If you don’t like it, there is the door”

Her: “I can’t believe how easy it is for you to just leave, you’re being incredibly mean, it really shows how little you care about me, you’re saying if I hang around her that you’ll divorce me” crying.

Me: “ok” stfu.

[–]cappingPeople12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy

Never play the divorce card too much. It will lose it's power and you yours. Only play it when you're in the situation where everything is going to hell. Until then hint it. "If I fuck up he might leave!".

[–]PreOrgasmGroanLness1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good tip. Work up to it.

[–][deleted] 13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

Right couse of action.

A man is always alone anyway

[–]Taipanshimshon4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

Wait. Did you catch how you’d be the one out of the house ??


[–]all4gibs2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy


it’s true though. kick a woman out of your house and the cops will be at your door within 30 minutes

[–]Taipanshimshon4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I did. No cops

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon10 points11 points  (3 children) | Copy

My wife (as far as I know) doesn’t subscribe to the feminist movement but enjoys her company outside of work as well.

AWALT. You're married. watch out.

I trusted her

uh oh

I’m furious. I’m trying to remain calm but I am finding it difficult. I don’t care what my wife does, but subjecting my daughter to that is a different story.

Well, there's fuck all you can do about it unless you have some leverage in the situation.

[–]heliken79 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

Does being 38, best shape of my life, no trouble pulling 25 year olds, 6 figures, a job that I love and is fun. While she is 35, 20-30lbs overweight with two kids from two different dad’s, count?

I’m not asking to ego boost, I really am asking if this is leverage?

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

I’m not asking to ego boost, I really am asking if this is leverage?

This is not leverage. You are married to her. Likely you'll be paying her if she leaves you. This puts you in a fundamentally weak position. "I'm in good shape at the gym" doesn't really help in court, does it?

[–][deleted] 24 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds to me like you have a problem with holding authority over your own household. Your wife clearly does not listen to the "captain".

I have no issues with her up to this point as she is a nice person and pleasant to be around.

Yeah, she's doing it so you won't interfere.

My wife (as far as I know) doesn’t subscribe to the feminist movement

Watch what they do, don't listen to what they say. "My wife doesen't subsribe to the feminist movement but she INSISTED on going on a feminist rally"...

"Your Girlfriend’s Friends Are Your Enemy"

This is very dangerous to your marriage and especially your daughter.

Most women become feminists because they're ugly or salty with Chads.

Your wife's new "friend" is most probably jealous of her family life and will try and sabotage it(crabs in a bucket mentality).

She already should have crossed your boundaries with involving your daughter in a movement that may change her into something you would rather not:

You need to deal with this "friend" with high priority.

I'm not you but I think that if you explicitly forbade your wife to hang out with this woman and told her to change her job she wouldn't listen to you as she clearly lacks respect for you or just disregards your authority in the marriage. Taking a two year old to a feminist rally? Fucking retared, especially after the antifa riots.

I would deal with this shit like a man. Send daughter to a friend or something and while keeping frame have a serious discussion with wife how this has got to stop or you will check the fuck out. Show some authority. - but this is dangerous as it could trigger a divorce rape.

But I wouldn't be in this predicament in the first place because I won't get married. Right now you are risking a divorce rape and child alimony while your daughter becomes a bull-horn wearing slut.

Google: "Dealing with BrainWashed Family Members" and "How to talk someone out of a cult" because feminism should be considered a brainwashing cult.

Also every potential conflict with your wife about this will be used by her "friend" against your marriage.

If I were you I would watch carefully what happens during the next few weeks(daughter and wife) and plan my moves carefully.

You either deal with it or wait until your wife will want to cuck you with her new bull that she met through her "friend" and call you a oppresive chuvanist pig if you won't eat her pussy with his cum in it.

First of all start talking to a divorce lawyer and prepare yourself. Nothing good is going to come out of this.


Sever all emotional ballast. Take on all debt. File for divorce. Then file for bankruptcy. Start over a new man. That’s living the new American Dream.

[–]all4gibs11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

there are generally two types of feminists:

1) SJW, anti-male, female supremacists 2) ignorant followers thinking the movement is for suffering women

#2 enables and justifies #1 and i wouldn’t tolerate either of them in my household

i look at it this way. out of maybe 20 disqualifiers i have when seeking out a LTR, the number one red flag is any hint of feminism and would put divorce on the table. it seems your wife doesn’t really know what she’s doing, so i’d find out what her intentions are parading around whining about female oppression in a western country (with your daughter nonetheless). if she wanted to escalate the situation, i’d honestly peace out. if she backpedals, it’d be time to set clear boundaries for her and your daughter

men won’t be able to put a stop to this feminist garbage if they continue putting up with blatant disrespect

[–]BlackMisc9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

i would get really pissed off if my wife would drag a 2 year old who doesn't know yet what to believe in 2 a brainwashing feminist march.

making a child of 2 hold a sign for any protest is outrageous and wrong

[–]Rollo_Mayhem33 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Everything boils down to male leadership and unremitting masculinity.

[–]Metalageddon2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your wife's friend has absolutely no business placing words in your child's mouth as a poster for her agenda.

Your wife should've said no.

I understand your concern. Time to have a conversation with your wife.

[–]FrancoB42 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

Divorce your wife and save your assets so you don’t get divorce-raped. You should not tolerate feminism in your household at all. Imagine the results of feminist conditioning in your house for the next 20 years.

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Or this.

If everything else fails start planning your escape with a divorce lawyer.

If your wife divorce rapes you first you will not be able to continue being a father figure in your daughters life.

[–]bensake20167 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Listen to what your wife is REALLY communicating. The fact that her going to a fem rally has caught you off guard shows that she has been a feminist for a while. Obedient wives don't just go to fem rallies on the spur of a moment. There were plenty of red flags along the way that you chose to ignore.

As for the anger, channel it towards the mirror. Chastise yourself for not dealing with this much sooner. But DO NOT ever show that anger towards her, or your daughter, as this is exactly what your wife is expecting (you've been playing her game after all, so she can read you like a book).

As an immediate short-term solution, do the complete opposite of what you FEEL like doing.

You feel like getting angry? Start laughing, watch a comedy, or anything that will make a joke of the situation.

You feel like talking to your wife about this (aka man-splaining and reasoning, from her point of view), then do the opposite: don't talk, do. DO fuck her brains out without a word. DO not have a cozy conversation afterward. DO anything, but NO talking. This will restore your mysteriousness to her.

Read the 16 commandments of poon, and start chizzling at each of them one by one. This will take time, but better late than never, and in your case, sounds like this is a very salvagable situation. Your daughter will thank you for it later, She is, after all, watching you intently to see how you will respond to this. The "friend" can also read you like a book, and is already telling her, "oh your Dad, WHEN he gets angry, just ignore him and do what you feel is right, bla bla bla." You not getting angry, and doing the opposite will not only catch your daughter's attention, but may save her life someday from the drudge of feminism, since now you would have the upper hand after proving the fem-friend wrong.

[–]ayefranco5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Unfortunately my good man.. this is a prepping for your daughter to run around with the "sexually liberated" stamp on her forehead as she.. Well.. You know the rest, good luck brother.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy

Haha had to be like some coordinated thing, city I'm currently in just had one and it was as big of a joke as you could imagine.

100k ugly fat alternate looking bitches United against nothing.

Check your wife.

[–]all4gibs1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

against nothing

they are slowly steering the ship to become bipartisan. give it another year or two and it will clearly be anti-trump

[–]juliusstreicher-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

Excuse me, you aren't in America, are you. They are 100% against The Donald, and have been from the beginning.

[–]all4gibs0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

not 100%

there are women like OP’s wife who go because they are not yet fully indoctrinated to the anti-trump cult

[–]juliusstreicher0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Every single person who goes just to look may not be, yet, but, the marches are as I stated.

[–]DeathToTheZog4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Launch. Da. Nuke.

[–]123456654321 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

[–]iArribi1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Pro tip: dont let your battery go above 80% and below 20% if you can, to extend its life

[–]frequentlywrong1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

No need to overreact. You should remind her her friend is a miserable childless woman if she comes at you with some stupid feminist shit.

[–]Ou-tis0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Take your daughter phisically elsewhere.

[–]Taipanshimshon0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

Your response should have been to grab her by the pussy.

Your wife. Not your kid.

[–]all4gibs0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

thanks for clarifying

[–]juliusstreicher0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I thought he meant the wife's friend.

[–]Taipanshimshon0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Jesus Christ. I was being sarcastic with the clarification.

[–]juliusstreicher0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I know. I was being sarcastic with the alternative. Chill, bro.

[–]Wowtcg12-3 points-2 points  (1 child) | Copy

yo what the fuck is this subreddit. youre a fucking pussy if you cant let your wife go to a feminist rally. I agree she shouldnt be using your daughter in a political sense but cmon dude it's a fucking womans march not a god damn nazi rally

[–]juliusstreicher-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm a Nazi, and a 'fucking woman's march' is 1 million times worse than any "Nazi rally". At least for the daughter.

[–]Cowsareblack-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Grow up and realize that your wife and daughter are their own people. Stop being a control freak about non issues like this.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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