What leverage do you hold in your relationship

EverVigilant1 · 2023-07-05T17:54:36+00:00

Leaving. Also, I earn 90% of the family income.

Specific_Praline_362 · 2023-07-05T17:40:51+00:00

My husband and I both have equal "leverage" in our relationship. Either of us have the option to leave, and neither of us want the other to leave. We don't try to force one another to comply with anything.

zyex12 · 2023-07-05T16:46:51+00:00

I don’t have any power plans because that’s Not how u enter a relationship this isn’t a chess match on who can gain more power and who has the best strategy this is a relationship where we should be equals. I shouldn’t have to have leverage to get my partner to comply I should just be able to have a genuine conversation

Beebum5 · 2023-07-05T18:00:09+00:00

Ahaha what? To answer your question we both have equal leverage.

I never want to lose my husband but if he tried any of the shit you listed I’d leave him and absolutely make his life a living hell bc I’m petty like that. I feel so bad for your wife if what you’re saying isn’t bs lmfaooo

Drive-By-Cuckers · 2023-07-05T18:04:35+00:00

Damn bro you’re a complete sociopath, you’re out here speaking your truth like you’re revealing some grand realization to the masses but in reality you’re just Dennis explaining the DENNIS system to the gang

Yes if you emotionally manipulate people and do not care about their emotional well-being or happiness you are able to extract the maximum possible value from your relationship with them

Why stop there? Why not just take her on a boat and she won’t say no because of the implication? Why not just lock her in the basement now you have all the leverage?

Emotional abuse is abuse and even though it might not be as bad as literally kidnapping people it’s still morally bankrupt and I hope you don’t bring kids into the situation because then they will likely be emotionally abused as well.

wes_bestern · 2023-07-06T01:42:05+00:00

This is psychotic... but it's also on par with the way a lot of women covertly strategize relationships. When you do this, it makes women feel excused to do the same and it's sad and degrading and controlling.

LiftSushiDallas · 2023-07-06T02:23:23+00:00

Your wife is very good at keeping her side boyfriends to herself. I always thought women were better at cheating than men.

DearCommunication919 · 2023-07-06T11:05:50+00:00

I am single so I hold 100% leverage over myself. Suck it simps.

NaughtyPlant · 2023-07-07T01:20:27+00:00

If you're really that worried about having leverage over your partner you probably shouldn't be in a relationship just saying.... This goes for men and women.

Like seriously I've never been with someone and contemplated the amount of power I do or don't have over them. That's fucking sick and I feel sorry for your wife.

bitter_sweet_69 · 2023-07-07T20:11:56+00:00

a good relationship should not be about power. it's supposed to be a team, collaborating for a common/greater goal.

meaning:

in some areas there might be equality (for example, deciding where to go on holiday, or debating the question if pets - or even kids - are part of the picture).

in other fields, the actual "power" might simply depend on practical reasons, like competence. if partner A is the better cook, let them be responsible for cooking (and probably shopping). if partner B is better with numbers, let them be in charge of the money, tax, rent etc.

the sooner (and clearer) these foundations are set up, the better.

Title	What leverage do you hold in your relationship
Author	throwawayVishot
Upvotes	1
Comments	31
Date	July 5, 2023 4:44 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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