Rant

BosPatriot71 · 2023-07-29T13:21:30+00:00

Tough hits across the board, sir. But I can feel your strength and determination in this message.

So sorry this is all happening but a better version of you is going to emerge and I wish you all the best as you start new chapters.

SilentMinimum7739 · 2023-07-29T19:02:03+00:00

You will land the job, you’re life will fall apart just so it fall back into place. Best of luck.

lebonroidagobert · 2023-07-30T02:09:12+00:00

Well fuck. I’m sorry dude. Hang in there. Better days ahead. One day at a time.

yuehhangalt · 2023-07-30T02:24:27+00:00

If it helps, I was in a similar situation years ago. I discovered my ex’s infidelity which triggered ptsd symptoms and severe depression. Despite informing my boss and requesting some accommodations due to my mental and emotional state, I was fired a few months later, just after the holidays. Needless to say, I had contemplated suicide often during that time.

My previous employer petitioned to deny my unemployment claim but the state ruled in my favor. Finding a job, however, took more time than expected. I had plenty of interviews but my background is somewhat unique so it was common to hear that I was overqualified or didn’t have the specific specialization they wanted.

Eventually got a contracting gig but was barely getting by. I was living a frugal life, but was still in the red and exhausting any savings I had just to pay rent and child support.

Long story short, a year later, I received a call about a job I applied to back when I was still married. I interviewed and within a month i was at a new job making twice my pre-divorce salary. A year after that I was able to buy a house.

I spent the years after my divorce in therapy and at the gym. I read, I picked up yoga, journaling, and meditation practices… anything I could to heal myself and better myself. I’m now in the best shape of my life and in a better place than I was in my marriage. I still miss the woman I married and just being married, but I’ve dated and had experiences and learned so much that I simply never would have if I was still married so for that I’m grateful.

It sucks, especially the place where you are right now, but the good thing about hitting rock bottom is that there’s only one direction you can go and that’s up. It sounds like you’ve got the right attitude, so I’m confident you’ll do what needs to be done and be better for it. Best of luck in the job search.

ranger69danger · 2023-07-30T07:15:03+00:00

Yo brother. It sounds like you have been taking some really hard hits, with more to come.

Keep your chin up. You have the attitude to make this work. You can do it, we here support you.

Title	Rant
Author	Rollercoaster72
Upvotes	8
Comments	9
Date	July 29, 2023 4:05 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/15cidof/rant/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/Divorce_Men/rant.1226850 https://theredarchive.com/post/1226850

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