What to do

Careless_Payment9298 · 2023-10-01T18:18:32+00:00

At 45, with four kids , my world fell apart. I lost my house, my job, my car, you name it. I ended up in a spare room at my sister's, just trying to get joint custody of my kids. To be honest, there were moments I just wanted everything to end, and I couldn't imagine ever feeling happy again.
Fast forward to now: I run my own business, have written three books, live in better house, and have an amazing job. Plus, I am now in a relationship with a more beautiful lady who is much more loyal and easy going. I hate that my kids had to see their home split, but aside from that, life's looking up. Hang in there. Don’t give up.

Ok-Software4407 · 2023-10-01T10:27:05+00:00

I am in a similar situation. It is incredibly hard to find a way to be happy without the kids. People who say things about more time for my career or the possibility of dating other people seem out of touch.

I am a 40 yr old male. Two boys. 10 and 11. They are my whole world. Without them, there is no enthusiasm for anything.

I hold onto the hope that things will be better later. It is incredibly hard to get there though. “Later” seems so far away.

Jimbothebimbo696969 · 2023-10-02T03:46:33+00:00

Man, this page is depressing. For the fact we’re all Going through the same shit. Stay strong fellas

Realistic-Tone1824 · 2023-10-01T16:16:16+00:00

Fight for custody.

Katnipscorpion · 2023-10-02T20:56:02+00:00

Some small advice from a woman ( I don't know the rules here)

This isn't gonna be easy While I understand you're going for small wins, please try something Goals, I know you're running a blank on your exact goals and only thinking about your children, but you need to get moving again

Rules No pushing yourself too far (won't get you to the end faster) Give yourself a break (you're dealing with a lot, it's ok to take a breath) It's ok to ask for help (everyone needs help. One step at a time, you'll get there) You are loved (people do love you, even when you're alone, you've always got someone) Do not overwhelm yourself any further than you are (this advice is only if you are a bit stuck )

the first goal is something that will take a few weeks, maybe 2 months (quick easy tick it off)

Second goal Might take a year or two, but if you know it's possible, go for it, could be therapy, or a marathon, whatever you know you can succeed in within 1-2 years, and don't rush yourself you are allowed to take time

Third goal Might take 5-10, do not rush this one be patient, I understand that is easier said than done, but you need to make sure you slowly think and work on this goal.

Title	What to do
Author	Ok-Suit1420
Upvotes	5
Comments	12
Date	October 1, 2023 5:29 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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