How to start a divorce

SamdeOakland · 2024-05-16T05:39:47+00:00

Thx a lot I did fill by myself. I should have a default next Monday

mrclark121 · 2023-10-05T17:03:33+00:00

Believe me brother your starting a divorce with nada your' one of the lucky ones. Educate yourself quickly though. That scene can turn on you in an ugly way out of nowhere. http://rightidea.xyz/5yU

Salty-Rutabaga-3329 · 2023-10-05T15:30:14+00:00

You should know the average cost of divorce in your area. You should know alimony rules and guidelines. If you both have retirement accounts, you should know the balances (without tipping her off). Retirement accounts may require a specialized QDRO lawyer. Be aware of that. Probably $500 - $5000.

You should have an idea of how much the divorce will cost through those. Measure the need for a lawyer against what's on the table.

Locality matters a lot with this stuff. Go on meetup and find a practical divorce group. If it's a shared moments and support kind of thing, well, that's great (seriously). But you also want local practical advice, attorney suggestions, procedure help, and a glimpse at other people's outcomes. This might be a coffee machine kind of discussion with group members.

Like others are saying, prep work is really important. The better prepped, the easier it will be both logistically and emotionally. Prep as much as you can before telling her.

A lot of people have walk away marriages. The divorce is just going to the court enough times to learn how to fill out the paperwork correctly. Cheap. No kids. No money. No alimony. It helps if both sides are "fed up" and just want to part ways as cheaply and quickly as possible. They do fine without a lawyer. But it's a narrow slice of the divorce spectrum.

Gattsama · 2023-10-05T10:30:03+00:00

Things vary from state to state. Go to the government website for your state. They will often have all the files online and a general overview. Basically:

You file You divide all marital assets and debts 50/50 If one of your qualifies spousal support

I filed myself. No attorney. Downloaded the pdfs from the state website and went to the locL court house. Ended up getting an attorney as she got one, and off we went (also no kids).

If things are amicable can just use a DIY website. Fill out forms, have them file, judge signs and done. But need to check how your state works: mandatory waiting period, spousal support, etc

Ecstatic-Hospital500 · 2023-10-05T10:29:14+00:00

Lawyer up .

captainchippsixx · 2023-10-05T09:15:38+00:00

1- Figure out where you are going to live. Figure out what paperwork you need to file for divorce. 2- slowly move out any prized possessions to family or storage 3- change your direct deposit to go to a new account. Change passwords. Look at your other accounts- like credit cards. Hopefully your separate. 4- call your family and tell them what is going on. Then call her family and do the same. Have an idea where you can go temp if she goes bananas.
Right after the calls then tell your spouse if you can manage the thing.

5- if you feel Your spouse will react poorly. Might want to record the conversations.

goldnugget1988 · 2023-10-05T07:58:26+00:00

Go to the local courtroom, ask for divorce paperwork, and fill out it out truthfully. You can get a lawyer at this point if you think it's going to be a bad one. Otherwise, fill it out you're self. There are also some help desk resources in most courtrooms that will help, but they will not give any opinions on the matter, only what goes where. After that, turn in the paperwork, and the court will find a served guy who will find the spouse and give her the paper and they have 30 days to fill out and turn in otherwise it will be uncontested. Hopefully, it all goes well, I'm sure their will be a more informed answer, I only got served myself on Monday, so I'm by far no expert If you need to talk, u can always dm me I'm not doing much besides trying to find some control in my life haha

Title	How to start a divorce
Author	SamdeOakland
Upvotes	7
Comments	12
Date	October 5, 2023 7:30 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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