Wife divorced me because I didn’t want kids - what should I do now?

Diablo_Canyon2 · 2023-10-21T22:45:54+00:00

Grieve the loss, then move on with your life.

Putrid-Blacksmith935 · 2023-10-21T21:24:26+00:00

You did great you stood on your principles. You will resent her for ever and live a life unfulfilling. You will grow to hate her and yourself if you have a child when you are not ready. You need to go to the gym. You need to sleep 8hrs religiously ( use a humidifier with lavender). You will need to eat healthy foods and drink 1 gallon of water each day. ( make smoothie with tamerik and ginger). You need to find your friends that you did sports with and just play outside. Do not go on social media looking for a new girl ( you are too vulnerable because u want to fill the gap she left behind). Change your phone # and all your passwords to all your accounts including your phone. Start doing choirs in your house and clear out all memories of her. Improve yourself make goals that take 6 months to 1 year. I’m almost 2 months separated and I promise it gets easier eventually. The only thing hard is being happy but u won’t be able to control that for awhile it’s apart of the process. But physically your body will remember your confidence and you will be able to be the person before you ever met her. That’s gonna be your goal. If life sucked before her than be the person you admire. Go back to school, go get that job u wanted. Don’t waste your time with family they won’t understand your pain they will advise u something stupid like get over her quick scammer energy and likely they will charge you with asking u for money when all you want is their time to talk. 2 months later you will be on the right path but I can’t promise you will be happy but you will have the freedom to discover your full potential as a man. I have 3 year old I love him but I was not ready to have a child. Life is so much harder when u bring a child into the world when you can’t afford to keep the cost of living let alone save anything for your future. Regardless don’t get trapped be the best you can be before committing to having a kid

Signal-Dot2326 · 2023-10-21T21:44:30+00:00

Celebrate

NefariousNaz · 2023-10-21T23:01:21+00:00

Find someone that don't mind not having children

RunTheBull13 · 2023-10-21T21:25:35+00:00

It's something that should have been discussed before getting married. There are plenty of women I have seen on the dating apps that say they don't want kids.

Throwaway_858493 · 2023-10-21T21:26:37+00:00

Go have a kid with a 10/10 /s

Enjoy life man. That’s all you can do. Be proud of yourself for sticking to your principles.

techrmd3 · 2023-10-21T21:58:45+00:00

eh it's not nice but in the end you did not want to have kids "with her"

in the future you will have time to review this decision

Unfortunately, women's fertility does end as the age. She is probably correct in making this front and center of her thinking of the future. She made it plain her thinking was "kid now" and you are either onboard with that or you are not.

This is probably for the best. Because if you thought she was special or wanted to have kids with this woman... you would have knocked her up.

You not doing that is an answer in and of itself.

Title	Wife divorced me because I didn’t want kids - what should I do now?
Author	ThrowRAtsatcheese2
Upvotes	3
Comments	17
Date	October 21, 2023 9:00 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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