Going through a divorce. Missouri. I make 4x what she does. 9 years married. 2 young kids. She's cold, calculating, manipulative, and controlling. She uses every opportunity to restrict my autonomy, often under the guise of "concern for me / the kids". She'll make no mistakes during the divorce. I, on the other hand, let my emotions get the best of me sometimes. I call her names -- like a leech, a thief, and a parasite -- and generally rant about the unfairness of it all. Not always, but maybe once a month during a depressive episode. Fortunately, it's only words. I've never raised a hand at her and never would.

I know I'm going to get taken to the cleaners. I just want to know how bad can it get?