I’ve always been perceived as a nice guy, how can I be “badboy” for real and forever

OrzhovPalatine · 2022-10-29T02:00:38+00:00

How to kill this “nice guy” attitude forever

You have to actually believe in what you're doing.

Honestly you dont really kill it totally until you reach a breaking point. You can "play a bad boy version" of yourself short term to get the feel of it but it doesnt really sink in until you're just fed up being a doormat all the time.

How to approach a girl, if not nice at first?

When you approach a girl your objective should be: make her feel something anything be it negative or positive. Being "nice" is like getting the most plainest flavorless food ever, it doesn't do anything.

As to how it looks, you tease her, make her laugh, push her buttons, etc etc.

Last, how can I be a bad-boy?

Again you can learn to cosplay as a badboy short term but you dont really internalize it until you get to a point where you just say fuck it.

The badboy is just that guy that isnt afraid to voice his wants and doesnt apologize. Hes not a complete dickhead, he just seems like it because he doesnt coddle people, particularly women.

I was a nice guy and at first I just picked a guy that fit that archetype and played my version of him to figure it out. Over time and some wear and tear I was more seasoned and didnt need to cosplay anymore cause I legit didnt care anymore what others thought.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-10-29T05:16:42+00:00

1 - Stop trying to get a girlfriend, and focus only on getting sex without any commitment or feelings involved. Never confess feelings, never ask her to be your girlfriend.

2 - Be willing to lie to them to get what you want, just sex.

3 - Mess with them, go hot and cold, sometimes act interested in them, sometimes to completely cold.

4 - Tease them, provoke them, roast them, make fun of them playfully…

5 - Get a masculine haircut, a nice fade on the sides of your head.

6 - Consider tattoos, piercings, necklaces and show more skin in the chest, the arms, shoulders,…

7 - Improve your physique, get muscles, abs,… you have to look like a bad boy, and bad boys tend to be fit and it shows.

Dorsiflexionkey · 2022-10-29T09:29:13+00:00

The real issue is that you don't want to be a "badboy" you just want to be yourself and be confident doing it. Are you really a "nice guy" somebody who's nice? If so, why would being nice hurt your chances? Before you say "because I'm a doormat" that's wrong, nice people aren't doormats, that has nothing to do with being nice and everything to do with being insecure and low self esteem. Dwayne the rock Johnson is (seems) a nice guy, but do you really think he'll take your shit if you tried to fuck with him?

What you need to do is be nice for genuine reasons, not out of politeness or social conditioning or fear, you be nice because you want to be nice and you want to improve yourself. Then you work on your confidence: gym/hobbies/career etc. These are physical and real tangible things you can work on that improve your self esteem. People's confusion with confidence comes because they're judging themselves with their current confidence levels thinking that if they were actually ripped or rich they would still have the same mindset.. no you don't trust me. When you lose that belly or you work your ass off for that surgeon role you will actually respect yourself.

tldr: do MMA come back in a year and thank us.

jkendall80 · 2022-10-29T04:30:29+00:00

I recently read No More Mr Nice Guy. I wish I found it 10+ years ago.

vecaye · 2022-10-29T19:56:07+00:00

Have trust issues and hate the world. Whether that actually gets you the pum pum is another question

SleepyPotential · 2022-10-29T04:34:16+00:00

If you have thinning hair, shave it bald.

Wear all black, and only wear high end tailored suits and formal wear.

Drive a blacked out 911 gt2rs.

Girls will think who the fuck is that guy. He must be a G.

When you talk to girls, treat them like shit. They love it

NorthCompetition4334 · 2022-10-29T06:25:39+00:00

Dress up as a prison inmate for Halloween and ask girls if they like bad boys

Zealousideal6669 · 2022-10-29T08:30:21+00:00

Just to make it clear, being nice is not a bad thing, it's probably the best way to socialize or make friends but it's pretty much useless for girls why? it's nice to be nice but if you can only be nice that's the main problem. If you cant get what you want by not being that nice but rather standing up and asking for what you wanna get or what you deserve you gonna be a push not just with girls but in other areas of life as well. So as a weird mix of a nice guy and a bad guy usually the best combination in my experience if you're socially calibrated but don't give af if you disagree with her on something, you express that, if you wanna say something but you think that she's not gonna like it you say it out loud anyway if she disrespects you or hurt your boundaries you stand up for yourself or you walk away if you have to. If you're a nice guy but you're also capable of those things its probably the best personality that a girl can get

mangoem_8564 · 2022-10-29T09:37:17+00:00

There's a difference between nice and easy, you can be a nice person but don't diminish yourself. What people want is the spotlight and they love fighting for it. You have to give them the illusion that they're fighting. Because when u work for something and finally get it, you feel good. Be nice but have boundaries, dont be to direct about your intensions, get a sense of humor and keep your options open. People love what they can't get.

3boodqt · 2022-10-29T09:54:05+00:00

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MassageByDmitry · 2022-10-29T11:00:22+00:00

Slap your momma you bad boy

Title	I’ve always been perceived as a nice guy, how can I be “badboy” for real and forever
Author	3boodqt
Upvotes	19
Comments	22
Date	October 29, 2022 12:30 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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