I’m 19 and really want a girlfriend. The problem is I literally don’t know where to meet anyone who will be a good match for me. I don’t particularly like clubbing and most girls there are either not looking for anything or just want to hookup and that’s it.

Not being big headed here in anyway, but I’ve been lifting for 5 years and have a good physique, and I would consider myself attractive as I have been complimented on my looks my whole life. However, looks without confidence doesn’t really get you anywhere. I’m doing my best to improve my confidence, it’s just there’s always this sickening anxiety I get around girls I like. Trust me I’m doing what I can to improve myself, and to just treat them like normal human beings and not some mythical creature lol. Apart from going to the gym and working, I see the same people everyday. I don’t have many friends, as from leaving school my relationships with people slowly faded away. So meeting new people at this point in time seems impossible.

I know it seems silly to ask, but is it really as simple as plucking up the courage and just talking to a girl I find attractive in the street or the shops? What’s the best way to get over that burst of anxiety when you want to approach a girl but it holds you back?

FYI- I’ve tried tinder and bumble and they’re honestly so bad, 90% of girls on there only care about traffic to their Instagram. I’ve had over 400 matches on tinder nothing really goes anywhere, no matter how I try to approach a new match. I’ve had a few phone calls to arrange a date but still, either they’re too far away or our schedules don’t align so the idea gets beat off.

Any advice here is really appreciated. I’m also still a virgin. Even though I’ve had opportunities to lose it, I’ve always held back cos it’s been with girls I don’t have a emotional connection with. I just hate the fact almost all my peers have surpassed me in every way when it comes to women. I’m fed up, lonely, and actually want to experience affection.

Cheers guys