Turned down group “date” for first time meeting

TheStumblingWolf · 2018-03-23T17:40:49+00:00

You acted according to your own wishes. Nothing weird about that.

jessne1 · 2018-03-23T18:34:58+00:00

You did he right thing cause double dates are retarded and waste of your time.

fnordsnord · 2018-03-23T17:44:56+00:00

deleted ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^0.6771 ^^What ^^is ^^this?

asapzombie · 2018-03-23T20:13:43+00:00

« Omg cindy all these faggot dudes want to have sex after our date... we should go together so we have an excuse to not bring them home.. plus we can get twice as drunk on their tab teehee!! »

FlyingSexistPig · 2018-03-23T18:03:38+00:00

If she's hot, nobody tells her no.

I would guess that this would only increase her interest in you.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2018-03-23T20:52:37+00:00

A. Girls are retarded.

B. If a girl wants to "bring friends" or whatever, I decline and then pass if she insists that it's the only way she will meet me. Fuck that noise.

Metalageddon · 2018-03-23T21:59:40+00:00

Good job. Don't even worry about it.

I've gotten the "friends" date offer before, I simply refuse, same as you.

Oh I'm interested in you, not your entourage, maybe another time.

Auvergnat · 2018-03-24T01:53:32+00:00

I may have gone along with the idea.

Standard TRP answer is that it's a bad idea to meet a girl other than one-on-one. However, I would argue that this comes from a time pre-tinder and pre-#metoo era. Back then, going on a date with a girl meant you already met her, and gamed her well enough to get her number, so if she wanted to bring along friends at your next meet, it would be a bad sign that she's using you for a ride.

But for a girl nowadays, having to meet a random guy she never saw in person, by herself, must be quite scary. Especially in the context of the media portraying all men as rapists.

So I am starting considering accepting these sorts of ideas. It would be like taking back a few steps, back to night game: you meet her while she's out in a social environment with friends, DHV the group, neg her, hook her, get her to qualify herself, isolate her from the group when she's attracted, and take it from there.

leftajar · 2018-03-24T00:35:59+00:00

You did good. Always, always say "no" to hanging out with her friends.

mushroom_overlord · 2018-03-24T00:38:29+00:00

Not weird at all. She can take your offer or leave it. If she declines, next.

Peter_B_Long · 2018-03-24T00:50:59+00:00

I went out with a plate last year. She brought her friend and her friend was meeting a match from CMB. My homie ended up meeting us there later. Long story short, we ditched the CMB dude and my boy ended up with my plate's friend.

So, good job.

Mr-Ed209 · 2018-03-24T09:19:38+00:00

Take charge dude. Women are terrible at planning dates and they will always verge towards having a bail out plan if you turn out to be some sucker. Women's nervousness about dating isn't that you're going to rape and abuse them despite what #metoo leads you to believe. It's more that the man is just not going to 'get it' and things are going to be awkward between the two of you.

It's a shit test and an obvious one. You negate it by having confidence and showing her that you know what you're doing.

'ye no thanks on the double date lol. Tell you what, lets meet at x place x time. Just the two of us'

Is all that needs to be said. She might test further, you just have to show you're willing to walk away. If she's not down to meet on her own (like a grown adult) she ain't worth it.

Title	Turned down group “date” for first time meeting
Author	5beams5
Upvotes	15
Comments	20
Date	March 23, 2018 5:31 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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