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[–]Delicious_Ad_1853 44 points45 points46 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Sex fluctuates over time. A single week is a really small sample size. If the relationship is good otherwise, don't sweat it just yet.
If there continues to be a libido mismatch, you'll probably want to end the relationship, cuz it isn't likely to improve.
[–]Spinuchi 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I keep telling myself a week isn’t that bad.. I think just going from it being a constant and garuntee every time I saw her spoiled me.. selfishly I need to nut
The mismatch is weird how it came out of nowhere after us being so close originally. We joked before that it was pointless to wear clothes around each other when we aren’t in public. I’ve woken up to her kissing my face and rubbing me to seduce me into having sex at 3 am before haha.. she was just as sexual as me originally y
[–]Delicious_Ad_1853 14 points15 points16 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
The mismatch is weird
There are million possibilities. It's too early to jump to any conclusions.
selfishly I need to nut
If that's all it was, you would have jerked off instead of posting on Reddit.
It's ok to crave the physical intimacy. It's also ok to break up with her if it turns out that she doesn't crave it as much as you do.
[–]Spinuchi 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I have jerked off in between seeing her, but your right the physical intimacy is what I crave. Especially because we have both commented how great the sex is.. idk if she is just saying that but for me it is deeper then just a nut..
Maybe I am over reacting here, just want her to chase and crave me like before and this abrupt stop has been strange
[–]putcoolusernamehere 11 points12 points13 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
A week Is no time. I probably wouldn’t even notice it enough to care if we hadn’t fucked in a week. If it got closer to 3 weeks, I’d start to get worried, but I’d start with a simple conversation with her and try to figure out what’s causing this. I’ve gone through periods of intense stress and anxiety in my life where my sex drive was completely gone and I’d turn down my partners advances. In general, it’s a more a cause for concern about her than the relationship.
[–]Spinuchi 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Ya she is going through some things I believe is stressing her out etc and I get it.. just don’t know how to bring this up. I feel like me making an issue out of it is going to turn her off more and make it less likely to return how it was. Me saying nothing will make her feel like idc and it’s not an issue
[–]putcoolusernamehere 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I definitely wouldn't bring it up after 10 days, you'll seem really impatient. Just beat it off a couple times a day and give her some space, and also try to be supportive of her during her challenging time (listen to her, give massages, buy her favorite foods, give her a romantic gift, send memes, etc... don't overdo this stuff, but a couple of nice gestures go a long way). If it's still a probably two weeks from today, then it might be time to try to bring it up.
[–]revresb0 16 points17 points18 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
My advice is to take some distance too. Maybe you are a little bit needy and that turned her off. Don't push her, focus just on yourself for now and make her to want to have sex. If she continues to keep that behaviour, then she is cheating or doesn't like you anymore.
My thoughts too.. I hate the push and pull aspect but it is pretty obvious sometimes. When I am less interested she is all over me begging for my attention etc. when I drop my guard and come at her a little stronger I feel her acting more distant.
[–]revresb0 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You remember the value of something when it's lost and scarce, that's why. When you get something for granted you loose interest and it gets boring.
[–]tractorinballs 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
OP is 17
[–]fuckaliscious 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
A week and a half? Give the girl a break. If she won't talk about it after a couple of months and things are still dead bedroom, it's time to move on.
You're acting like you haven't had sex for 9 months and it's been 10 days.
[–]Spinuchi 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Coming from the username fuckaliscious this is an interesting comment haha.. I mean I know in the grand scheme it isn’t much time, but just seeing as I have spent the last few months with her and it was always so intimate to go 10 days has just been weird and out of the ordinary
[–]fuckaliscious 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I understand, it is an abrupt change. But women sex drive is complex, small things can throw it off, emotions, work, war in Ukraine, her Mom, some Karen at work bothering her could be anything.
I've been married for over 20 years, including through a year where we had sex 4 times and she forgot my birthday.
I'm assuming you make her cum and give her plenty of oral attention and forplay. So with that off the table...
Be patient, talk with her calmly outside of bedroom and figure out what is bothering her emotions or hormones or medical and whether it is anything you can fix.
Overall be patient and calm if you want the long term.
[–]jj-knolselder 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is awesome... i want this everyday for the rest of my life..... that is something kids think or say...... adult mind would get bored quick.
[–]zen49 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
A week and half ago......
Bruuuuhhhh... Try a month then start posting.
[–]jos1012 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
. After 3 months we continued like this, everything has been good. Then about a week and a half ago she has
I've been in your situation before and my first suspicion was cheating, I remember I kept telling myself otherwise but part of it was true.
It first started with: 1. less sex and intimacy 2. sudden change in energy, she wasn't as open as she was before or the vibe would be off 3. Bring lame excuses. 4. Time spent together was less frequent 5. Phone calls would go unanswered or late texts
Try to notice these events for the next coming weeks.
When you look at it from a different perspective 3 months is usually the honey moon phase and after that reality kicks in the willingness for someone to stay is all about commitment.
To me the no sex is a huge red flag because if she isn't getting it from you she is probably getting it somewhere else because let's be honest a woman that's into you will want every inch of you even on a bad day.
My advice prepare for the worst, that way if you're wrong it's good but if you're right you already prepare for it so you dont have expectations, less expectations no disappointment.
[–]RiccardoJones 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
She’s cheating on you. If you’re not getting it someone else is.
[–]MO_drps_knwldg 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
When a girl you’re seeing suddenly goes cold sexually, this is often the case, not 100% though.
3 months is too early for complacency to set in on her end. Has she mentioned any male co workers or friends offhand recently?
[–]Spinuchi 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
No, also doubt she is cheating not saying it isn’t possible but she is wayyy too introverted.. no other flags of cheating she is still emotionally really into me and shows a lot of other affection
[–]MO_drps_knwldg 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
There isn’t a ‘cheating’ type per se, so be on the lookout. The other reason women go cold is because they feel anxious and unsafe. It’s an unfair burden on men sometimes, but if a woman feels like she is leading too much in a relationship the legs close
Also, just be upfront with her and talk instead of playing the guessing game
[–]almostadaddy 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Replace her.
[–]cepi300 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
This is advice from a callous boy who doesn’t look at women as people.
[–]almostadaddy -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It is from an old man who learned the hard way not to put up with broken people.
[–]cepi300 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Somethings and some people are worth working on. Sorry you’ve had such negative experiences.
[–]Commercial_Habit_923 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Too soon bro. At least talk to her first
[–]jod125 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Is she dealing with something stressful at work, or school? Stress doesn't make people want to fuck. But Perhaps once she finishes whatever it is, it'll return to the original libido. Lots of things in life affect people's libido.
[–]Psychological_Hunt24 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Honestly man, you might have just become to feminine for her to even want to fuck you. You really need to, and I heavily stress this, take a step back. Think about long and hard how you've been acting lately and see if you've changed. No feminine girls wants to fuck a feminine guy, just like no masculine guy wants to fuck a masculine girl.
Everyone her is quick to blame the girl, but take a good long hard look inside and see if you've changed negatively, the answer might be there.
[–]Spinuchi 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I really don’t think much has changed other then me being re open to her. I think originally I was more on the fence about the relationship and a little more guarded etc. opened up a little more to being more vulnerable I guess? But I would think at this point that would be kind of normal and healthy
[–]Psychological_Hunt24 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Unfortunately, some girls don't like vulnerable guys. I think you need to take a step back, 1 week no communication and just think and see what happens. Don't tell her you're gonna do it, just do it.
[–]NiNj4_C0W5L4Pr -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Take that as definitive proof that you are bad in bed. Crack a book or two about how to pleasure her. I 100% guarantee that if you were giving her multiple orgasms you wouldn't be here posting. You would be fighting for your life to get her to let you get some rest.
[–]Spinuchi 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I’m wondering too, but for the first few months she would be losing her mind when we had sex, she would be left in the bed shaking.. going crazy, loud, always extremely wet. told me constantly I was the best sex, but maybe it was all an act?
[–]Grouchy-Tour-7619 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I don't believe it was an act. I think that she is testing you, whatever the case, just be cool,don't stress about it too much and keep your guard up, don't let her manipulate you with sex.
I am I haven’t reacted anyway other then just smile and say ok babe then continue to be myself. I don’t want to be too complacent with this though. That’s why I’m asking what to do.. being needy and making a big deal About no sex will just turn her off more, but acting like it doesn’t bother me will make her feel like its ok to just with hold from me?
[–]Grouchy-Tour-7619 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No, acting like it doesn't bother you will do the opposite, she will want to do with you.
From what I'm reading, you know what to do but it seems that you lost confidence. So dont be scared, Dont let her take your confidence for small things.
Whatever you do in this situation I believe in your skills and I wish you good luck .
[–]cepi300 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Definitive proof? False. There are so many other factors here.
Maybe, but perhaps she is testing him to see what he will do for sex.
[–]New_Swan_ -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
accept and stay with her. Sex is masturbation but instead of using your hand you use someone’s body. All i need are hugs, kissing and cuddling.
[–]rofnacla -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Get a new one
[–]New-Context831 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Was it exactly at three months? It's probably preplanned
Need more context, a lot of woman want to see if they can get away with less fucking after 3 months
When a girl starts wanting to come over and saying she doesn't want to fuck prior, she's trying to change the nature of your relationship, and see if you comply, now that you're "hooked" 👍
There's way to undermine her if you want pm me
[–]Mriconicdev 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It’s probably something going on with her deeper. Sit her down and have a talk with her about it.
[–]ModeratorElbynerual 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
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[–]Additional-Pay-3886 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If she’s stressed out, she’s not going to want to have sex often. Stress not only reduces our libido but also makes us more tired and less likely to be lubricated which makes sex wack. As someone who is currently studying to get into law school, at first I was only having sex with my man twice a month. Granted it got better once I started doing things to reduce stress and my boyfriend got clever with things like body massages and shit but maybe identify somethings to help her get into the mood? (more dates, candles, nice lights, body massages, etc)
[–]Too-Late-Bro 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Bruh why did your comment just get deleted as soon as I started to read it :/ it was interesting can you say that again ? Just reply to this and say all what you said there if you can , would be happy to see what happened
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