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[–]CocoBabeNYC 129 points130 points131 points 4 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
She was married and she takes up a strange man's invitation to hang out?
[–]seddit_seddit 59 points60 points61 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Not married but engaged. The two of them are not living together at the moment. She said she's not that kind of girl. Sympathies for the guy though.
[–]Exmerus 20 points21 points22 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
If you wouldn't have asked anything you could've probably scored without knowing she was engaged. Good thing? I guess? If you care, of course.
[–]seddit_seddit 19 points20 points21 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
She was rejecting escalations at all costs. Hug in the beginning? Nope. Hug at the end? Nope.
[–]dillpick15 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well, bullet likely dodged there. She's probably not going to stay with that guy in the long run.
[–]CocoBabeNYC 15 points16 points17 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lol hahahahhaha what a whore
[–]hoothoot6996 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
wut engaged? man Idk it seems like you can still hit its just she doesn't want to admit it
[–]Just1more68 13 points14 points15 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
lol, that poor silly bastard (the guy she’s marrying)
[–]gaara340 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Wait, why is he by default a strange man?
[–]Ronasn 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just an expression, they mean OP as a random guy asking her out. Strange of her to agree to that invitation given that she is “engaged.”
[–]KirklandLobotomy 18 points19 points20 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Should've asked if you guys both can hang with her fiance. Wonder how she'd react
[–]IHateEditedBgMusic 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She was looking for validation, to feel attractive or just curious? Sometimes girls are just testing the waters.
[–]Nefertiti2021 14 points15 points16 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
It is simple. You should never ask about relationships
[–]what-diddy-what-what 12 points13 points14 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This guy wrecks homes! lol In all seriousness though, this is good advice for initial dates b/c talking about relationships past or current kills attraction. Don't do it until attraction is already established.
[–]Night_Hawk1 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Disagree. Avoid "do you have a bf" cuz it almost certainly triggers asd. Questions like what was your longest relationship, do you have kids, and ever been divorced can polorize her.
[–]diabeetusboy 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Wtf is ASD
[–]seddit_seddit 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Anti-Slut Defense
[–]krispykreme01 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She looking for a meat stick… lmao but might play games just for the joy of it.
[–]Dr_Handsome88 10 points11 points12 points 4 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Bro ofc she didn't just wanna hang out, she knew your intentions.
[–]seddit_seddit 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago* (8 children) | Copy Link
If I think about it, yes, probably. But there's also a thousand other excuses one could make. I am not in any denial though, but this would be the weirdest kind of rejection ever.
[–]Night_Hawk1 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago* (7 children) | Copy Link
You missed the mark. She was dtf, but you have to have calibration to know that you can't publicly and openly be escalating on her. You showed you wanted it to be a visible and normal relationship so she passed.
[–]seddit_seddit 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I agree, I need a lot of practice.
[–]OuchCharlieOw 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Explain more please?
[–]Night_Hawk1 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
Much of seduction is about Awareness of the subtle cues and observations disguised under the overt cues and being able to pick up on them and adjust course/calibrate. It shows massive value and survivability if you can do this. Adaptation is survival. He should have had enough awareness to see a ring. It's one of the first things I will silently check for. he was overtly and publicly escalating on her and she was giving clear overt rejection of escalation signals but also stayed which secretly/subtly meant "you can do this but NOT HERE publicly and openly." "did you not realize I have a ring on?" She went on a date with him, even though she is engaged. Hes was going direct when there's clearly a wall and did not adapt and go indirect, like a roomba that can't turn. A woman will try and help you steer without actually taking the wheel by being your navigator. She can't overtly tell you what to do otherwise she is fucking a woman with a penis. She would shudder in horror. She navigates with cues, you drive the boat around the rocks or better yet you've navigated these dead before and know where the rocks already are. isolate and escalate should be a mantra every single time. Every woman has a big brother monitor: their coworkers, orbiter chode guy friend, club stalker, mother hen girlfriend, older sister, boyfriend OR Husband that she has to avoid/be out of sight of to escalate and it's your job to understand and do so tactfully. Seen too many guys get shot down going for the kilI right in front of her friends, and Chad thunder dick get a number outside around the corner having a cigarette with her. Are you so eager for sex that you are willing to be ignorant of ruining her social status just to drain your balls. That is opposite of awareness. That is not adding value to either of your lives, but just pure taking. For a married person, that single big brother in their life becomes all of society. You are dooming her to social suicide if you escalate without isolating. How can she be seduced by someone if they cant be aware enough to see a ring or read cues ... Like a young unseasoned teenage game hunter bumbling through the forest walking on crackling twigs and walking downwind making his presence clear as day. There are rejections and there are obstacles. It's your job to understand a soft no (obstacle) and find the right way in and a hard no (rejection). A massive attraction killer is when a woman presents an obstacle and you blindly accept it or keep trying to sarge the same path rather than walking around it or solving it. It shows lack of life skills and survivability. A woman being in a relationship is and always will be a soft no because if you were Brad Pitt, she certainly doesn't give a fuck she's dating pizza delivery guy Steve that just bought her a ring when she could suddenly have Brad pitt. Be Brad Pitt. Also, lastly, set your personal boundaries to know if relationship destroying is in your ethical barometer.
[–]seddit_seddit 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's true. From what I have learnt from theory is women have dual mating strategies. If she's has gotten engaged to a Beta (aka the provider), she can still sleep around with Alphas to secure that precious DNA.
[–]OuchCharlieOw 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
For sure, ya thanks for clarifying. Funny you mention about the ring; I too notice rings right away these days, it’s a good thing to watch for
[–]Dumweight 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Explain more.
[–]Night_Hawk1 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Read my reply to ouch Charlie.
[–]Dumweight 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lol man… no.. I feel bad for the guy.
[–]capnill 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Just speculating but she might be having second thoughts about her engagement. She might be trying to see if there anyone out there that she can have a stronger connection with (since it seemed like she wasn’t looking to hook up).
[–]seddit_seddit 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Who knows what goes inside a woman's head? Happy cake day though! 🍰
[–]Snoo-62854 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
She likes you but might be afraid to do anything wrong, if you want to go for it, you have to be confident about you are not doing anything wrong, she just doesn't want to do it herself. Try again and dig deeper.
[–]seddit_seddit 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
What exactly should be my next steps here? Knowing she's engaged?
[–]Snoo-62854 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just talk to her, and say you got it totally wrong and it was funny but it's fine. Just try to plan a second meetup. Did you guys talk about what she likes about you or interested in doing things like active Maybe you want to try a new coffee shop, or anything interesting you know that she would like to see? Plan a second meetup, and just spend some time laughing and have fun. Try and keep friendship at least.
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[–]iamatwork24 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Guys like you give other guys a bad reputation
[–]Delicious_Jackoff 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
[–]ConsiderationNo9804 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Much as I want to date someone, this y I’m hesitant
[–]seddit_seddit 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Doesn't means you should stop trying though. I didn't lose anything here. I take another first date experience with me. It's a win.
[–]ConsiderationNo9804 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I don’t understand today dating culture, I don’t hookup. I refuse to play games and never understand flirting, I’m recently single and was taken for almost a decade.
Okay we are in completely different stages of life then.
[–]IntangibleRedditor 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Did you see a ring on that finger? If no, It was a shit test. If yes, then you know what not to do with crazy.
[–]seddit_seddit 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I did see it lol. But I have also known girls wearing it for fun. Yes, on the ring finger.
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