I made a 45 minute long step-by step seminar on YouTube about the most important things that you need to know about cold-approaching new women anywhere. Watch it here: https://youtu.be/lxeSN2jk984

Here are the cliff notes which I think is very important to share:

  • As men the burden of approaching and starting a conversation is on us, everybody knows that but few men actually embrace this and do it on a regular basis. Seize every opportunity that’s in front of you. Think of yourself as a talent scout who is out scouting for new talent for his life and activities.

One key thing that sounds very ‘’efficient’’ but is a huge waste of time is to try to go on a date or move it forward with every girl that you meet. This is often why ‘’pickup’’ or ‘’seduction’’ is laughed at in the mainstream. It just seems like men go around trying to make it happen with every woman, which is very true.

When you have that mindset of really playing the numbers game, that you will talk to as many women as possible and try to make it happen with every woman you will end up being desperate by default. You’ll start from a scarcity mindset and you’ll be too ‘’hungry’’, and appear to be of low value to women. Many men reason and think to themselves that trying to shoot their shot with every woman will give them as much experience as possible and that’s just not true. You’ll end up going on dates and spending time with women who will

A) waste your time

B) not be a good fit

C) annoy you

And so instead it’s much better to approach meeting women in a more genuine way which is: Before you know a woman you’ll go over there and start a conversation because you want to see if she’s going to be worth spending more time on. But while you interact with this new woman you have to find out if you actually want to move things forward. Here are some questions to ask yourself after or during the approach:

  • Is she feminine and beautiful?
  • Do I find her personality pleasant?
  • Is she down to have fun?
  • Am I genuinely interested in her and is she interested in me?
  • What’s the vibe between us like?

And so on the front end you are basically touching base with a lot of new women on a regular basis, but on the back end you only move it forward/follow up on a few of them. I recommend to add all of them on Instagram or take the phone numbers from every girl (if you took a phone number send your name immediately so she has that in her message inbox)Now you have a line of open communication for the girls who you have low interest for or who don’t seem like a priority. They can text you and ask you out or show further interest from their side and then later you can go on a date. And also you have a few girls that you really are interested in and those are the ones where you should move it forward very quickly.

Now your dates are going to be so much better because you have followed your genuine desire instead of being some dude who just wants to go on any date.

During your dates, have a very low key plan, coffee around the corner from where you live or a drink very close to your apartment. Don’t spend more than two hours. One of the biggest sticking points is that guys spend too much time with new women on the first date (4+ hours) and they do too elaborate things. Don’t be that guy, keep it low key, keep it short and fun. Give an easy excuse to go back to your place and make it happen!

During the later stages of the date here is a way of thinking and being that is going to solve almost all your problems. Most men are really desperate for some intimacy and so they’re willing to do whatever it takes to make it happen and this is again such a bad mindset. They put a lot of pressure on themselves to get laid and today I want to give you another alternative.

A lot of women know this and they take advantage of this male willingness and so they’ll put up all sorts of resistance to get you to invest more into her. The thing that I want to point out here is that you are now a guy who talks to a lot of women and so you don’t really have to put up with any of that stuff.

She might say… I don’t kiss on the first date, etc… Or play some kind of games with you. Have the mindset of only giving the girl one chance to prove that she’s worth having in your life and that is the first time you arrive in your bedroom. She has to bare-minimum kiss you and let you feel her up and be respectful and giving.

Most of the girls will sleep with you because you picked the ones that you have a good vibe going with and so only a few of the rest will not go all the way with you.

Again, it’s important to really evaluate how the girl acts and makes you feel. If you think she’s a respectful girl who’s really valuable then and ONLY THEN, you give her a second date. If you think that she’s playing games or giving you bullshit then just send her home and never talk to her again because at the end of the day, self-respect should be more important to you than getting laid.

Women sleep with men they are attracted to and respect, always remember that.

Last thing I want to mention here is to only meet women who are happy, healthy and whole! I find that a lot of men pursue women who have mental, emotional and physical problems. Women who are in bad situations with ‘’husbands’’ or other forms of traumas.

Think of yourself as Warren buffet. Do you think Warren Buffet does 50-150 investments every year? No. He does only a few and if the situation is good. He doesn’t invest in companies that are bankrupt or in bad situations. In the same way: time is your biggest asset and it’s many times much better to shut down a situation with a woman very quickly and start something with a new woman and actually get something really nice going.

I can’t tell you how many times in my life that I identified that one woman was a big headache, quickly shut it down and approached a brand new woman and got laid within 24 hours.

Cheers,
Hope this helps.