This has been happening to me lately, where I see a cute girl and I can't pull the trigger on approach. I've been writing and working through what exactly is going on when I feel scared of talking to a new girl and this is what I've found. I'm overthinking, I have expectations when talking to her, I'm scared she won't like me because of my insecurities, and I don't know how to work through this.
I've had times where I've been confident and more secure with approaching in the past and had success, but it's always felt underlying with insecurity. I'm planning on going back to therapy once I have enough saved, but I'm frustrated right now. My life is okay right now, I'm in a good job/career path, have friends, workout frequently and am making progress in self improvement, don't have a great relationship with my family and financially struggling because of rent but working on it.
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