Intimidated by curvy women

MisterShogunate · 2021-09-18T08:20:03+00:00

It's almost winter, you better get some of that thickness on your side.

norwegiandoggo · 2021-09-18T07:53:53+00:00

Stop thinking that talking to them is bothering them. Start thinking that talking to them is making their day better.

kumgobbler · 2021-09-18T07:57:59+00:00

It's a question of your own value. Work on your self value, build it, make it higher, and u won't think that way.

Challenge yourself ! Always

Training_Passenger79 · 2021-09-18T20:44:51+00:00

Curvy female here. I have a perspective I think can help you, because I used to struggle with some social anxieties myself, and I also used to attract a lot of male attention.

Point one. I absolutely got overly-approached by men when I was in college and it was a nightmare for me. I’m an introvert, and I absolutely hate hurting peoples feelings. Rejecting a pick up could sometimes ruin my whole day because I felt so bad turning down someone who had been nice enough to compliment me that way. A couple of times I actually cried over it, because I have empathy issues. lol.

But the thing is - these people were total strangers. I’ve never followed through on an offer from a man I don’t know. I can’t even tell if I’m attracted to him because I don’t know him yet.

Point two - you would not believe how insecure I felt about my body. I liked most things from the waist up, but my hips/thighs/butt…as a curvy woman, you feel like an alien. The fashion industry does not produce clothes meant for you. Every girl seems to want to be a tiny woman, and that just wasn’t me. I felt like a cow, and it didn’t matter how much I dieted - I never seemed to lose weight on my curves.

Try to understand that the women you’re talking to don’t think the world of themselves. We wear makeup and pretty clothes to boost our confidence, and we try to act confident because people tell us that this is attractive…but most women genuinely hate their bodies until after college. (From what I’ve heard from the women I’ve talked to)

I tell you this because the women you talk to probably don’t think they’re the “best of the best” and you’re just “not good enough”. They’re just normal people going about their day, feeling a bit insecure, and maybe feeling to stressed to stop and chat.

Once you realize it’s not about you, I think that will help you a lot.

Now…here’s my tip - because I used to have a bit of social anxiety myself and I learned to overcome it.

What you need to do is simply talk to strangers, regardless of gender. Make it a habit. The only goal is for them to walk away feeling better than when you started. Start with your own gender if that makes you feel more comfortable.

Just get used to approaching just about anyone and saying something simple. I find it’s easier to start with employees at places because they’re paid to be polite to you. Lol.

Try asking for advice, giving compliments, asking a question - pretty much anything. Get used to casually talking to people, and practice seeing them as “real people” - real humans with fears, insecurities, worries, and so forth. Try to empathize with strangers.

As you do this, you will become more and more confident in your social skills, and then when you approach a curvy girl, you can do so with the idea that this is just something you do for everyone, and you’re just being friendly and nice.

There have been occasions where guys who were strangers treated me like that, and I would actually stand there hoping they would try to continue the conversation. (Although the never did).

So the moral of the story is - don’t work on approaching women. Work on approaching people. Don’t start with a goal in mind. Simply improve your ability to have positive interactions with others.

One day, one of those interactions will be with a curvy woman, and she will immediately see that you’re different from all the rest, because you talked to her like a normal person and you didn’t have an end goal in mind.

CBDsamuel25 · 2021-09-18T19:04:49+00:00

Everyone puts their pants on the same way in the morning. All humans are equal whether they are thick, curvy, skinny, blue, purple. Everyone is just grey matter trapped in a fleshy vessel that turns food into poop. Nobody is “better” or less worthy than anyone. Yes even Jeff Bezos.

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-09-18T09:30:53+00:00

Feeling intimidated by women is the first sign of your mental weakness. You have to become immune to intimidation, drama and BS. Stop reacting emotionally to those things. A guy who is so easy to manipulate is not attractive to women.

gbizzle2 · 2021-09-18T09:47:18+00:00

Youre not ready. Think about it like this. Women are for reproduction and reproducing is for creating copies of yourself. It is scientifically proven that a womans curves are a sign of higher fertility.

So deeep down in your DNA subconsciously you already know this. You know that creating copies of your current self is a very bad idea. If you were to get a woman pregnant RIGHT NOW then your boys would likely grow into the current state of confusion you posess. Not only because it would be innate but you also wouldn't be prepared to raise them into a better you. You need to gain wisdom knowledge and understanding of what you're doing and why you're doing it. Once you do that, women wont intimidate you and you will be ready to attract such women.

Im at the point where a woman wants me the moment she lays eyes on me and 8/10 it will happen with a woman i find attractive. Its really telepathy but ill stop here before i get too deep and fuck your world up.

WhyStateTheObvious · 2021-09-18T18:38:33+00:00

As a thick woman myself, I’d say shoot your shot. Start with a “hi, how are you?” And see where it goes or compliment her. We just don’t like creepy advances.

No-Historian-6391 · 2021-09-18T15:32:27+00:00

Curvy women are a lot to handle.

Mallfitano · 2021-09-19T02:43:56+00:00

Know that they are human just like you. They have insecurities and are Not perfect just like everyone else

MetaphysicPhilosophy · 2021-09-18T16:35:25+00:00

You are getting nervous because you are not letting your sexual energy flow through. Be confident in your attraction to them. If anything, they should be easier to approach. Don’t go in with any expectations. Just approach and allow your sexual attraction to flow through you. She will notice and get turned on.

2021-09-19T07:32:12+00:00

Thicc girls excite me. They are no different than other girls to approach though.

kikikgftyh · 2021-09-19T09:15:46+00:00

Its a paradigm comparison.

You have internalized subconciously that they are worth more than you. Your reactions are natural to what you believe. Inner core needs work.

For example if you meet Michael Jordan face to face i dont care how grounded you are as a person you will react to his frame because your brain is protecting you from death. One wrong move and the extremely high status male could disown you aka kill your status if we're talking tribal shit.

Your brain doesnt know the difference its trying to protect you for survival so it plays its cards right. Once you slowly level up, your ceiling of who you get intimitaded by will move up too.

Practise practise practise, find a mentor and follow their advice, theres no quick fix to your insticts. Be objective, realistic and absolute about situations, life is one giant complicated game that other people have put out layouts of how they think you can win.

I can tell you this, im more intimidated by millionaires than women at this point.

ArayaDay · 2022-06-24T06:32:02+00:00

Just be yourself. And confidence is key start by smiling and a hello then everything else will follow

Title	Intimidated by curvy women
Author	kumgobbler
Upvotes	16
Comments	36
Date	September 18, 2021 7:51 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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