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larryd86 · 2021-09-02T20:36:44+00:00

Have you considered that she never really cared? Or that she was never a real friend? Some people in life are really great actors. Just forget about her.

appmanga · 2021-09-02T20:51:23+00:00

Go on with your life. If she's the type of friend you think she is, you'll hear from her.

tnpersona · 2021-09-02T22:11:01+00:00

Delete her and move on. Simple as that.

GordonGecko69 · 2021-09-02T22:36:55+00:00

She broke up with you long before she actually notified you. Onward and upward brotha. She ain’t ya friend.

Dracron · 2021-09-02T22:32:24+00:00

That sucks. What others are saying about moving on is the right move, but that doesn't mean its the easy one. If she still wants to be friends, she'll reach out. Don't try to make it happen because it won't if she isnt on board and there's no way to get her on board because you are going to be outcome dependent in any interaction with her. That outcome dependency will make you less attractive by clouding your mind over every interaction.

Remembering the good times you had together isn't a bad thing, but don't let it get you into a sunk cost fallacy. Its time to get up dust, yourself of and look for a new adventure. If she contacts you, then you can try to be friends. Don't try to replace the lost relationship by making it a new relationship with different rules.

The best case is to wait till you can talk to her without longing for her to be in your life. Then you can enjoy her company without expectations.

I don't know if this is helpful, but since you found one person like her that means there are others that you can get along with as just as well or better. Your job right now is to get back to the mindset that allowed you to be available and ready when another opportunity arises. The next person might not be so easily ready to move on from you.

Global-Bridge-6787 · 2021-09-03T00:04:28+00:00

Let yourself feel sad today if you feel that because you don’t want to go down the rabbit hole of “what if” that often happens. “What if I…” “what if she…”

The point is she didn’t do this out of the blue and that she very likely had this all planned out. Sad but understand that you’re far from this last person this has happened to. Listen to some sad music if it helps you process your emotions.

Narcan9 · 2021-09-03T07:11:18+00:00

Erase, and block everything you have of her. Lose her phone number and email address so that you can never find it again even if tempted. Then move on with your life.

In the future don't mistake a FWB for your soulmate.

no_not_this · 2021-09-03T13:42:05+00:00

Only needed to read the title. Block and next

PatientAssociation62 · 2021-09-03T15:23:10+00:00

Holy red flag, batman!

Already in a serious relationship with another guy, but spending that kind of time with you? Sounds like super friendzone to me. And once her number one dude starts bitching about you, she drops you like a bad habit.

I will "be there for you even when I'm 90"? You shouldn't piss on her when she bursts into flames, let alone "be there" for her at all in any capacity. That is what her FIANCE' is for, not you. He's the one fucking her, not you. He should "be there" for her, not you.

She did you a favor, dude. This sounds like next level friendzoning to me. Get shitfaced, feel sorry for yourself, feel like shit for a few weeks, and then move the fuck on. And learn from your mistakes.

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Date	September 2, 2021 7:49 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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