Advice on feeling out of place/ not good

RedEyeBlackEye1 · 2021-08-26T08:20:53+00:00

SUP, OP:

1) buzzcuts that receding hairline, homie. You can use no2, too high? Try no1 or no0 until your hair is evened out.

2) grow some stubble(4-6mm is sweet spot for aesthetics and attraction), keep it trimmed to that length, and keep the sideburnlines, cheeklines, and neckline edged up.

3) fix your posture (you'll feel confident), walk with masculine swagger (think Thor, gosling, Elba, the Rock).

4) strong eye contact and a smirk when interacting with ppl.

5) wear darker colored shirts(black, dark blue, etc) to draw less attention to any gyno. Do upper and outer chest push exercises to transform your chest. Incline chest press, decline push ups, chest dips, and cable cross flyes work MIRACLES on gyno. Aim for reps to failure, then do isometric chest squeezes AFTER EVERY SET, rest for 30-60 seconds...repeat.

OP, if you follow steps 1-5 of this post...YOU WILL BE SURPRISED HOW MUCH BETTER YOU LOOK, FEEL, AND DO. I REALLY DO study(and do) this shit.

Good luck, homie.

SnooMachines1406 · 2021-08-26T08:05:20+00:00

everyone is too focused on themselves to worry about you, especially at your age.

Artist-in-Residence- · 2021-08-26T08:13:42+00:00

Well, this might be just me, but I sort of find greying hair sexy. To me, it really looks nice, especially if it has a salt and pepper look to it.

It kind of also shows that a guy is confident with his natural hair color and doesn't have a need to color it an artificial shade.

I don't think I quite understand the meaning of puffy nipples...but nipples are meant to be puffy lol

AelfredRex · 2021-08-26T11:23:50+00:00

Don't sweat it. Women are gonna be looking at the man inside anyway.

PompousSchmuck · 2021-08-26T11:05:01+00:00

Add like 15lbs at least, you're too skinny. Im at 145-150 on 5'8 and am on the skinnier side, even though I have a decent musculature.

playingandrealityxxx · 2021-08-26T15:18:42+00:00

This is not advice for everyone, but works for me:

No porn. I jerk off maybe once every two weeks if I don't get laid during that period and I do not do it with porn. When you are not jerking off, become aware of your energy levels and mood. Just meditate on your thoughts and meditate on your arousal when it does occur, but exercise self control on this. This works for me because if I can control my sexual addiction, I can control my diet, exercise, self care.
Proper teeth care. Fucking floss and mouth wash before bed. It just feels better.
Skin care. Make sure you're washing your sheets and pillow and also making your bed. Roll the fuck outta bed, rip some pushups, and make that shit nice and clean. Understand your skin. Is it oily / dry? Use Cetaphil. I use the mositurizer for my entire body (get between the toes) and use a more intense cleaner before bed at night. My skin glows. Also, get a shower scrubber for your back. If you're not scrubbing your feet and back and making sure everything is clean as fuck, you're not putting in enough work. Also, cold showers. I used to have slight shoulder and back acne but I started doing all of this + cold showers and my skin glows and it's tighter around my muscles. All of these little acts of love for yourself add up to feel like you're more in sync and less out if place.
Consistent hair cut. Sounds like you need to bite the bullet. If your hair is that bad, buzz cut it or go smooth bald. Fuck it dude.

Embrace the cards you have. Regarding your puffy nipple insecurity, you need to rip push ups, cardio, pull ups, and start doing yoga or a martial art. Also, go to a bunch of different athletic stores and find a shirt that you're comfortable in man. There will be some shirts that will hide your nipples better than others. Even something like lulu lemon might look better, don't know until you try on different stuff.

Emphasizing a martial art or high intensity work out. You need to push your mind and suffer for it to feel relieved and in sync when you're just doing your work or hanging with friends.
Diet. I'm pescatarian but will eat chicken maybe once every two weeks or so. You're pretty skinny for your height so I'd look to bulk. Look, in college I was 6ft1 130 lbs my freshman year. By senior year I was closing in on 165. Still skinny but much better. 3 years after college now and I'm about 180. The attention I get from women for just having a full, grown in body is noticeable and it was all due to diet. Eat healthy fats, eat greens, and make sure youre exercising on top of the diet.
Meditation. This one is big for me. Just start fucking meditating dude. Download the wake up app by Sam Harris. You're going to feel uncomfortable and terrible starting out during meditation but that's the point. You will start to understand why you feel out if place and start to get more efficient to do lists, energy levels, and confidence.
If you feel like you can't change your lifestyle and youre just flat out slightly depressed or feel stuck in your ways, what changed my life was Psilocybin mushrooms. Trip to some amazing music with the clear intention on wanting to understand yourself in regards to the best ways to develop better habits and get in sync. It might change your life like it did mine.

Good luck dude

10000ColdNights · 2021-08-27T11:47:52+00:00

Do squats, buzz your head.

Title	Advice on feeling out of place/ not good
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Date	August 26, 2021 7:13 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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