Being PRODUCTIVE is being ATTRACTIVE. While this isn't all there is to success with women, it's a big part. If you've been spending a lot of time going out and your results are the same, or getting worse, maybe you need to find something more important to dedicate your time to.

Whenever I've had too much time on my hands, I get worse results with women. Whenever I've been busy focusing on my career, or hobbies, or other goals, I give off a different body language and energy, and am more attractive to women.

While social skills do play a role, focusing too much on it for too long is not the answer.

I follow what I call the 90/10 rule. Where more than 90% of my time and energy are dedicated to other goals (my career, hobbies, exercise, etc), and less than 10% of my time and energy is dedicated to socializing.

This causes me to not be needy, and also improve my social skills at the same time.

Plus the self-esteem boost I get from achieving my goals in other areas causes me to do better when socializing. I also don't overthink my mistakes in an interaction, because I know the next day I have more important things to do. This makes me relax more when talking to others, and I do better.