I guess this is a field report in a sense... Lately I've (25m) been coming home with blue balls the size of a basketball... My game has been on point lately. Almost...

I've had 4 instances in the past month in which I have been making out/feeling up and getting sexy with a female and just can't get the big bang... It's as if the girl feels shameful for what she's doing and she backs out of it. That's just the "vibe" I've been getting.

I'm also someone that is as open to LTRs as much as these girls are... So I don't know why there is shame floating in the air.

Either 1. I'm not building enough of the correct sexual tention, 2. I'm not painting the correct picture for these women or 3. I just need to wait longer and put more effort in and stop trying to go for the lay so damn quickly. But I could be wrong.

My friend told me that disqualification is a useful tool in this scenario... I don't want to get pushy, I'm not a fucking rapist and I definitely don't want to make the girl feel uncomfortable... But how can I act, or what can I say, differently, that would make the girl feel more comfortable with doing the Bang Bang?