I'm 28, male, read the rules of the game and all the other pua books but still have no game of my own

yurifca · 2021-07-22T20:40:46+00:00

Reading books expecting to become a james bond seductor is like trying to beat prime Mike Tyson just watching videos on 'how to jab'.

Theory is already bad as it is without practice, seduction is even worse cause the theory is shit and has no scientific weight.

You gotta do the hard way, the way you're avoiding by just reading and not acting

2021-07-22T21:22:17+00:00

Seriously bro watch more AMS videos.

As a matter of fact.

And keep rewatching them as you get better lol

Stop making just friends, find the girl that’s into you first and every date progress it towards eventual sex. Date 1 get to know her let her talk about herself focus on listening invite her over at the end. If she declines try again the second date. If she declines again just invite her over the third date and if she declines forget about her and move on to another girl.

Once you’re alone then slowly start making progress first second base etc. if she says no or resist back off for a bit make convo for 10 to 15 min and try again until you’re having sex. If she keeps declining send her ass home you’re not there to play games all night, you’re both grown ass adults. Try again with another girl.

Seriously make sure she’s actually into you first and you’re personality an not just an attention whore. Then for you most importantly make sure you are constantly progressing towards sex, it’s literally the only major problem you have.

If you’re unattractive workout more and dress nicer maybe go for chubbier women if you want. Be honest date within your league if you want to date hotter improve your self make yourself more attractive. Don’t chase a bitch for months and years just cuz she is hot. You want them chasing you.

PatientAssociation62 · 2021-07-22T21:33:33+00:00

I have read a bunch of different books and I really avoid the "game" type books. Neil Strauss does have some good basic info but I always felt like the "game" methods are just that. Games. Put ons. Fronts. What's helped me is just to start dealing with my own insecurities, etc and not memorize "negs", "qualifiers", all that other shit. I am starting to actually develop real confidence.

Conscious-Trifle-137 · 2021-07-22T20:57:22+00:00

Your problem seems to be making the convo man to woman. That’s just a part of game you struggle with. Sounds like you can open and vibe with women easily. So focus on making it man to woman. It’s a step that a lot of guys have trouble learning, that’s why a lot of YouTube videos talk about this specific part. Some things you should focus on more:

eye contact; this alone can turn a friendly convo into flirting.
physicality; breaking the touchbarrier early, build it up step by step (2 steps forward, one step back), learn to calibrate this. Physicality is huge when it comes to making it man to woman.
leading; showing that you’re not just a friendly guy, you know how to handle a woman and lead the convo etc.

Obviously idk you personally but I’m guessing these are things you have trouble with. But like I said, no stress, watch infield examples of this and try to implement it in your game. Trust me, your results will change, this step of game is usually the key to get more results.

jwilhelm0618 · 2021-07-22T20:54:48+00:00

Practice makes perfect

2021-07-22T21:51:30+00:00

just keep trying bro all this shit is a numbers game. don’t just keep it online though hit some clubs/bars.

2021-07-22T21:53:27+00:00

Practice

Dodechaedron · 2021-07-22T22:08:41+00:00

Too outcome dependant. You are thirsty and girls have a radar for needy, insecure men; their process for weeding out these categories of males involves revealing their sexy body parts and sh*t testing: learn how to pass these tricks (plenty of material on YouTube);
A flirty interaction is 50% words, 50% body language: learn to read body language (plenty of material on YouTube);
Don't fear the rejection: avoid coworkers or wives / girlfriends of friends and from the family circle; only approach total strangers, where the aftermath of rejection is negligible;
Be civil and polite in all circumstances, even with girls who friendzone you.

TheSunshineMan · 2021-07-24T21:42:20+00:00

Watch and read 50 posts and videos on escalation - take notes - review notes before going to hang out with girls - implement knew knowledge - have lots of sex.

Title	I'm 28, male, read the rules of the game and all the other pua books but still have no game of my own
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Date	July 22, 2021 8:31 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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