Do the rules of seduction apply to women too?

revente · 2021-06-14T10:30:13+00:00

If you are not getting succes it’s not because of technique but because guy isn’t attracted enough. Guys are simple, they won’t ghost you for petty stuff like most girls these days do.

Anecdotally most of the girls that’ve ever approached me were at least 2 points (out of 10) lower than i’d usually date.

It doesn’t mean that you should stop approaching. It’s actually attractive to most guys. Just be realistic with getting rejected. You can lower your standards and get more succes or keep them high and look for a lucky chance.

PompousSchmuck · 2021-06-14T10:24:20+00:00

Brutality time: for me, there are 3 types of women:

Those who I would really wanna bone.
Those who I would probably wanna bone.
Those who I would not. It's not standards. I'm just not attracted.

For men, from my experience, from the get-go the looks are more important than confidence/character. You might've started at 3 but if I talked to you, I moved you to 2 due to your energy or you being into me, but usually it's predetermined, and very raw. If they don't respond to you, imna go and say it's coz you are in 3. You CAN as a woman, get out of 3. Work out. Be hot. Don't BS anyone. I went from 180 to 145lbs, most of it muscle btw, in a year (on 5"8) and EVERYONE look at me differently. Its SUPER important. I have NEVER been noticed so much in my life before.

I get hit upon by 3s pretty steadily, which is a let down for me too, because I want to reciprocate, but I cannot, I am simply not attracted to them. When I get hit on by 2s and 1s tho..

Dutchcat1077 · 2021-06-14T15:46:30+00:00

I think it’s great that you approach men but why not hold back a little and let them approach you? Holding eye contact and smiling should be enough of a signal for them to feel comfortable in approaching you. However, cheers for being the forward one. Keep on with it. At the end of the day it is a numbers game. The more people you interact with the better off you’ll be. Or at least that’s the way men try to play it. Personally, I get approached and talked to by women frequently because of my height, I’m 6’9. Tbh, if I feel that the person interacting with my has an off energy or is being low key disrespectful I won’t engage them for very long. Think about how you would want to be approached and talked to. Most people don’t do this. Most people will try to “game” their way into a person’s life/bed.

Own_Industry_240 · 2021-06-15T01:41:54+00:00

Guys don’t turn down chances when a girl is attractive. You’re asking your female friends about your looks but they’re lying that you’re a 8 because its in a females nature to hype their friends up and make them believe they’re the hottest thing on earth. On other hand a guy will never rate you if he’s not interested because that might hurt your ego. So by looking at your other comments i know you’re working out, why don’t you change your hairstyle which you mentioned is spikes. Change the way you dress try to look more girly and keep your dressing sense on point and I’m pretty sure you’ll see the differences

Sleight_Hotne · 2021-06-15T05:59:11+00:00

Sometimes is important not to look outside, but within. To think if you did something or said something wrong during the conversation that could basically chase someone off.

To put it simply, if a guy's ghosted you is not your fault, but if every single one did withouth exception them there is something you need to address within yourself.

socozyinhere · 2021-06-23T07:30:23+00:00

I think the best thing as a women you can do to increase your odds, is putting yourself in an environment where the type of men you seek are predominant.

Men don't mind being approached. I don't at least, I talk to anyone just to improve my social skills, and overcome fear of talking to strangers.

water-journal · 2021-06-14T16:45:25+00:00

First off, good on you for approaching guys despite having social anxiety! That’s impressive and you should feel good about that.

As a woman trying to attract men, you should put in the work to make yourself as hot/visually appealing as possible. If you’ve got extra fat, put in the work to lose it. Having extra fat will hurt your chances immensely. Start weight lifting with a focus on lower body and core to get a shapely butt and waist. And then of course you want your fashion, hairstyle, makeup to be on point.

Having your visual presentation down will have men excited to interact with you, rather than being aloof or lukewarm towards your approach. It’s absolutely crucial to get this down, because most men know immediately whether or not they’re attracted to a woman. Having a conversation with them isn’t likely to change that if they don’t find you sexy from the start. Of course, looking great and appealing doesn’t mean that your interactions can’t go poorly after the initial approach. If you’re coming on too strong or presenting a needy vibe, that will turn off a lot of guys, even if you look good. This is where the seduction and social skills aspect will come in. You may want to work on your flirtation, banter, conversation skills so that you can effectively participate in the seduction process. You don’t want to be doing all the work though. If the guy is attracted to you (which he should be if you look hot), he will want to get closer to you and move the interaction along.

Hope that helps! DM me if you want to chat more

teez_louise · 2021-06-14T14:31:26+00:00

They do yeah definitely

WJR1597 · 2021-06-14T23:14:20+00:00

Congrats on approaching guys especially with anxiety.. However, don’t be too easy.... just handing your number out too quickly. People in general want what they can’t have... flirt with them, and maybe ask for their number instead.

Deer_Good · 2021-06-14T23:07:44+00:00

Y Nope not really and it's because of the way how you sound so very perfect to me and heres my number call me maybe lol 12147309497. And I live in Carrollton Texas now

loofyd · 2021-06-14T21:58:36+00:00

Talking to strangers is so nerve wracking!

Ah.. Now you know how it feels

socozyinhere · 2021-06-15T06:51:24+00:00

If you’re not overweight you should be getting dates easily.

TrashyQueen69 · 2021-06-15T08:46:13+00:00

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cjt21love · 2021-06-15T21:36:51+00:00

what do you think are your least attractive qualities

Title	Do the rules of seduction apply to women too?
Author	TrashyQueen69
Upvotes	7
Comments	63
Date	June 14, 2021 10:06 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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