Question for the bros out there with a hidden physical deformity

BabyBlueSoM · 2021-05-01T20:44:50+00:00

Be confident with yourself, they won't accept it if you haven't accepted no? Better to show them you careless of their opinions of it, it's not like it's their body, just be confident in yourself that it is less of their worries nor should it be.

Woujo · 2021-05-01T23:23:09+00:00

I can guarantee that 99% of girls will not give a fuck about your ear missing, but I wouldn't be taking my ear off just cuz it is kind of shocking.

socialcircleguy · 2021-05-01T23:04:49+00:00

You don't need to show girls, girls are not going to go out of their way to share a physical flaw. Everyone has flaws so don't feel embarrassed about having one.

frogurtyozen · 2021-05-02T03:10:38+00:00

Hi! Female here! If it were me, I’d find that shit cool as FUCK!!! However, at the same time I work in an ER so I see weird and unusual shit all the time

GEEZUS_956 · 2021-05-02T02:12:41+00:00

As a guy who pulls jokes of his skin condition (can’t and don’t do it that often). It’s not really a good idea to suddenly pop it out. My “deformity” is obvious and it still makes people nervous when I talk about it. Granted, did you suddenly let her know? Or did you introduce it like, “I need to let you know something.”?

A date is a place where you get to know each other, but she’s not really expecting that. Maybe start a conversation about your bodies like tattoos, piercings, or this one weird thing you can do with your body and introduce it there.

At best, I’d say you caught her off guard. At worst, she’s uncomfortable. To hell with it if she’s gonna judge you like that. Move on and find better people.

Ragnurhelgon · 2021-05-02T00:23:56+00:00

Not on a first date. I'd mention it later on.

cmg232 · 2021-05-02T01:29:13+00:00

Geeeez if that was what turned her off then you're better without her. Big fkin deal.

You're fine, my dude. Don't worry.

yuckyuck13 · 2021-05-02T02:48:45+00:00

Embrace it, show it off.

yellowcubcadet1 · 2021-05-02T02:35:06+00:00

I wouldn't even bring it up. If you do end up dating her you will know when it is the right time to mention it and she probably won't give af. Imo if a girl had the same thing and mentioned it without any context I would think she's weird for bringing it up or insecure.

SerjEpic · 2021-05-02T00:09:53+00:00

Just be upfront. It sucks that some people will shoot you down even though your disfigurement is almost nothing, but that will be filtering out the toxic superficial people.

My disfigurements and disabilities are not hidden but I am still up front just to make sure the interaction is not awkward. The rule applies to everyone. (Instagram to see my face and tiktok, you can kinda see my bodies shape )

slammda0 · 2021-05-01T22:31:01+00:00

You couldve used it as a practical joke clear the air. Lest I wouldve not sure it the right approach but if it makes em smile funk it.

UrFoodMolestedMyNose · 2021-05-02T00:47:16+00:00

Just casually bring it up like some interesting thing. Seriously, I doubt anyone is going to write you off just because your ear isn’t “normal”.

Heightpocket · 2021-05-02T02:09:14+00:00

i would just go without it so you dont have to worry about it. probably easier said than done though

Medical_Reflection · 2021-05-02T10:15:13+00:00

I think its good if they reject you unless you are looking for a one night stand why would you want to associate with some loser that judges you based on having a damaged ear. She did you a favor, next.

Snoo5902 · 2021-05-02T14:32:28+00:00

I have cauliflower ear and it kinda looks like chewed up bubble gum. Just say you’re like master splinter! I joke about mine when the topic comes up

Title	Question for the bros out there with a hidden physical deformity
Author	conkrete80
Upvotes	33
Comments	23
Date	May 1, 2021 8:36 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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