OK seddit: Who is reliably having sex on the first date and how do you do it?

frogma · 2011-01-30T23:33:28+00:00

Read the sidebar bro. Be confident, be flirty, be alpha, escalate. Build attraction and comfort. I don't really have a secret, but if there's one thing I can probably tell you just from your post, DON'T be timid about it. That's probably your problem.

The sidebar will help with all that.

thesacred · 2011-01-31T05:17:47+00:00

When dating a new girl I always push for sex right away, just because it makes things easier later since you know where you stand. I have never once in my life been "friend zoned" by a girl, and I get sex on the first date more often than not.

Ultimately it will depend on the girl. The best you can do to get to sex on the first date is to just do your part and let her do hers.

Doing your part means being overtly physical from the get go. Not in a high pressure way, but in a casual way, like it's the most natural thing in the world. Have your hands on her, be relaxed and confident, make sure you're leading the night in such a way that it will end with you in bed. If she puts up resistance, deal with the resistance. If she doesn't, make sure that you're managing things so that what needs to happen will happen.

Beyond that, it's out of your control. She might be on her period. She might have to wake up at 7 am the next day, and she's not staying out past midnight no matter what.

Or she might have just gotten a bikini wax and put on her brand new satin panties to get ready for her hot new date, and she might be waiting for you to do the rest.

All you can do is assume the latter, and arrange for the night to play out as if that were the case.

tl;dr: Be overtly physical. Never let a girl go back home alone still wearing her brand new date panties.

cheddarchexmix · 2011-02-02T20:00:15+00:00

I'd say 50% of my f-closes are same night lays, no first date. With girls I haven't slept with, about 25% of my first dates end in f-closes, a little less than 25% of them are second date f-closes, and the remainder get cut unless they're really awesome and seem worth 1-2 further dates.

The key is filtering out non-sexual women as soon as you meet them, and kino escalating very quickly while building comfort/trust (kino escalation helps you filter non-responsive women too). I've gotten pretty good at both.

alfamale · 2011-02-03T09:43:33+00:00

Saying and doing the right things at the right time. Be alpha, in the zone, charming and keep it real. Also knowing how to kiss, dress well and have good hygiene. You have to cover many bases for sex on first date or get very lucky.

takfam · 2011-01-30T23:45:13+00:00

Roofies maybe?

Seriously though. You're looking for a magic bullet. There isn't one. Sometimes you'll close, sometimes you won't. Such is life.The trick is to not care because you know the next one is right around the corner. I've heard it said that women are like buses: There's a new one at your stop every 20 minutes.

alexryane · 2011-01-31T01:36:31+00:00

What are you doing for it not to happen? It's about 50-50 for me, and if not then usually on the second. After the third I'll give up unless I'm desperate or she's amazing.

I guess there are the obvious things: don't arrange a date somewhere miles from your or her place, don't arrange a date when there's going to be no time, or you guys have work the next day, or she has to go somewhere after. Avoid going for dinner, especially avoid 'unsexy' food (I'm amazed Indians have sex).

I lose a lot of respect for girls who want to fuck but make us wait, its childish, I just can't really look at them with the same level of fondness again.

Title	OK seddit: Who is reliably having sex on the first date and how do you do it?
Author	dreamersblues
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Date	January 30, 2011 10:48 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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