I feel like I'm faking everything when approaching.

TheDrCrotch · 2017-04-07T03:46:01+00:00

Flirt with everyone. If you only do it to the people you think are attractive it will never feel natural.

DastardlyDan · 2017-04-07T03:06:11+00:00

Fake it 'till you make it.

If you repeat a lie often enough, you'll start to believe it's the truth.

Okay, that second one has more of a negative connotatiom, but the core idea is the same. Keep at it. Eventually, the persona that you approach with will become second nature. Then it will become natural. Then you will become it. As long as that is what you want, it isn't really a bad thing.

It takes time. It's a transformation. You've got a raw concept of the person you want to project - take some time to work at it and smooth away the rough edges.

Windstrings · 2017-04-07T13:41:23+00:00

¿Maybe you are "faking" everything because you don´t like yourself and think "you" is not enough for girls? Just a thought, but in case it is like that, learn to like and love yourself. Maybe my example can illustrate this a bit better. After reading Models by Mark Manson I decided to try being 100% honest with both myself and the women I approach. I used to be kind of worried about this because quite frankly, I´m a huge nerd who´s into anime and geeky shit. However, I went ahead with being honest and accepting myself, showing my virtues to women and showing them that even though I was weird as hell, I could also be manly, confident, chivalrous and charismatic. See, you only need these traits and I can almost guarantee you that most women will not give a damn about the less "desirable characteristics" of yourself. And if you think you don´t have these traits, think again. You´re a man and you have them, you just have to look at yourself and get to know you better as you keep approaching women and people with this mindset.

Still, remember man. Do not do this for their validation or for their approval. Do this for yourself :) Keep grinding.

ext23 · 2017-04-07T08:33:17+00:00

Fake it 'till you make it.

As much of a cliche as this is, it's so true. You aren't used to flirting yet. You have to do more and more of it.

It's not even about what you are saying or the 'persona' that you feel like you are putting on. You just have to get used to talking to people. The more you get used to talking to people, the more you will start flirting more naturally without even realising it, it will become second nature to you.

UndidIridium · 2017-04-07T14:51:39+00:00

You need to focus on your inner game. Once you have that as a solid cornerstone, you wouldn't be faking anything.

t1mman · 2017-04-07T14:53:05+00:00

Maybe you are trying too hard!

Do you feel like you must prove your worth to everyone? Do you feel inadequate?

hashishandbeer · 2017-04-07T17:26:42+00:00

I will tell you the way I overcame this and it's up to you whether or not you believe it. This podcast is going to instruct you on exactly what to do in order to have the confidence necessary to get out of your shell. http://socialconfidencemastery.com/how-to-overcome-social-anxiety-with-justin-stenstrom/

NTSpike · 2017-04-07T16:46:27+00:00

How long have you been doing this? It's going to feel like you're faking it for awhile. For a LONG time. Longer than you want to deal with when you're in the thick of it.

One day though you're going to notice you can banter without trying, you know how to grab her hand when you want to, and you can ask her to leave with you without feeling like a fake.

It takes awhile for your identity to catch up.

Title	I feel like I'm faking everything when approaching.
Author	appypollylogiess
Upvotes	30
Comments	21
Date	April 7, 2017 2:58 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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