What does Mark Manson say about jealousy and insecurity issues?

supermanshazam · 2015-12-09T07:54:57+00:00

You know you're being needy

DrizzyBoi · 2015-12-09T08:00:18+00:00

Manson would say you are being needy. Jealousy is a sign of neediness it shows that you aren't confident in the fact that she would stay faithful. She's your girlfriend, she chose to date you. Be confident in yourself and and trust her.

Life_Uncivilized · 2015-12-09T13:05:54+00:00

Stop asking your girlfriend about him. Work on the relationship between the two of you.

If I'm brutally honest it sounds like she's ready to cheat on you. If she becomes distant etc I'd get rid of her and find a new girl.

It comes down to this - you're either happy in your relationship or you're not. She is who she is, you can't change her. If who she is right now is causing you problems - dump her and move on.

Don't try to change her.

GLOOTS_OF_PEACE · 2015-12-09T14:17:16+00:00

Lmao just stop being a lil bitch. Shes fine, youre fine

ApexReality · 2015-12-11T00:20:20+00:00

Love all the Cuck advice you've received so far. Yeah just let your girl nuzzle up to Chad.... She'll come home to you..... heck, she brushes her teeth so what are you so worried about?? LMAO. What a sad state of feminization men have slipped into.

NOW HEAR THIS: For all of history true Alpha men (not the paper Alpha's here) have punished ruthlessly any male interlopers making moves on their women. Some men were killed for even gazing too long at their Wife/Mistress/Harem. If you have to tolerate other dudes sliming up next to your girl it's because you are powerless to do anything about it. If you force yourself to tolerate this you are training yourself to be shat upon.

Sorry, the PUA "industry" has it wrong. Jealousy is not a choice. You can and should manage it but it is present in all high investment mating pairs in the animal kingdom. And it's there for a reason. Your intuition is correct, that's why you have it.

When your body signals your limbic system to be fearful at high, unstable perches - it's right!! you should be fearful. Jealousy works the same way. Admittedly, some guys get too sensitive, but the stimuli causing jealousy should be suspect.

Ignoring your jealousy is like accepting cuckoldry. Is your jealousy warranted? Well as one poster rightly noted:

"Every girl I have "studied with" I have actually studied very little with, lets be real. How often in your life have you you NEEDED to study with someone else? How often does one even "study" for a class?"

Yep, she's there for social reasons....with some dude... who is not you. Let me guess, this is an eligible dude, who she doesn't bring around you, and is not a common friend? Yeaaah their just friends cuckys.

So what do should you do? Your jealousy reveals your neediness - this the PUA nerds have right. But rather than tolerate her passively punking you, uncouple your neediness to her. Her behavior is probably not conducive to relationship fidelity so don't be the chump. She's taking advantage of relatively new social norms that ignore mellenia of well founded suspicion of female hypergamy and covert sluttery. Women love, love, love grey areas. They swim in the sea of plausible deniability. Don't call them out, just know what's up.

If she can't figure out how to keep you content you gotta move.

Reduce your neediness by 1) emotionally backing off - no big teary eyed all night long discussions, no pissy fights, and 2) divert you affection and attentions elsewhere - to other women -find another chick to (overtly) share your time with. You don't have to leave her, but you need to reduce your reliance on her. As an added bonus, women best understand cause and effect involuntarily, when their own natural instincts kick in. In other words when she sees you doing exactly what she is doing to you, only then do you have any leverage to change hers. When she see her standing with you in jeopardy, only then do you have her attention.

But plan on leaving her. Learn to walk away from women. Most today are unworthy of anything serious. Do it often, it's good for your soul. The good news is that modern dating norms weigh heavily in a man's favor. You do not have to be some cuck chump who allows any dude to sleaze up to his attention ho. Just gather up your options and cull the high drama sloots who don't know how or want to keep a man content. It's all good!

CaptainBambi · 2015-12-09T10:02:28+00:00

Every girl I have "studied with" I have actually studied very little with, lets be real. How often in your life have you you NEEDED to study with someone else? How often does one even "study" for a class? This dude must be really good at this subject for her to go to him all the time and miss out on time with you. Are there no girls in that class or something? Did you know roughly 60% of women ADMIT to cheating on their s/o sometime in their lives? (That's just the ones that admit it). Why even be jealous if there wasn't a reason to? Did you know worrying about cheating actually causes the chances of it happening to increase?

There's a book called "never get cheated on" by Joshua Pellicer, its part of the tao of badass series. Its only like 20ish pages. Go read that.

Also stop being jealous, jealousy is for the needy and the losers. It is unattractive and it actually causes more cheating that it gets rid of.

If any of my comment made you nervous, grow a pair. That shit shouldn't phase you if you had the confidence necessary to hold down a girl.

Title	What does Mark Manson say about jealousy and insecurity issues?
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Date	December 9, 2015 7:47 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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