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| 2 | I'm a piece of shit, just turned 26 and still a virgin. I need some fucking help.Can you elaborate on how they communicate emotionaly and picking up on emotional cues. Like elaborate on all of that with examples. As a male should I change how I communicate | /r/seduction | 17/12/15 06:14 AM |
| 0 | Confused on how to be there for a girl if it'll be deemed as needy loveI dont bombar dher with i kiss you texts or anything ir constantly need to han gout w her however if she asks tk hang oht and im free im nit gonna fake say yes or pretend to be busy. that shouldnt be necessary in order to have a gf dont you think? its disingenuous | /r/seduction | 13/12/15 11:42 PM |
| 1 | What does Mark Manson say about jealousy and insecurity issues?SO should I ghost her | /r/seduction | 11/12/15 05:14 PM |
| 1 | What does Mark Manson say about jealousy and insecurity issues?I mean I trust her that she actually is though and she says shes not attracted to him at all | /r/seduction | 09/12/15 07:34 PM |
| 1 | How to not get sad when comparing yourself to more attractive men/past lovers?Is there really any way to address #2 to stop being INSECURE because I feel its deep rooted. From an outsiders perspective I would be deemed as confident but I am a very insecure individual, I will constantly worry where she's at when she isn't talking to me, constantly worried about getting cheated on, her liking other guys, etc | /r/seduction | 05/10/15 11:54 PM |
| 1 | How to not get sad when comparing yourself to more attractive men/past lovers?Cant find any links to it anymore | /r/seduction | 05/10/15 10:22 PM |
| 1 | Better to ask for number or on a date outright?I just couldn't do it. She was walking in front of me on the way home on the phone and I couldn't bring myself to do it. Frozen | /r/seduction | 24/07/15 01:16 AM |
| 1 | Better to ask for number or on a date outright?what does open even mean tho? does excuse me i know this is random but i just wanted to say hi cause i thought you were cute count as an opener | /r/seduction | 22/07/15 10:43 PM |
| 1 | Better to ask for number or on a date outright?great. conflicting opinions. | /r/seduction | 22/07/15 02:27 AM |
| 1 | Better to ask for number or on a date outright?You think going up to her randomly after class (I don't sit next to her) is better than just stating intentions from the jump? I think it would take a while to build that comfort of suggesting a hang out. Obviously if I sat next to her then I could flirt and stuff but it's weird when I have limited interaction with her | /r/seduction | 22/07/15 02:22 AM |
| 2 | How do you deal with falling for a friend?used what "techniques" exactly | /r/seduction | 22/07/15 12:01 AM |
| 2 | Better to ask for number or on a date outright?should I ask if shes single first? I think its weird to just approach and be like hey, can I get your number | /r/seduction | 21/07/15 08:55 PM |
| 1 | Do you pay for the first hang out/date?I would if it were established as a date but its kind of just a we're friends, let's hang out once first type of thing. No pressure | /r/seduction | 04/06/15 03:26 AM |
| 0 | Do you think having female friends is important?So how do I friend zone her do I outwardly say it? Like let's just be friends - wouldn't I come off as a lil cocky like she would think that I took it as she likes me so I need to let her know So you're just saying just because she doesn't meet my standards don't drop her out of my life completely right and don't settle? But it's fine for me to go for someone I think is cute at first. I don't think that means I objectify all women | /r/seduction | 10/05/15 05:55 PM |
| 0 | Do you think having female friends is important?So I don't get it man: When I talk to a girl that might be a potential interest I should hold back and just be friends and see what happens? But how will I ever know to take it to the next level? Like if it's always in the back of my head now to just try and remain friends and to make me feel bad for wanting someone more than platonically how do I rid of that feeling | /r/seduction | 08/05/15 04:10 AM |
| 1 | Do you think having female friends is important?You think I have a gender screening process? That's not how it works at all. If a girl were cool and compatible with my personality then no shit I would hang out with them. I don't see them as only romantic prospects as I've stated maybe 30 times in this thread. I talk to girls I have no interest in. Is that seeing them as a romantic prospect? I see them on a day to day basis without wanting to fuck them. I am very selective when it comes to male friends as well. I treat everyone equally. BUT no… | /r/seduction | 06/05/15 10:31 PM |
| 1 | Do you think having female friends is important?Lol ok that is perfectly fine. But it seemed like I was getting reamed by the fact that if I see a pretty girl - the fact that I want something more with her is a problem. Like I don't see that. But apparently I'm an asshole that objectifies women because of that. Obviously if a girl is cool enough I'll be friends with her. I'm just a bit of an introvert and even decline my male friends offers to hang out so I'm obviously gonna decline an invite when I don't feel close to the person. It almost s… | /r/seduction | 06/05/15 10:01 PM |
| 1 | Do you think having female friends is important?that's still applicable to me even when I talk to girls in my classes? When I have had conversations with girls? Why am I only seeing them as sex objects when I go after the ones I want is what I'm saying. Everyone here seems to say I have to hang out with these said girls but I don't get what that has to do with seeing them as only sexual objects when I choose not to. That doesn't make sense to you? Why is everyone claiming I see them as sexual conquests when I have female friends I can talk to… | /r/seduction | 06/05/15 06:25 PM |
| 1 | Do you think having female friends is important?So you're saying hang out with the girls I do like and never make a move because I need to see them as people and never have sex with them and never have a partner because when I do see one I like then I'll look at them as a conquest. This is what you're saying right? Because I have female friends Imm not trting to sleep with but I don't hang out with them. I mean I guess you can take t defensively Imm just offering my point of view I don't have to agree with you. I'm trying to understand what y… | /r/seduction | 06/05/15 06:22 PM |
| 1 | Do you think having female friends is important?I don't think I discount any of them just haven't clicked with any to be just purely friends... yknow I don't know man Imm really trying to look inside after all this though. I feel they're right on some levels but also don't know me and are going off assumptions | /r/seduction | 06/05/15 03:51 PM |
| 1 | Do you think having female friends is important?So establishing hangout with the others ou just say "lets hangout" and ones you're interested in is "lets date"? Right? So I don't get what having female friends has to do with getting C as a giflfriend. Do you catch my drift? Why do I have to do the A and B friendship if my heart isn't in it? ! And since I'm going straight for the C without HANGING out with A and B I'm objectifying all women and they're all alien to me? When I can have eveyday interactions with them.. I'm sayjng why do I have t… | /r/seduction | 06/05/15 03:39 PM |
| 0 | Do you think having female friends is important?Doesn't this go against common advice to always escalate and be stating sexual intentions always be flirting because the emotional part should come second to te sex stuff? I hope you get where Imm coming from thanks for your response, I really am trying to understand lol. See my thing is all my friendships are genuine. I've never forced any of em and right now it'd seem forced so I guess it's like when I see a girl, yes I talk to all of them the ones I'm not interested in, but usually it'd be on… | /r/seduction | 06/05/15 03:34 PM |
| 1 | Do you think having female friends is important?So say there's A girl, B and C I hang out with A and B so much as PURELY FRIENDS and have no interest in pursuing a relationship it's purely platonic Then I meet C who I'm actuat attracted to and treat her the same way because it's drilled into my mind that's how I need to treat her she'll just see me as a friend. | /r/seduction | 06/05/15 03:27 PM |
| 1 | Do you think having female friends is important?No I was talking about one I was interested in because habits of ones I wasn't interested in would come through | /r/seduction | 06/05/15 03:22 PM |
| 1 | Do you think having female friends is important?Lol questioning whether I have male friends 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 You're funny dude No I'm not objectifying anyone this wasn't helpful. Save your ad-hom for someone else it isn't applicable here | /r/seduction | 06/05/15 03:20 PM |
| 1 | Do you think having female friends is important?No I can separate them I just view t as a half ass waste of time Yes. At the call of a button | /r/seduction | 06/05/15 03:11 PM |
| 1 | Do you think having female friends is important?I have these female friends I just don't hang out with them. Ppl in this thread are making it seem like I never interact with females ever. I have females I can go to for "intel" All the benefits you listed seem like I would just ve using them as a means to an end | /r/seduction | 06/05/15 03:09 PM |
| 1 | Do you think having female friends is important?No I don't see then as potential conquests haha. Maybe when seeing a girl that I actually want yeah but I wouldn't deem it as a "conquest" I would actually care avout whk she was as a person.. This is staaaarting to make a little more sense. I keep them around I don't know I haven't really thought about it? It's always been extremely natural. How do I start treating them like people? I don't get what that means cause I treat everybody the same; kindness, teasing, etc EVERYBODY | /r/seduction | 06/05/15 03:07 PM |
| 1 | Do you think having female friends is important?I don't get what that means that they are people too? Like why do people think I think of them as aliens? Like I get they're people. I don't know. It seems counter-intuitive almost. So if I'm hanging one on one with a girl and have in the back of my mind I need to treat her as a friend it's just gonna end up with me being friendzoned. Which I wouldn't necessarily want right? Cause if I'm interested why would I want that? | /r/seduction | 06/05/15 06:22 AM |
| 1 | Do you think having female friends is important?I don't get how by not hanging out with them I'm not seeing them as humans is my point. What am I doing to not see them as humans that have needs? I realize EVERYBODY has needs is just the realization not enough? I do obviously want a best friend but it seems to go against all the advice here about how friends should come second to sex and all that. How emotions should be withheld towards later because when trying to go about it propeely without sex right away in the past they've lost respect fo… | /r/seduction | 06/05/15 04:57 AM |
| 0 | Do you think having female friends is important?Oh dude if I ever met a girl who's presence I actually enjoyed for sure. I just don't feel like my heart is in it with most but maybe cause I'm viewing them as romantic potentials? Idk. This post opened my eyes and I thank you all for contributing though. Do you thjnk certain anxieties would maybe go away with girls I actually DO like? I feel like that's the thing see like people keep saying Indon't view them as humans but what happens when I see one I DO think is attractive and want to pursue? … | /r/seduction | 06/05/15 03:33 AM |
| 0 | Do you think having female friends is important?I mean if I had what you had I would love it And at the same time I guarantee you're not even a QUARTER as close to these girls as I am to my close friends. Not even a quarter. So itMs weird. I want what you want but dunno how to get a huge group of girl friends without it feeling forced. | /r/seduction | 06/05/15 03:19 AM |
| 1 | Do you think having female friends is important?The second half of your post sounds good to me. I touch everyone usually though. I guess my fear is it being judged as a romantic thing when I really want it to be strictly platonic and I'd sound like a doucher if I was like "I just see you as a friend" Before even knowing her just to establish that. But hmm this post made the most sense to me lol way to crack in. I'll try ! It's something that'd be easy for me cause it's so readily available it's just I'm almost friendship phobic to females cau… | /r/seduction | 06/05/15 03:15 AM |
| -2 | Do you think having female friends is important?Yeah tthey have thst potential to be it towards other ppl. Tell me why there is somehing wrong wih me only wanting to spend time with a girl as a romantic interest. Why should I waste my time on a half assed friendship. Of course I would consider t in fact if we lived near each other I would GENUINELY wanna be your friend so I can have talks about this and you could bring me around to your thinking cause I truly wish I could. So for me it's like now I feel trapped in a sense where I have to make… | /r/seduction | 06/05/15 02:54 AM |
| 0 | Do you think having female friends is important?This logic is flawed | /r/seduction | 06/05/15 02:49 AM |
| 1 | Do you think having female friends is important?The fuck are you talking about. Read through the thread please | /r/seduction | 06/05/15 02:01 AM |
| 1 | Do you think having female friends is important?I'm not even close but thanks | /r/seduction | 06/05/15 01:49 AM |
| 0 | Do you think having female friends is important?See so now if I'm in the mindset of being friends with girls for the benefits that I could reap then it'd be for the wrong reasons. Idk I just don't see it happening man. Ok so I hang out with them then what? I don't know. Just opens to more heartbreak It's like now it's a gosl to get a super close friend but idk man. It seems very forced. | /r/seduction | 06/05/15 01:26 AM |
| 1 | Do you think having female friends is important?LOL. What the fuck does this even mean? Why are you so quick to jump to this tho? I have to hang out with them? Why can't I interact with them when I see them. I have friends that are girls you're not explaining further because I don't see it. How do I not see them as people. I think you might just be a bitter woman that doesn't get much action or somethin? At this point it's annoying cause people just saying the same basic shit while I don't understand what hey mean so please explain further I'… | /r/seduction | 06/05/15 12:45 AM |
| 1 | Do you think having female friends is important?It's not about pick up it's just my personality is pretty flirty so it'd always be like I'm trying to hit | /r/seduction | 06/05/15 12:44 AM |
| 0 | Do you think having female friends is important?But wtf??? I don't want a girl just to have sex, I can get that wih anyone if I lowered my standards. It's to find a lifelong partner. What do you mean "talk" I talk to other girls just not in a romantic sense or a friendship one. I think your way of thinking is extremely reductive. I'm genuinely trying to understand your viewpoint but I think you're just jumping to conclusions thjnking that I only wanna fuck every girl and don't care about their dreams and aspirations and who they are as people… | /r/seduction | 06/05/15 12:23 AM |
| 0 | Do you think having female friends is important?I guess man. I'm not opposed to it either it's just A) I would wanna be friends with an attractive one and B) How would I go about hanging out one on one without them thinking it's some date or I'm trying to get with them | /r/seduction | 06/05/15 12:00 AM |
| 1 | Do you think having female friends is important?What does friends that are girls mean?! Like on facebook maybe half my friends list is girls, there are girls that I can hit up and talk about sexual shit, shoot the shit with anything and if I ask them to hang out they would more than likely comply and be willing. Is that being friends with them? I don't think I put them on some crazy pedestal... maybe really attractive ones but that's like second nature I think I'm comparing it to how close I am with my guy friends and thinking it needs to be … | /r/seduction | 05/05/15 11:42 PM |
| 2 | Do you think having female friends is important?What does never had it even MEAN? Of course I've hung out with girls that are my "friends" - but not on some crazy shit where it's the same tier as my guy friends | /r/seduction | 05/05/15 11:38 PM |
| 1 | Do you think having female friends is important?I guess our definition of friend is different. To me personally it's someone I get along with yes but also see and hang out with on a regular basis, I just don't see the point if there isn't anything romantically going on. I don't know? Am I crazy? That's not to say I wouldn't be there for them or be able to talk to them about any topic under the sun it's just I don't see the POINT. ESPECIALLY if someone is gonna catch feels and end up hurt. I'd much rather know how we feel feelings wise from th… | /r/seduction | 05/05/15 11:37 PM |
| 1 | Do you think having female friends is important?Mm.. I always hear conflicting advice on this like on seddit a popular saying is don't follow their advice because what they say they want and what they actually react to is different But this could be true.. it's just every indicidual woman in my experience is so drastically different even if one thinks something another will think something else | /r/seduction | 05/05/15 11:30 PM |
| 2 | Do you think having female friends is important?Lol this seems a little extreme but thanks for your opinion. I appreciate it. | /r/seduction | 05/05/15 11:28 PM |
| 0 | Do you think having female friends is important?Seems like you just keep her around for the benefits? I don't really wanna make my gf jealous. And why would you not trust one? I don't get what having a close platonic female friend has to do with trust | /r/seduction | 05/05/15 11:19 PM |
| 1 | Do you think having female friends is important?See exactly I avoiid this problem by not having many if any girlfriends that I contact on a regular basis. So she'd KNOW they're just friends. It wouldn't mar any contrast or raise suspicion (sp? why is that word hard to spell) So it's a blessing in disguise in that sense. Not like I'm specifically NOT trying to have girl friends because of this outcome it just is what it is I just had a friend who broke up wit his girl because she kept getting jealous of his "girl friends" who he didn't see in … | /r/seduction | 05/05/15 11:15 PM |
| 1 | Do you think having female friends is important?No I'm definitely not but for some reason I wouldn't want to hang out with one unless we really clicked.. | /r/seduction | 05/05/15 11:13 PM |
| 0 | Do you think having female friends is important?Eye opening in what way though? I'm constantly surrounded by them and interacting with them at school and HAVE in other situations I don't see a reason as to why that needs to be up keeped to a point where they're constantly around. I have female friends that I can talk to but I don't necessarily hang out with them cause we're in different circles. Like what would I possibly learn that I don't know now? | /r/seduction | 05/05/15 11:11 PM |
| 3 | Do you think having female friends is important?YES! I could never put it into words but this sums it up perfectly. Thank you. Saving this | /r/seduction | 05/05/15 10:44 PM |
| 1 | Do you think having female friends is important?See I don't get this. Why am I not seeing you like a human eing if I want to date one? I don't get it. I don't SOLELY talk to ones I'd wana date. I would talk to my classmates co workers etc but why do I need to hang out with you? Why cant I just want to hang out with the ones I find attractive and want to date. Tht doesnt mean I see them as a conquest wtf it just means I see them as a potential life partner. I never understood the whole thing | /r/seduction | 05/05/15 10:34 PM |
| 0 | Do you think having female friends is important?I do see you as people though. Because I just don't wanna hang around unattractivr ppl? I'm shallow I guess. | /r/seduction | 05/05/15 10:31 PM |
| 2 | Do you think having female friends is important?My end game is a monogamous relationship. BUT for some reason girls keep planting ideas in my head (girls on REDDIT mind you) That I'm not seeing them as people when in fact I am?! they seem to have some notion tha tjust because I find one attractivr and want to get to know hem and date that I'm not seeing them as people whatever the hell that means. In real life yes I am compfrtable with them and can make them laugh and have always been said to come across as "smooth" so in my case I'd just see… | /r/seduction | 05/05/15 09:26 PM |
| 9 | Do you think having female friends is important?I mean thats my fear right if I find them attractive I'm gonna wanna fuck them and I don't wanna hang out with unattractive girls lol | /r/seduction | 05/05/15 09:00 PM |
| 2 | Do you think having female friends is important?Oh nah, not necessarily I was wondering if having female friends would put girls in a different light in a sense of if it was just necessary to talk to them better. Cause that's what girls seem to say | /r/seduction | 05/05/15 08:58 PM |
| 3 | Do you think having female friends is important?Just stop. You're embarassing. | /r/seduction | 05/05/15 08:11 PM |
| 8 | Do you think having female friends is important?I guess that's WHY I don't have female friends and yeah - I flirt with everybody anyway. Mm for just having the sake is my problem. I don't think I'd enjoy the company of one unless we had similar interests and at that point it's just rare. So I guess I'm screwed | /r/seduction | 05/05/15 08:04 PM |
| 4 | Do you think having female friends is important?First off fuck off with your attitude. Two, read better. I was asking if NOT having one would be a hindrance. Third, stop projecting your friendzone shit no one said anything about that. And humanize them yes because some people see them as trophies. Just get the fuck out rude ass. You aren't helpful. You project, and I don't need that. | /r/seduction | 05/05/15 07:57 PM |
| 7 | Do you think having female friends is important?I guess I don't know how to be friends with a girl because all my life it's been like conditioned to "date" and "court" them in a sense. You know what I mean? And I feel like attraction is inevitable. You and him have never had feelings for each other? I just don't even know HOW to be a friend because our INTERESTS don't line up. My guy friends: sports, video games, etcetc ; I don't know how to hang out with a girl like what do we even do lol. I'd feel almost every move even platonic would be se… | /r/seduction | 05/05/15 07:27 PM |
| 1 | What the hell is wrong with me? I'm single and constantly fear getting cheated onYeah def this made me feel better and more confident thanks for taking the time out. Im gonna read this from time to time lol | /r/seduction | 12/04/15 03:20 AM |
| 1 | What the hell is wrong with me? I'm single and constantly fear getting cheated onCause there's always men better looking with better personalities with better everything and thats fact. | /r/seduction | 10/04/15 03:28 AM |
| 1 | What the hell is wrong with me? I'm single and constantly fear getting cheated onTruth. Its like I cant get away from it- fb reddit etc stories everyhing | /r/seduction | 10/04/15 12:41 AM |
| 1 | What the hell is wrong with me? I'm single and constantly fear getting cheated onI dont think it has to do with my attraction level. I just literally dont TRUST them to be mongamous | /r/seduction | 10/04/15 12:40 AM |
| 1 | Ever get the words taken out of your mouth when you see a super hot girl?Just tryna think tho. Like waht would you honestly talk about | /r/seduction | 02/04/15 04:41 AM |
| 3 | Anyone else feel like they can get better girls in person than on Tinder?no in real life how do you convey it | /r/seduction | 31/03/15 09:40 PM |
| -1 | Anyone else feel like they can get better girls in person than on Tinder?How do I be sexual? Just by talking about itt? Isnt that awk | /r/seduction | 31/03/15 08:23 PM |
| 1 | TINDER IS KILLING MY SELF-ESTEEMhow do you figure | /r/seduction | 23/03/15 01:17 AM |
| -2 | So I had my first Tinder date yesterdayI went swimming how did it feel? no thats awk as fuck | /r/seduction | 21/03/15 06:57 AM |
| 1 | TINDER IS KILLING MY SELF-ESTEEMThat is SO fucking strange to me. | /r/seduction | 15/03/15 01:17 AM |
| 0 | TINDER IS KILLING MY SELF-ESTEEMi mean it varies theres some way way way way worse and some that are similar but it might be cuz im not attracted to asian girls cuz they always like me. idk. we have diff taste though. and thats fine. | /r/seduction | 14/03/15 10:48 PM |
| -1 | TINDER IS KILLING MY SELF-ESTEEMhttp://imgur.com/a/dr07w those were the best looking. and i had to try to look for that. 5 out of 150 now these 5 arent particularly great right? now imagine the other 145 look worse than these 5. i dont get how im in the wrong for wanting something more | /r/seduction | 14/03/15 10:13 PM |
| -1 | TINDER IS KILLING MY SELF-ESTEEMDo you want to see the pictures of these girls? Theyre p much average or below what he fuck when you go out and try and pick up girls are you hitting on 4s? im sorry i have standards and wont settle | /r/seduction | 14/03/15 09:57 PM |
| 1 | TINDER IS KILLING MY SELF-ESTEEMcant get jacked am ecto | /r/seduction | 14/03/15 09:10 PM |
| 1 | TINDER IS KILLING MY SELF-ESTEEMI am dumbfuck | /r/seduction | 14/03/15 08:20 PM |
| -1 | TINDER IS KILLING MY SELF-ESTEEMwhats the diff if they dont find me attractive on the app they wouldnt in person id say my photos are generally better looking than me in real life | /r/seduction | 14/03/15 07:35 PM |
| -1 | TINDER IS KILLING MY SELF-ESTEEMelab on sub comm? | /r/seduction | 14/03/15 06:45 PM |
| -5 | TINDER IS KILLING MY SELF-ESTEEMSo because I have standards I have to grow up.. I doubt you would wanna be fucking some of these girls | /r/seduction | 14/03/15 06:41 PM |
| -5 | TINDER IS KILLING MY SELF-ESTEEMyeah its just a selfie lol grayscaled my problem is just getting matched with the girls i think are attractive | /r/seduction | 14/03/15 06:17 PM |
| -7 | TINDER IS KILLING MY SELF-ESTEEMHow am I shallow when this whole sub is based around gaming and getting "HB 10s and 9s" lol My 150 matches is only from swiping right on everybody if I did like you and methodically swiped I probably wouldn't match with anyone. | /r/seduction | 14/03/15 06:14 PM |
| -9 | TINDER IS KILLING MY SELF-ESTEEMok bitch boy | /r/seduction | 14/03/15 06:01 PM |
| 1 | TINDER IS KILLING MY SELF-ESTEEMThere isn't anything wrong with them I'm just not attracted to them. Is it shallow though? Isn't that what the app is about | /r/seduction | 14/03/15 06:01 PM |
| 1 | How do I stop asking BORING questions?yea my problem is i dont have time to think in my head "is this gonna be a yes or no type question" becuz i dont wanna think and pause. just should be natural. i mean sometimes its up to the to give and elvaorte on questions u know? is there an easy way to always ask non yes nos or is it just somethjn u gotta thjnk abiut | /r/seduction | 12/03/15 02:52 PM |
| 1 | So how do I be a challenge if I'm letting my intentions be known from the jump?god damn you're right about that first paragraph. Having your own opinions and challenging hers to think diff if you really feel differently. Thx. As for the second part god damn that is a hard line to walk. For one its like I dont wanna play retarded mind games I just want us to likeeach other but I also dont wanna be too easy to where Im boring and shell leave. -_- | /r/seduction | 09/03/15 02:53 AM |
| 2 | Attractive girls and their attractive friends. How to not put them on a pedestal?I think that's fine it's just I have a feeling of inferiority going in just solely based on looks. Like these attractive people only talk to attractive people lol I don't know how to explain it but I'd be lying to say these girls aren't out of my league and most of them would be superficial to the point where I'm not given a chance anyway.. | /r/seduction | 08/03/15 05:45 PM |
| -4 | [FR] Are you playing plants vs zombies? /#-closestupdi jokes such as | /r/seduction | 07/03/15 07:46 PM |
| 1 | how to talk to classmates?ugh just lurked on fb and shes not single -.- | /r/seduction | 11/02/15 11:04 PM |
| 1 | how to talk to classmates?i'd consider myself an 8 on a good day. i am talking to another hb8 in the class and i think she thinks i like her so maybe she got jealous and decided to mov enext to me and hear our convo or somethin. idk. i overthink everything. but ya thanks for the info. good stuff. i just have one itis rn as i wont see her for a whole week again. ugh. cant get her off my mind and i knkw its wrong. do you have advice on how to get her off a pedestal just cuz her looks. im asian and shes white so i automatic… | /r/seduction | 11/02/15 09:03 PM |
| 1 | how to talk to classmates?i asked her a question that i was genuinely curious about and hse told me and then gave me a nice smile lol | /r/seduction | 11/02/15 08:43 PM |
| 1 | how to talk to classmates?whatd did you say when getting her number. mines a hb9 too. my problem is when i start to talk to them my voice shakes and ive played it out so much in my mind that ut doesnt come out perfect or smooth. and they can tell that im flustered lol. i think im gonna go for it just tell her what i thjnk of her then ask if i can take her out | /r/seduction | 11/02/15 08:43 PM |
| 1 | what are ways that guys show they seek approval and validation?see for the gift and compliment example how are people supposed to be able to discern one from the other when its not obvious. | /r/seduction | 08/02/15 09:06 PM |
| -4 | For those of you having trouble getting out of your head, this video is for you.my worry is i feel like some of the fnny shit i say is cuz my brain is moving rapidly and if i were to meditate to lose that nervous funny sht where my brain is working fast then id lose certain thoughts or stuff id say in the moment becuz im so zen | /r/seduction | 19/01/15 10:57 PM |
| 41 | I'm struggling to differentiate between a girl flirting and her personalityask her out on a date. she says no = personality , yes = she likes you | /r/seduction | 19/01/15 10:46 PM |
| 1 | So a post on /r/cringe caught my attentionhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RRL_WZnhaBU | /r/seduction | 19/01/15 10:39 PM |
| 3 | So a post on /r/cringe caught my attentionpretty fucking much. it's not like shit simplepickup does would be posted on /cringe. It's just calling it how it is. It's extremely awkward and uncomfortable. My question is what exactly is he doing wrong if hes implementing shit like telling them who they are opposed to asking questions, trying to "kino", etc etc he has multiple approaches on his channel is it just the delivery? Idk but whatever the fuck it is I don't want to ever do anything close to that. If this is what most sedditors are l… | /r/seduction | 19/01/15 07:55 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone else go through this? And know a solution?Do you think too much self awareness is a bad thing? Like is that the same as mindfulness or is it the exact opposite? It feels like I'm trying to control every littl facet and I'm thinking in my head "okay this is what I'm doing right now" and it's almost in line with some type of perfectionist mindset to me | /r/seduction | 26/12/14 05:15 AM |
| 5 | Is saying "hey, I thought you were cute *and so on*" really a bad opener?I thought you DO start w those because it shows social awareness and politeness | /r/seduction | 06/12/14 10:03 PM |
| 3 | Is saying "hey, I thought you were cute *and so on*" really a bad opener?whats a better opener for someone thats used to it | /r/seduction | 06/12/14 10:01 PM |
| 0 | Is saying "hey, I thought you were cute *and so on*" really a bad opener?gah i feel this way too and theres still a divide even on this sub :( | /r/seduction | 06/12/14 04:08 PM |
| 1 | Is saying "hey, I thought you were cute *and so on*" really a bad opener?what do you do then? just make small talk? | /r/seduction | 06/12/14 04:08 PM |
| 2 | Is saying "hey, I thought you were cute *and so on*" really a bad opener?whats an example of something youd do | /r/seduction | 06/12/14 04:07 PM |
| 3 | How to Pick up Chicks: Johnny Bravo Style.Fucking legend | /r/seduction | 30/11/14 05:02 AM |
| 1 | How can you tell if you're being nice to be well-liked or just genuinely nice?I'm just saying I think you can still be a good person or nice guy but if something doesn't go your way you don't always need to be so "calm" all the time. That wouldn't denote your niceness. IMO. I don't think those link? Am I crazy? I can be nice and still get mad because that's a human reaction. I don't think "not reacting" is what makes you nice. My original question was I wasn't sure if I was doin it to be well-liked or it was just a part of who I was.. this is an interesting talk either wa… | /r/seduction | 24/11/14 04:11 AM |
| 1 | How can you tell if you're being nice to be well-liked or just genuinely nice?i think being mad when someone yells at you for opening a door is completely reasonable and youre spineless if you dont react or have no soul if it doesnt affect you whatsoever | /r/seduction | 23/11/14 09:50 PM |
| 1 | How can you tell if you're being nice to be well-liked or just genuinely nice?i truly dont believe i have an agenda and its been sorra engrained in me to be a gentleman or polite and all these things. i just wanna know if its connected to me being hyper snesitive as to whther people like me or dont like me.. idk... nvm lol | /r/seduction | 23/11/14 07:39 AM |
| 2 | How can you tell if you're being nice to be well-liked or just genuinely nice?so its not a problem that maybe as a part of who i am i just subconsciously want to be liked that i do these things? i tell myself its just part of who i am but idk if its connected to something deeper like a yearning to be liked and please everybody.. sometimes if i smile at someone i expect a smile back.. if she doesnt i think shes a bitch am i wrong for assuming this? i dont think that its something that i necessarily do to get something its just a common decency annoyance | /r/seduction | 23/11/14 07:38 AM |
| 1 | For guys that approach consistently, have you ever felt inferior?Thanks for the reply. I guess that's what's fucked me up, after reading a lot of shit on here I feel that the opener has to be the one that conveys all my interest so there's no beating around the bush kinda thing. I need to learn how to just talk to them first. I don't know why I'm under the mindset that I need to open up saying they're cute or I want their number. I just still get nervous and my eyes start to twitch when I'm forcing myself to make eye contact, then I start to get in my head to… | /r/seduction | 07/11/14 03:28 PM |
| 3 | For guys that approach consistently, have you ever felt inferior?fucking lol'd at if you cant handle me at my worst then you don't deserve me at my best haha thanks for this | /r/seduction | 07/11/14 03:19 PM |
| 1 | Don't understand "don't think about what to say next" rule during conversationMuch of your qualms seem to be based on the idea that you need to be constantly cross-referencing what someone says, with how it relates to you or how you can bring something interesting up in response. The assumptions here are wrong. It's not about YOU and you don't need to be composing Shakespeare's greatest works in order to have a good conversation. yup.. this p much seems to be my problem. even when im watching a tv show i try and really listen to the dialogue and see what i would say in re… | /r/seduction | 27/10/14 07:45 PM |
| 1 | Don't understand "don't think about what to say next" rule during conversationthat doesn't make sense to me.and in no way am i triyng to be an asshole or argue for the sake of arguing i'm just legitimatel ytrying to understand what is always said. If you're talking to someone and they're talking about a sport event they went to and they're telling you about it, you aren't at all in your head AT ALL for the SLIGHTEST thinking about what to relate this to, a similar story, ANYTHING? youre just completely 100% focused on what theyre saying? So after theyre done talking you d… | /r/seduction | 22/10/14 12:41 AM |
| 0 | Don't understand "don't think about what to say next" rule during conversationexactly | /r/seduction | 21/10/14 07:02 PM |
| 2 | Don't understand "don't think about what to say next" rule during conversationright but sometimes you gotta think about what youmre saying next to filter out some super offensive shit i cant just blurt out i wanna rape children like you know what i mean? haha i don't know hwo to explain it it just doesnt make sense to me.. so theyre saying just don't THINK ABOUT WHAT TO SAY NEXT THAT HAS NOTHING TO DO W THE CONVERSATION? but you can THINK if it correlates to the subject at hand? idk | /r/seduction | 21/10/14 02:10 AM |
| 1 | How to stop over thinking and wanting to be a perfectionist in conversation?My thing is I have the skills and the know how, it's just when I'm alone I can't stop THINKING about having to be perfect. It's not about the skills. I worry and generally have anxiety about delivering and being perfect which ends up backfiring. I know about posture confidence and paying attention to them but it's like I'm trying to study every show I watcha nd how they respond to things and try to emulate it in my head but it's impossible | /r/seduction | 20/10/14 11:17 PM |
| 1 | What do you guys do to be "well-rounded"?"the more informatin I take in, the more people I can relate to" Thats exactly what I want so right now I'm going thru a bunch of new albums, movies, trying to read, etc. I just want this Whats an example of an off the whim joke? | /r/seduction | 14/10/14 01:06 AM |
| 1 | What do you guys do to be "well-rounded"?is this the "Joe Rogan Experience"? | /r/seduction | 14/10/14 01:03 AM |
| 2 | Inner Game for Men - In A Nutshellidk I think watching some smart tv shows could help w discussions and conversation about tv shows. same w sports for men. i feel like if you arent in the know of these things then youre kinda left out of the conversation. theres definitely a time and place for them just dont let it consume you. i mean when im sitting aorund w friends we def dont talk about f scott fitzgerald, nor would i want to. you need to have some knowledge in pop culture. | /r/seduction | 11/10/14 06:34 AM |
| 1 | I'm a jerk to the ladies. How do I stop?so now teasing is bad? Idk I can be an asshole but they know I'm joking and they love it.. I think if you're constantly nice and kissing ass it'd be boring as fuck this seems to go against everything else said in this sub | /r/seduction | 09/10/14 10:05 PM |
| 2 | What do you talk about? I'm scared of awkward silenceswhere do you go for current event stuff? or whats the best way to go about it? CNN, reddit, just reading articles | /r/seduction | 09/08/14 05:50 AM |
| 1 | Is reaction seeking and attention seeking behavior the same thing?so basically I can expect a response but it shouldn't affect my mood if it doesn't go the way I expected? It's like if I were to smile at someone I would EXPECT a smile back. If that doesn't happen I won't necessarily get mad about it or make a big deal out of it, it'd just be like a wtf thing. Is that reaction seeking? I mean I don't NEED the RIGHT response but I do want one. I think I'm taking it too literal as you said. I think the way it's worded is really fucking me up. I mean if I were to … | /r/seduction | 07/06/14 12:57 AM |
| 1 | Is reaction seeking and attention seeking behavior the same thing?ok I think I took it WAY too literally like in your example it'd be like I go up to the store and I ask if they have any iPads available and if I'm expecting a response then I'm "reaction seeking" cuz I'm "looking for a reaction". Lol. This makes more sense it's just being outcome independent then.. | /r/seduction | 07/06/14 12:54 AM |
| 1 | Why is helping others needyi wasn't even talking about girls here. you're missing the point completely. i use seduction as basic building blocks to become a better overall man. this is almodt regarding "no more mr nice guy" in a way. i didn't read the book. i don't care about gettin pussy | /r/seduction | 31/05/14 04:50 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone else deal w "wanting to be their favorite"yeah it's definitely jealousy based. which i guess is needy in itself but its a different form.. its like anxiety that theyll find someone better and leave you | /r/seduction | 28/05/14 10:53 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone else deal w "wanting to be their favorite"it's not even about pleasing others cause I wont go out of my way to do stuff for them, I won't drop plans at the drop of a hat What is true is that I like to hear the affirmation but sometimes I don't need to as well. It's quite odd. | /r/seduction | 28/05/14 02:16 PM |
| 1 | Any tips on how to get out of your head?If you put her on a pedestal in your MIND (thinking she's hot), but your actions don't always "agree w everything shes saying, buy her things" and you tease but are a little nervous, isn't that NOT coming off as needy? What is a outlined behavior that determines whether or not I'm coming off as needy | /r/seduction | 27/05/14 03:20 PM |
| 1 | Where is the line drawn for neediness/honesty/vulnerabilitythe second one. like her but feel lesser. it's a needy statement. and you said that guys often feel the need to SAYsomething about hwo they feel because they lack the balls to DO something. What would they DO in this situation. | /r/seduction | 22/05/14 01:15 AM |
| 1 | Where is the line drawn for neediness/honesty/vulnerabilityExample of this? Kinda confused. So instead of saying a needy thing like "I don't deserve you" If I TRULY feel that way and it's honest and vulnerable what's the action that I would be able to do? | /r/seduction | 21/05/14 02:40 AM |
| 1 | Where is the line drawn for neediness/honesty/vulnerabilityOkay but conversely if I tell a girl I like her personality after getting to know her that's not needy right. I'm expressing how I feel about her in an honest fashion. So it's always context | /r/seduction | 21/05/14 02:39 AM |
| 1 | Where is the line drawn for neediness/honesty/vulnerabilityI mean it in the conversational aspect. Like if you say something that comes across as needy but you're being honest and open, then its fine? | /r/seduction | 20/05/14 07:11 AM |
| 1 | Things You Should Never Say/Do Around Womencan you elaborate on "pay attention"? I never seen those two words on seddit before. Is this the same as listening and conversation threading or are you talking about calibration and being aware of whats going on in the moment | /r/seduction | 10/05/14 06:33 PM |
| 3 | Things You Should Never Say/Do Around WomenHahahaha noted. Thanks sweetie. | /r/seduction | 10/05/14 06:21 AM |
| 1 | Nice Guys, Intent, Neediness & Identity Investmentnot relevant | /r/seduction | 08/05/14 02:52 AM |
| 1 | Nice Guys, Intent, Neediness & Identity InvestmentRight on. So basically don't be a little bitch that sucks up to people because I want them to like me. But if I'm genuinely a rad person and someone doesn't like me, aren't I allowed to be a little off-put? It seems like a natural human emotion. I wouldn't allow it to change who I am or define me as a person but it would still bother me for the time being. Mmm, okay. So standing up for what I believe in and not wavering just because she thinks something different is ultimately attractive. Also n… | /r/seduction | 06/05/14 11:44 PM |
| 1 | Difficulty Gaming In Front Of OthersYeah it just sucks that even though you're interacting with her you know it could be better because you feel an outside source looking or judging you lol | /r/seduction | 03/05/14 09:03 PM |
| 1 | Clear cut examples of putting a girl on a pedestalGreatly appreciate your well thought out responses. Am I wrong in saying that peope that engage in teasing and banter don't put girls on a pedestal? It seems like pedestal behavior is the stuff of "Nice Guys" | /r/seduction | 03/05/14 08:46 PM |
| 1 | Clear cut examples of putting a girl on a pedestalokay and where is the line drawn with being chilvalrous? what i mean by that is how can she TELL whether or not i'm doing it for the sake of doing it, or trying to get her to like me. and with the gifting, bought a small thing (worth a dollar) but its cause I wanted to. Not to impress her. How can they tell the difference? It seems like a lot of the pedestal is inner thoughts and not outward actions | /r/seduction | 03/05/14 05:54 PM |
| 2 | Are there any cures for jealousy?i like this thanks | /r/seduction | 02/05/14 04:55 AM |
| 1 | Are there any cures for jealousy?i've read models. what are ways to lower investment? its like if i like a girl i will ALWAYS be more invested so its like a catch 22 | /r/seduction | 02/05/14 04:55 AM |
| 1 | Help w One-itis neededwhat about waiting it out to see if they end up splitting but talking to others in the meantime? cuz i dont wanna ruin any chance i might have in the future. or is this a bad idea | /r/seduction | 11/03/14 02:31 PM |
| 2 | Paradox with Models by Mark Mansondo you think its needy if im expecting a certain reaction from a girl? manson states its needy unless the mindstate is "i want to get to know you" but if i say something looking to build attraction and expect it to is it always gonna turn out bad? | /r/seduction | 07/03/14 02:03 AM |
| 1 | Paradox with Models by Mark MansonIt's not necessarily evidence that makes me think I AM being needy, it's just I want to prevent it. And he states that vulnerability is the way to combat neediness because it shows "I don't care what you think of me, this is who I am". It just gets kinda contradicting and confusing when he says your INTENTIONS matter as well, but the whole point of reading the book is to be better with women in the first place. But he also suggests that thinking about being needy is being needy in itself. Haha. … | /r/seduction | 05/03/14 05:42 AM |
| 1 | Paradox with Models by Mark Mansonright. like i don't go around trying to make women like me but if it ever did come down to it where i'm talking to a girl and i'm being vulnerable because the book.. wouldn't it sub communicate that i'm being vulnerable jsut to sleep w her? i guess my identity investment in other ppl is too high. its hard to not give a fuck completely tho | /r/seduction | 04/03/14 10:34 PM |
| 1 | Paradox with Models by Mark Mansoni have. i actually f-closed from it. or i don't want to say just because the book it happened, but it happened. and it hasn't happened before. it's just when thinking about it, it fucks me up. like i dont want to come across as "needy" or sub communicate it w women. | /r/seduction | 04/03/14 10:31 PM |
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